I think you totally whiffed that point. He was saying that it's amusing and perhaps momentarily flattering to think that this fictional "woman" would be interested in him. Now ask him how many of them he responded to.
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I think you totally whiffed that point. He was saying that it's amusing and perhaps momentarily flattering to think that this fictional "woman" would be interested in him. Now ask him how many of them he responded to.
Misfit
Lawful neutral
When did porn and a relationship become mutually exclusive? I missed that memo!
It didn't. Folk's were talking about failed dates and the hassle of it all. My suggestion is to not do it and use the internet for what it was intended for "porn".
I also have to point out that Pete's SO is about as fabulous as a woman gets, in all areas. Not just cute, but beautiful; smart; more than gainfully employed; fun; kind; his age; great sense of humor; responsible. And he met her in the dirt world, not online.
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Baja28
Obama destroyed America
How dare you!!!This is a hoot! Have either one of you considered that there's a bunch of chicks out there talking about you two as these self deluded creeps suffering midlife crisis's whose profiles are, shall we say, somewhat embellished? Or, are you two the only Honest Ijnins and everyone else is a liar? Any hint that maybe, just maybe, part of the problem is in how you are going about it???
Of course we're honest. Even say so in our profiles!
I actually am honest. I mean do people actually think you won't notice a glaring difference in appearance when you meet in person?
And always get a recent full body shot....
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Larry Gude
Strung Out
Gotcha.
I was thinking that, instead of the rest of the world being idiots and liars, they may want to examine their own approach. In my experience, most of the ladies I met were at least in the ballpark albeit a few embellishments here and there. Several were as advertised and Vrail undersold herself while at the same time hitting her profile dead on. She is way better looking than the Trailer Park Barbie pic she used and to this day she likes to tell everyone when we met I was disappointed when, in fact, I was speechless.
In any event, I think it is like anything else; it is what you make of it and if your results are WAY off, it might not be just the other guy or gal.
Baja28
Obama destroyed America
I better contact them at once because I never received your wink or email.I've seen your Match profile and can attest that you present yourself accurately.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
How dare you!!!
Of course we're honest. Even say so in our profiles!
I actually am honest. I mean do people actually think you won't notice a glaring difference in appearance when you meet in person?
And always get a recent full body shot....
They say a photo is worth a thousand pounds...err...words.
Come on, if you're expecting 150 and get 250 and it's deal breaker, you simply ain't doing enough groundwork, also know as being direct, asking questions, before you head off to the marina...err...date meeting place.
On top of that, what if the girl of all your dreams, I mean everything, just happens to be overweight? Maybe you, being the man of her dreams, simply needs you in her life to be motivated to care enough to take good care of herself and, a year or two later, she is in great shape? Because of you?
Weight is one thing. You, she, can't fix personality, preferences, views on money, sex, religion, family, etc. If you can't fix stupid, you also can't fix someone who is ugly on the inside no matter how hot she is on the outside and that goes both ways.
Radiant1
Soul Probe
My family LOVES my boyfriend and several times I was asked, "Where'd you find him?" My response, "On the internet!"
I had a profile on a dating site. Although I'm only average in looks I got a lot of e-mails. My pics were current, my profile honest and creative. I told a story of sorts instead of the usual I like blah blah and I do blah blah. Sure, I had some losers who contacted me, but nobody who was just looking for a hookup or wanted to see T&A pics or anything like that. I was picky about who I'd meet, and all in all the few I did meet were decent guys, just not for me. In fact, I have a lasting friendship with one of them and his new wife as well.
I'm an introvert. I don't do well in social settings with people I've never talked to before. Although I can pull off the social chit chat, I detest doing it. Talking to people online and then moving to phone made me more comfortable before meeting someone in person. By the time I would meet them we had already gotten beyond the social chatty stuff, and we'd know more about each other to carry on a decent convo. Online works for some and not others. :shrug:
Ed Zachary!
^^ That.
I had a profile on a dating site. Although I'm only average in looks I got a lot of e-mails. My pics were current, my profile honest and creative. I told a story of sorts instead of the usual I like blah blah and I do blah blah. Sure, I had some losers who contacted me, but nobody who was just looking for a hookup or wanted to see T&A pics or anything like that. I was picky about who I'd meet, and all in all the few I did meet were decent guys, just not for me. In fact, I have a lasting friendship with one of them and his new wife as well.
I'm an introvert. I don't do well in social settings with people I've never talked to before. Although I can pull off the social chit chat, I detest doing it. Talking to people online and then moving to phone made me more comfortable before meeting someone in person. By the time I would meet them we had already gotten beyond the social chatty stuff, and we'd know more about each other to carry on a decent convo. Online works for some and not others. :shrug:
Ed Zachary!
^^ That.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
I've seen your Match profile and can attest that you present yourself accurately.
Now, see, that is helpful. So, is it his approach? Or, is it simply the rest of the world is lying?
Larry Gude
Strung Out
See, to me that says Pete does a better job, is more himself and more comfortable in the real world and isn't comfortable interacting online, e mail and all that. Good for a person to know about themselves.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
All of them?
As I say, there's nothing wrong with him finding that flattering. To me, it's not and I explained why.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Ok, but, by definition, there then should be a male and female version of, as you so eloquently put it, Snaggletooth hillbilly butt picker, who meet and find attraction right away because they have the same personality traits. "Hey, let's grab a 30 pac go watch some NASCAR, maybe roll around in some jello and start being happily miserable together instead of this date stuff we both don't like"
However, the handful of online dates I went on before I met you - I think there was one guy who was as advertised, and we didn't even hit it off. I weeded out the blatant mental cases by email, then had a date with a guy who was clearly married, one who was my grandfather's age, and one who started our date by telling me that his wife had just left him for another woman.
You know first hand that I didn't lie, and neither did you, but there are an awful lot of liars out there.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
However, the handful of online dates I went on before I met you - I think there was one guy who was as advertised, and we didn't even hit it off. I weeded out the blatant mental cases by email, then had a date with a guy who was clearly married, one who was my grandfather's age, and one who started our date by telling me that his wife had just left him for another woman.
You know first hand that I didn't lie, and neither did you, but there are an awful lot of liars out there.
However, one thing we haven't consider here yet is that I got a handful of responses. You got, what, 200? A day? To wade through. Women face the daunting challenge of shear volume, yes? You may have missed your Mr. Perfect(s) because he, they, on line, couldn't express himself all that well, perhaps his only shortcoming, when, in real life, he has it ALL except that.
And you did lie. That was NOT your hair do!
They don't want a fellow hillbilly, they want a supermodel. Most people overestimate their attractiveness and personality and think they can do better than themselves.
But what if I'd said, "I'm actually cuter in person than in my photos"? "This picture makes me look fat." "Dont jug my inelligense by my bad grammer, mispellings and poor punkuashum, I are smort!"And you did lie. That was NOT your hair do!
What guy in his right mind (note: that is a criteria for me) would hit on that?
Baja28
Obama destroyed America
I'm ok with "curvy". After all a man needs a place to put his hands but when they are the size of a weather satellite, that's a whole new game.
They say a photo is worth a thousand pounds...err...words.
Come on, if you're expecting 150 and get 250 and it's deal breaker, you simply ain't doing enough groundwork, also know as being direct, asking questions, before you head off to the marina...err...date meeting place.
On top of that, what if the girl of all your dreams, I mean everything, just happens to be overweight? Maybe you, being the man of her dreams, simply needs you in her life to be motivated to care enough to take good care of herself and, a year or two later, she is in great shape? Because of you?
Weight is one thing. You, she, can't fix personality, preferences, views on money, sex, religion, family, etc. If you can't fix stupid, you also can't fix someone who is ugly on the inside no matter how hot she is on the outside and that goes both ways.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
You did. You arrogantly, and, well, correctly, stated as a matter of fact that you were cute enough for the both of us and told me, in no uncertain terms, that I actually could be fairly ugly when we finally met because I made you laugh and seemed relatively familiar with English as a first language.
