HOLY ####!!!
Q: What is the group interested in today?
A: Duh
Now, to SPEAK for myself, dahling, here is my position:
Dr. L led this woman to fessing up (which is why she called in the first place, to get Laura to get her to take that first shaky step towards taking responsibility for her own actions) that she was the one, through her actions based on her mindset, that was causing all the problems.
She said "we're 'losing' intimacy"
Laura said 'cutting him off to punish him for what you did, huh?'
She said 'yep' with that kinda guilty giggle that says 'you got me'
Laura was merely pointing out that one of the problems with having a head problem, rescuer syndrom they agreed in this case, was that not only do you hurt other people in the process but you hurt yourself.
He's done nothing wrong and YOU aren't getting any??? Does not compute. Head problem. Simple.
Couple of anecdotes to buttress the point:
"When I'm pizzed at Larry about something, he's definitely not getting any"
Thank you baby! She ain't pizzed at him in our example. She's pizzed at herself and he is screwed (or not) because his fault in this is simply in existing.
Also, let's not be giving our boys in Iraq all this credit to say they are getting hitched just to stir up trouble. 5 will get you 10 that they think they are in love and the women just want to get to the US by any means necessary. Not all, but most.
Women THINK better about relationships than men for the most
part.
Can I get an amen???
The woman in our Dr. Laura case grew up a certain way and now thought "Oh, I can SAVE these poor children and straighten this man out who needs me so!". Then, the check comes due. The reality check. He thought she meant it. So did she.
The Iraqi babes are going down the same path. Careful what you wish for.
Thinking better doesn't always mean thinking smarter.
Can I get an amen?
Now, in a 'normal' relationship, yeah, there are times that he or she is more interested in being pizzed than making up. I acknowledge that and I do not put it in the same category with this woman who needs and is seeking some help.
That said, men tend to have a favored way of 'making up'. Sort of a 'if you intend to swim through life together you should get wet' thought process.
Can I get an amen?
Women, God bless every one of you, sometimes want us to un-do what we did to pizz you off.
This guy CAN'T. The rest of us would love to, but, let's go swimming first!
Amen.