Man Records Final Fight with Wife & Uploads It

[Tilted]

I would be if I had to listen to that.... for myself

Fortunately he doesn't have to listen to that if he doesn't want to. He can pack his bags and be on his way. Might there be lingering consequences of his relationship with her - e.g. divorce proceedings, alimony, who knows what? Sure. But that's the price he pays for having made a bad choice in who to marry. That's how we evolve and improve, we pay prices for our mistakes - both individually and collectively as species - and then, hopefully, learn from them.

In olden times people might die for having made no bigger mistake than eating the wrong color berries. He should consider himself lucky. But to the extent and for as long as he chooses to remain in the relationship, he should avoid acting like a douchebag or people should judge him as such when he does so act.

I don't care how badly she acts, he's still a douchebag if he acts like a douchebag.

 

[Chris0nllyn]

Not if they are a gentleman they shouldn't.

Nice guys finish last.

 

[vraiblonde]

Threads like this are depressing and why I will never ever get married again.

 

[Larry Gude]

Nice guys finish last.

And sleep well. This guy has to live with this the rest of his life.

 

[Tilted]

I guess guys shouldn't post videos of their cheating ex's online either....for they may be considered a douche.

Typically the reason for doing stuff like that is to hurt the person you supposedly once loved (and possibly still do). I'd suggest that, if you've done the love thing more than once or twice and still don't get what it's all about well enough to be able to control your desire (understandable though it may be) to hurt those that you once loved with pettiness, then you've still got some work to do in understanding what the love thing means.

 

[Chris0nllyn]

Threads like this are depressing and why I will never ever get married again.

The chick in the video got married...

If she can do it, anyone can.

 

[vraiblonde]

And sleep well. This guy has to live with this the rest of his life.

While he laughed at her, taunted her, and encouraged it. That's the part that gets me.

 

[Chris0nllyn]

Typically the reason for doing stuff like that is to hurt the person you supposedly once loved (and possibly still do). I'd suggest that, if you've done the love thing more than once or twice and still don't get what it's all about well enough to be able to control your desire (understandable though it may be) to hurt those that you once loved with pettiness, then you've still got some work to do in understanding what the love thing means.

No one knows what the chick did before hand.

According to the article, she's no saint, and depending how long they've dated/married, the guy has probably put up with it, and played the nice guy role for ages.

He's fed up, I'm sure.

 

[Larry Gude]

While he laughed at her, taunted her, and encouraged it. That's the part that gets me.

Unforgivable.

 

[vraiblonde]

According to the article, she's no saint, and depending how long they've dated/married, the guy has probably put up with it, and played the nice guy role for ages.

They only interviewed him. Maybe she would offer a different perspective.

Regardless, the video shows him to be an immature douche. Nice guys don't record their wife's breakdown and post it on the internet. I'm surprised so few people see that. Or maybe not.

 

[Hank]

They should both be thrown in the gas chamber...

 

[Tilted]

No one knows what the chick did before hand.

According to the article, she's no saint, and depending how long they've dated/married, the guy has probably put up with it, and played the nice guy role for ages.

He's fed up, I'm sure.

I certainly don't know what all she did before. But regardless of what others do, you are responsible for what you do and how you behave. We respond to the actions of others, but our responses - e.g. how we choose to go about things - tells other people about us, not about the person we're responding to. There are all sorts of things this guy can do or could have done, regardless of what she did. Some of those things are douchie, some of them aren't - and that consideration doesn't necessarily depend on what she did.

But more to the point, I was responding to your post about the general act of posting videos of ex's that have cheated. I'm not suggesting that cheaters haven't done something wrong, I'm not suggesting that they don't deserve to pay a price for their actions. I'm suggesting that the point of posting videos of them is to hurt them. It isn't to fix the situation, it's to cause them pain because they caused you pain. And acting to cause someone you love (or loved) pain, for no other purpose than to cause them pain, is itself wrong. And it's inconsistent with the notion of loving someone. It evinces insecurity, not love. And though love is far too often accompanied by insecurity, love - the good kind, anyway - is not itself insecurity. And when it lets insecurity over power it, it reveals the weakness of its particular strain.

I've acted to hurt former loves in the past. But at some point I grew up. I would hope that people that, e.g., post videos of cheating lovers online, would eventually grow up. I don't expect it from most people, but I can still hope for it.

 

[Chris0nllyn]

They only interviewed him. Maybe she would offer a different perspective.

Regardless, the video shows him to be an immature douche. Nice guys don't record their wife's breakdown and post it on the internet. I'm surprised so few people see that. Or maybe not.

Or maybe she'll kick and scream until she gets her way....again?

 

[Chris0nllyn]

I certainly don't know what all she did before. But regardless of what others do, you are responsible for what you do and how you behave. We respond to the actions of others, but our responses - e.g. how we choose to go about things - tells other people about us, not about the person we're responding to. There are all sorts of things this guy can do or could have done, regardless of what she did. Some of those things are douchie, some of them aren't - and that consideration doesn't necessarily depend on what she did.

But more to the point, I was responding to your post about the general act of posting videos of ex's that have cheated. I'm not suggesting that cheaters haven't done something wrong, I'm not suggesting that they don't deserve to pay a price for their actions. I'm suggesting that the point of posting videos of them is to hurt them. It isn't to fix the situation, it's to cause them pain because they caused you pain. And acting to cause someone you love (or loved) pain, for no other purpose than to cause them pain, is itself wrong. And it's inconsistent with the notion of loving someone. It evinces insecurity, not love. And though love is far too often accompanied by insecurity, love - the good kind, anyway - is not itself insecurity. And when it lets insecurity over power it, it reveals the weakness of its particular strain.

I've acted to hurt former loves in the past. But at some point I grew up. I would hope that people that, e.g., post videos of cheating lovers online, would eventually grow up. I don't expect it from most people, but I can still hope for it.

I get what you're saying, and agree, for the most part.

I still think it's a bit of a stretch to call this guy a douchebag for recording his wife that has the attitude of a 2 year old.

Maybe THAT is what the wife needs to straighten herself out. Maybe her being blasted online for everyone to see is what she needs.

 

[vraiblonde]

Maybe THAT is what the wife needs to straighten herself out. Maybe her being blasted online for everyone to see is what she needs.

Or maybe she just feels incredibly betrayed by the man she married.

 

[Chris0nllyn]

Or maybe she just feels incredibly betrayed by the man she married.

Maybe she should have thought about her husband before showing up late and walking out of marriage counseling....before this video was even taken.

 

[vraiblonde]

Maybe she should have thought about her husband before showing up late and walking out of marriage counseling....before this video was even taken.

Well you clearly know all about her based on a three minute video and the statements of her ex-husband.

 

[Chris0nllyn]

Well you clearly know all about her based on a three minute video and the statements of her ex-husband.

And you know he's a douchebag....from where?

 

[Baja28]

You mean they aren't allowed to now? I don't have to do the dishes?

Git your bitch ass in the kitchen and make me some pie!

THEN wash the dishes.

 

[vraiblonde]

And you know he's a douchebag....from where?

From the video of him taunting her and laughing at her while she's melting down, and from him posting it on the internet.

You obviously do not see that as douchbag behavior. I do. Viva la difference.