Name Changin'

[persimmoncf]

See this is where I struggle. I still have my ex-husband's last name and obviously my kids have his last name. So if I took my current husbands' name then I would have a different last name from the kids and I don't want that (nor do they)...but it wouldn't be right to my husband to keep my ex-husband's name.

I often thought of changing the kids and my last name back to my maiden name, but the kids don't want to do that - they want to keep the last name they have (too difficult they think with school, friends, records, etc.)

So then I thought of taking back my maiden name and changing their name to include a second middle name of my maiden name and then they keep their current last name. That way I could hyphenate my maiden name with my hubby's and I'd still be linked by name to the kids.

Hey Julz. Life doesnt need to be so complicated and your kids should be minimally affected by us adults changing relationships.

My thought...Leave the kids out of it. Thier names stay intact.
Keep the name you have now that identifies you with your children.
Tell your man to pull on his big boy panties and deal with it. He shouldnt care what name you carry...infact he should be behind your wishes to take care of your kids emotions and attachments.

Just my humble opinion

 

[VenusDoom]

Does your kid call Spock, Daddy?

No, he calls him .

 

[Cowgirl]

Hey Julz. Life doesnt need to be so complicated and your kids should be minimally affected by us adults changing relationships.

My thought...Leave the kids out of it. Thier names stay intact.
Keep the name you have now that identifies you with your children.
Tell your man to pull on his big boy panties and deal with it. He shouldnt care what name you carry...infact he should be behind your wishes to take care of your kids emotions and attachments.

Just my humble opinion

Or maybe she can hyphenate her last name with new hubby's name. So, if her kids last name is Smith, and new hubby is Jones, then she can be Mrs. Smith-Jones so that way she has connections to her kids and her new hubby.

 

[K_Jo]

See this is where I struggle. I still have my ex-husband's last name and obviously my kids have his last name. So if I took my current husbands' name then I would have a different last name from the kids and I don't want that (nor do they)...but it wouldn't be right to my husband to keep my ex-husband's name.

I often thought of changing the kids and my last name back to my maiden name, but the kids don't want to do that - they want to keep the last name they have (too difficult they think with school, friends, records, etc.)

So then I thought of taking back my maiden name and changing their name to include a second middle name of my maiden name and then they keep their current last name. That way I could hyphenate my maiden name with my hubby's and I'd still be linked by name to the kids.

 

[kwillia]

Julz Black-Francis not working for you? :shrug:

 

[SoMDGirl42]

Julz Black-Francis not working for you? :shrug:

I thought it was Julz Ass-hat

 

[Black-Francis]

Julz Black-Francis not working for you? :shrug:

 

[K_Jo]

Julz Black-Francis not working for you? :shrug:

I now think a weekly forum update newsletter would be a really good idea.

 

[K_Jo]

I thought it was Julz Ass-hat

Joke, people. Joke.

 

[Black-Francis]

I am Azz-Hole, not Azz-Hat....

 

[SoMDGirl42]

all this is too confusing. Can she just do like Prince and pick a symbol?

 

[K_Jo]

I am Azz-Hole, not Azz-Hat....

There's only one Azzhat.

 

[SoMDGirl42]

There's only one Azzhat.

now I'm more confused, cuz that was the Azzhat I was referring to.

Julz~

Pick a symbol

 

[kwillia]

all this is too confusing. Can she just do like Prince and pick a symbol?

I wish they'd let us use symbols for personalized license plates.. my request for "# SAND" was rejected...

 

[SoMDGirl42]

I wish they'd let us use symbols for personalized license plates.. my request for "# SAND" was rejected...

was "lb sand" taken?

 

[JULZ]

Hey Julz. Life doesnt need to be so complicated and your kids should be minimally affected by us adults changing relationships.

My thought...Leave the kids out of it. Thier names stay intact.
Keep the name you have now that identifies you with your children.
Tell your man to pull on his big boy panties and deal with it. He shouldnt care what name you carry...infact he should be behind your wishes to take care of your kids emotions and attachments.

Just my humble opinion

Good advice.

Or maybe she can hyphenate her last name with new hubby's name. So, if her kids last name is Smith, and new hubby is Jones, then she can be Mrs. Smith-Jones so that way she has connections to her kids and her new hubby.

Thought of that too, it just seems weird to keep my ex husband's last name.

Julz Black-Francis not working for you? :shrug:

I thought it was Julz Ass-hat

There's only 1 asshat

all this is too confusing. Can she just do like Prince and pick a symbol?

How about my middle finger as my symbol :shrug:

There's only one Azzhat.

Great minds!

 

[K_Jo]

False alarm!

 

[K_Jo]

How about my middle finger as my symbol :shrug:

Love it!

 

[JULZ]

False alarm!

 

[sockgirl77]

There's only one Azzhat.

And only one Kazzhole.