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nitwhit3286
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It's about finding "the one" silly, that makes everything else fall by the wayside and you wanting to publically and forever proclaim it as so. Going that extra step and putting in that extra effort. Working for it. To go the extra distance and make an extra effort and make some serious promises to each other and mean it. To want to be there no matter what.
I think living together is not about being with "the one" it's about being with "this will do for now". Which is fine for some and for some that's all that they want. They don't want more, hence no further commitment or effort. No need for promises or plans or anything. If it's bothersome or becomes to much work - go on to the next no big deal, since that person wasn't really the one you wanted to be with for the rest of your life anyway. I've been there, I know. I always swore I would never get married.
Marriage's not about it being harder to break up. It's about not even thinking about a break up but what you're going to be like with no teeth in your head and how wonderful it is that you'll be in the nursing home together - no matter what. Get it? Okay probably a bad analogy, but there's a difference. I think it's the heart, the hope and the love.
Maybe all I have ever done was meet the wrong guys. Heck, I am probably married to the wrong guy now. But, I guess when you are young and 18 you aren't like yeah i wonder what it will be like when we're sixty. my marriage consisted of a justice of the peace. no wedding, no daddy and daughter dance. No wedding ring ( still to this day my ring finger is bare). It was rushed but then again I was pregnant at the time. I think we would have been good just the two of us, but once our daughter came into our lives it has gotten harder. lets face it I didn't really know him when I married him.. we met july and got married december of the same year. Foolish. I feel like I have paid my dues over the last 4 years. You know what i want?? One day, one day when I can get myself to that point where I can be myself again, I want to meet someone. He may not be absolutely gorgeous, he may not be the CEO of some large company with oodles of cash, he may even wear stained t-shirts out to dinner because well it was just a little spot that he wouldn't even notice so thats okay. I just want to meet someone that adores me for who I am. My silly crazy moments, my curl up on the bed and read with me moments, or lets just veg out on the couch moments. someone who looks at me a certain way, and touches my heart. To have the same aspirations and goals in life and accomplish them together. A man that knows how to handle his business and takes care of his family. I haven't found that person, that my heart beats for on the daily. I mean, yeah I'm married now..but more than likely won't last. WE try and try and try. To no avail. As soon as things are starting to look up they roll back downhill. Maybe I'll never find that person that other people say completes them. I would like to think I would. Maybe, one day.