Late bloomers
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Larry Gude
Strung Out
Ok, so, you just agreed with me, something is awry, you're saying he is crazy, yet still maintain he is mature and responsible? Do I have that right?
"FFM; Wanted; mature, responsible crazy person for possible LTR. Notarized diagnosis from your therapist(s) required..."
Pete
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Larry Gude
Strung Out
"crazy ex-wife/mommy hovering in the background."
Right there, that...I would run not walk!
See, that's the thing. Once the kids become adults, their relationship with both parents belongs to them and the two parents no longer need to be in contact. They can get along just peachy, or not, but they're no longer a part of each others' lives. I haven't spoken to my kids' dad in four years, since I called to tell him Riggs had been born. The last time I saw him was 7 years ago at our son's wedding.
It's rare that exes get along, especially when kids are in the picture. I'm not interested in being involved in that mess.
I'm making Easter Peeps-Infused Vodka
Now see, THAT is an appropriate way to enjoy your midlife crisis.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
I would give you check and mate there except, she and I being of the we got married and had kids in our mid 20's type. Not late 40's.
See the difference? Young and dumb and clueless is one excuse. Do the same thing at nearly 50 is not, in my view, mature nor responsible.
That said, he sounds great based on the brief description you gave so, unless you're planning on marrying the guy any time soon, you are certainly more than capable of enjoying the good now and steering clear of the rest.
The question is...can you? Will you?
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Now see, THAT is an appropriate way to enjoy your midlife crisis.
That is not a mid life crisis. That just a crisis.
Well, you certainly know this guy better than I do. And I said in my first post that I'm not going to be getting involved with him, so your objection is moot.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
This is when you're just annoying, when you do this pissy "I don't wanna hear what you have to say" bit.
Right after you throw it out there for discussion. 
Great, now I have to throw away my skinny jeans.
All your jeans are now skinny jeans, hot stuff.
This is when you're just annoying, when you do this pissy "I don't wanna hear what you have to say" bit.
Larry, stop. You're putting up objections to a guy I already found an objection to. I don't need to be talked into not dating him.
My objective in this thread was to discuss men in general who wait to have children, then are late-40somethings with tots in tow, trying to date women their own age. This particular man is merely the latest example; I have more in my bag of beaus.
sockgirl77
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For real. There are a LOT of them.
It could also be that, like freaks, I attract men with dependent children. Perhaps my Nebraska child-bearing hips makes them think I'm the mommy type.
MMDad
Lem Putt
sockgirl77
Well-Known Member
I know quite a few men that are in there 40s that have little ones. Most of their brides were 10+ years younger than them. I'd just suggest asking about the kid situation before you accept an offer for a date. :shrug:
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Larry, stop. You're putting up objections to a guy I already found an objection to. I don't need to be talked into not dating him.
I could care less. Wait! Now, I suddenly find that, in fact, it's true! I DO care even less!
It was just interesting for a moment and now you're doing that defensive thing you do so, I apologize, excuse me and forget I said a word about it. 
MMDad
Lem Putt
I thought her issue was the crazy ex, and not so much the kids. I don't know how you screen for that - she could appear normal until things get serious, then suddenly turn jealous and psycho. You, of all people, should know that inside every seemingly sane woman there is a psycho killer just waiting to be let out.
If the kids, and not the ex, are the real problem how would you feel if guys shunned you the same way?
