Off to a great start...
- Thread starter Larry Gude
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Larry Gude
Strung Out
First date just ended. I'm ####ing exhausted. Date #2 theme; Getting back my favorite sweats.
This tread is hereby closed due to obsolescence.
Oh, hell yeah.
This tread is hereby closed due to obsolescence.
Oh, hell yeah.
D'ja bang her?
Are you curious if she banged him better than you banged him?
Hank
my war
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Yup.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
When you've been on Everest together, you never have to ask about other mountains that may have followed...speaking for myself of course.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Larry wants to close the discussion now that the good part starts.
Figures.
I only meant in terms of the original purpose. Last night consummated my views on chemistry; either is or is not and I have no idea how to intelligent quantify or qualify that.
Just finished band practice and I am out on my feet.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
My biz partner is howling at me, totally amused, because he's the only one who knows, besides the rest of the internet, and he's just busting me out for the improvement in my demeanor and body language. Walks in to practice at a break "So, how's Larry playing today, boys?' 
#######. Love the guy!
#######. Love the guy!
Hank
my war
Stud
Larry Gude
Strung Out
OK folks, opposites??? She and I could not be more opposite. I suppose we could but, it would be hard.
She is neat and tidy. Likes nice things. Is not a procrastinator. Is not much of a drinker. Is an achiever. Very accomplished. Been around the world. Lots of been there, done that and I scare the #### out of her because she's never hit it off with anyone like this in her life and she says she shouldn't like ANYTHING about me. Very blunt about it, too.
I'm a lazy bum redneck beer swilling, procrastinating, disorganized slob. And I am thoroughly enjoying our differences. I've reached a point where a lot of, if not all, of my insecurities are gone. I no longer need to be THE man. I know longer need to be RIGHT. I no longer need to be THE BOSS.
The business transition has a lot to do with it, my partner and the enormous skill set he brings. Getting a GM in place who really gives a #### and is taking over her role. My age, the demise of the last relationship where I was THE everything and she was imply overwhelmed with the intellectual differences, constantly feeling inferior and me reaching a point where I could trying to manage that and simply realized I wanted, needed, more.
This chick is so much smarter than me it's off the scale. Bossy as all hell and she's clear how EVERYTHING would have to change were we to have any sort of future. Well, not everything. She likes and is attracted to the basic me, just not the lazy slob part who is comfortable with the mess. I'm not. Not really. Just not motivated enough to change it. Rather go for a ride, play guitar.
To the point, I know I am ready to live more of a supportive role and not be THE MAN and she's terrified that I won't be able to handle her, at all. So, we're discussing conflict resolution, how we'd handle potential disagreements. Maid is an easy solution for part of it. She has no problem being the 'reminder' person. I NEED that.
So, will I chafe over time? Will she get sick of me being lazy? Or, is this opposite a perfect fit? She needs my chill out. Some of it, not all of it. I need her structure, some of it. Not all of it.
In the mean time, I'm getting all the stimulation I crave, intellectually, physically. And I don't fear my inferiority because I'm not focused on my shortcomings. I'm focused on just me and the strengths I have.
None of this is in search of answers any time soon but, me being me, I think about this stuff and I'm crazy about her. She being her, she absolutely thinks about this stuff and she keeps asking if it's supposed to be this easy, so comfortable and I say why not? She says this is either going to be incredible or a disaster.
What do y'all think about nearly absolute opposites?
She is neat and tidy. Likes nice things. Is not a procrastinator. Is not much of a drinker. Is an achiever. Very accomplished. Been around the world. Lots of been there, done that and I scare the #### out of her because she's never hit it off with anyone like this in her life and she says she shouldn't like ANYTHING about me. Very blunt about it, too.
I'm a lazy bum redneck beer swilling, procrastinating, disorganized slob. And I am thoroughly enjoying our differences. I've reached a point where a lot of, if not all, of my insecurities are gone. I no longer need to be THE man. I know longer need to be RIGHT. I no longer need to be THE BOSS.
The business transition has a lot to do with it, my partner and the enormous skill set he brings. Getting a GM in place who really gives a #### and is taking over her role. My age, the demise of the last relationship where I was THE everything and she was imply overwhelmed with the intellectual differences, constantly feeling inferior and me reaching a point where I could trying to manage that and simply realized I wanted, needed, more.
This chick is so much smarter than me it's off the scale. Bossy as all hell and she's clear how EVERYTHING would have to change were we to have any sort of future. Well, not everything. She likes and is attracted to the basic me, just not the lazy slob part who is comfortable with the mess. I'm not. Not really. Just not motivated enough to change it. Rather go for a ride, play guitar.
To the point, I know I am ready to live more of a supportive role and not be THE MAN and she's terrified that I won't be able to handle her, at all. So, we're discussing conflict resolution, how we'd handle potential disagreements. Maid is an easy solution for part of it. She has no problem being the 'reminder' person. I NEED that.
So, will I chafe over time? Will she get sick of me being lazy? Or, is this opposite a perfect fit? She needs my chill out. Some of it, not all of it. I need her structure, some of it. Not all of it.
In the mean time, I'm getting all the stimulation I crave, intellectually, physically. And I don't fear my inferiority because I'm not focused on my shortcomings. I'm focused on just me and the strengths I have.
None of this is in search of answers any time soon but, me being me, I think about this stuff and I'm crazy about her. She being her, she absolutely thinks about this stuff and she keeps asking if it's supposed to be this easy, so comfortable and I say why not? She says this is either going to be incredible or a disaster.
What do y'all think about nearly absolute opposites?
kwillia
n/a
I'm most definitely married to my about nearly absolute opposite. It was his YIN to my YANG that I found most attractive well before we even began dating. It's also his YIN to my YANG that keeps us off balance enough after 24 plus years to keep working at it and to keep realizing that I wouldn't be where I was today if I didn't have a polar opposite pulling me out of my comfort zone and vice versa.What do y'all think about nearly absolute opposites?
Don't over think it, Larry. Just go with the flow and stop trying to over-analyze.
lucky_bee
RBF expert
What do y'all think about nearly absolute opposites?
I think it's all about the expectations you have for each other. I, for one, prefer to date my opposite. I'm usually fairly shy, yet kind of bossy and a little type A. I've found I enjoy myself more being around a guy who's outgoing and easily goes with the flow; someone that breaks me outta my shell - bc I'm most definitely outgoing when I'm around the right people, and someone that allows me to plan the heck outta things with all my lists and research but makes me relax at the same time. I feel like most people enter a relationship with certain thoughts in their head about how they wish their partner was, for example, cleaner around the house, or not such a lousy drunk. But it'd be unfair to start that relationship with a goal to completely change them without bettering them. I've had a couple extra messy BF's...instead of controlling exactly how they'd clean, I'd just be happy they actually loaded the dishwasher instead of bitching about HOW they loaded it. Instead of insisting he quit drinking, we worked on him coming to the realization he didn't have to be plowed to have a good time. It's all how you approach those things that you wish your new SO would do differently.
The things I've left for bc I got sick of them was usually for lack of respect. And that could come in the form of infidelity or being controlled or no respect for my own time/schedule, etc. Not bc I got tired of picking up his socks.
Yes
Yes
Perhaps
She sounds like *my* perfect match actually.
But a couple of things:You need a smart, successful woman in your life - some dummy isn't going to cut it. How well you step up to the plate is up to you. How threatened you feel by a woman who is superior to you in some ways is something you can control and manage.
Second, Monello and I are very much opposites in a lot of ways. He is strong in areas where I am weak, and vice versa. What we do have is a basic respect and compatibility. I see and appreciate what he brings to the table, and we remind each other all the time how lucky we are to have found each other. It's sickening, really. And when we occasionally forget what the other one brings, we remind each other.
I'll tell you honestly that I was fairly confused by your last relationship and couldn't figure out WTF you were looking at. Then it was pointed out to me by someone who knows you that, in that relationship, YOU were the rock star. The smart one. The successful one. THE MAN. And that's great, but I know you well enough to know that you need a woman who is your equal and that being THE MAN starts getting tedious after awhile.
You, Larry, do not have to be everything in the relationship. She can be some things, too. So just keep that in your mind, take the pressure off yourself, appreciate what she brings and don't think you have to bring that as well - just bring your own skills and do what you're good at, instead of trying to do what she's good at as well.
Does that make sense?
I think going into a new relationship you have to consider the fact that it could be incredible. Otherwise why bother. The disaster part only reveals itself later if at all. There is a Tennyson quote in there somewhere.
Yes
Yes
Perhaps
She sounds like *my* perfect match actually.
You need a smart, successful woman in your life - some dummy isn't going to cut it. How well you step up to the plate is up to you. How threatened you feel by a woman who is superior to you in some ways is something you can control and manage.
Second, Monello and I are very much opposites in a lot of ways. He is strong in areas where I am weak, and vice versa. What we do have is a basic respect and compatibility. I see and appreciate what he brings to the table, and we remind each other all the time how lucky we are to have found each other. It's sickening, really. And when we occasionally forget what the other one brings, we remind each other.
I'll tell you honestly that I was fairly confused by your last relationship and couldn't figure out WTF you were looking at. Then it was pointed out to me by someone who knows you that, in that relationship, YOU were the rock star. The smart one. The successful one. THE MAN. And that's great, but I know you well enough to know that you need a woman who is your equal and that being THE MAN starts getting tedious after awhile.
You, Larry, do not have to be everything in the relationship. She can be some things, too. So just keep that in your mind, take the pressure off yourself, appreciate what she brings and don't think you have to bring that as well - just bring your own skills and do what you're good at, instead of trying to do what she's good at as well.
Does that make sense?
