Sexless relationships

[dems4me]

Originally posted by CMC122
Please note that I don't have this problem in my relationship I was just wondering how most people felt about it, if it were to happen to them

Yeah we know -- its all hypothetically speaking

 

[jazz lady]

Originally posted by Pete
what communication can't a divorce can.

Not necessarily. A lot of people just trade one set of problems for another.

(Yes, I edited my spelling goof that everyone quoted. )

 

[Pete]

Originally posted by jazz lady
Not necessisarily. A lot of people just trade one set of problems for another.

Lets see, no sex, no communication, you are right, roommates cannot file married filing joint.

 

[justhangn]

Originally posted by jazz lady
Not necessisarily. A lot of people just trade one set of problems for another.

Out of the kettle and into the fire....

 

[crabcake]

Originally posted by jazz lady
Not necessisarily. A lot of people just trade one set of problems for another.

ain't DAT the troof!

I read an article not long ago written by some chic who ditched her hubby and kids for what she thought was "greener grass". I'll see if I can dig it up; might be a worthwhile read for cmc's psychology project/couple.

oh, and I captured the jazzinator mispelling 'necessisarily'

 

[Pete]

Only if you are silly enough to jump form one to the next. Being alone and independent for a period isn't "a new set of problems".

 

[jazz lady]

Originally posted by crabcake
oh, and I captured the jazzinator mispelling 'necessisarily'

I was just changing that. Please see my comments. I knew it didn't look right.

 

[dems4me]

Originally posted by crabcake
ain't DAT the troof!

'necessisarily'

maybe we should make that the word of the day :shrug: or maybe not necessiarily so :shrug:

 

[jazz lady]

Originally posted by Pete
Only if you are silly enough to jump form one to the next. Being alone and independent for a period isn't "a new set of problems".

I was thinking more about the divorce process itself. Fighting over child custody, property division, and the other nastiness that oftentimes happens along the way. Also for the ones with kids - the on-going custody and visitation battles. My friend has been divorced for three years and remarried for over a year and STILL has frequent battles with the ex over their son. BTW - a significant portion of their problem was sex. She wasn't getting enough and he was getting it on the side.

 

[Kain99]

Originally posted by jazz lady
I was thinking more about the divorce process itself. Fighting over child custody, property division, and the other nastiness that oftentimes happens along the way.

By the time couples reach the point of no return, they know each other pretty well. If you happen to be married to a vindictive hateful sort... leaving can be terrifying.

 

[sleuth]

I don't claim to be an expert, but it seems to me that barring a health issue that keeps you from having sex, there ought to be sex in a marriage, not necessarily a relationship.

Sex is a way of verifying and expressing love, or at least attraction, to your partner. If you ain't doin' it because one or both doesn't want to, that seems to me that either the attraction or the love is missing, and that kind of rejection from their own spouse over a long period of time can seriously damage a person's self-image. If you truly love your partner, you wouldn't intentionally or knowingly subject them to that kind of psychological harm.

 

[Wenchy]

Originally posted by sleuth
I don't claim to be an expert, but it seems to me that barring a health issue that keeps you from having sex, there ought to be sex in a marriage, not necessarily a relationship.

I would have quoted the rest Sleuth, but right on!

 

[czygvtwkr]

Let me pose this question to y'all

What if your in a relationship where you know you love the other person but are not attracted to them?

 

[RoseRed]

Originally posted by czygvtwkr
Let me pose this question to y'all

What if your in a relationship where you know you love the other person but are not attracted to them?

Then move on, unless you want to be a monk and never have nookie again.

 

[Ponytail]

Originally posted by czygvtwkr
Let me pose this question to y'all

What if your in a relationship where you know you love the other person but are not attracted to them?

"You can love your pets. You just can't LOVE your pets. K?"

 

[RoseRed]

Originally posted by Ponytail
"You can love your pets. You just can't LOVE your pets. K?"

Didn't you mention getting a sheep?

 

[Ponytail]

Originally posted by RoseRed
Didn't you mention getting a sheep?

 

[RoseRed]

Originally posted by Ponytail

So then you get a goat and he eats your yard for you. Problem solved!

 

[Ponytail]

Originally posted by RoseRed
So then you get a goat and he eats your yard for you. Problem solved!

I certainly wouldn't trust it to "mow my lawn".

 

[Kain99]

Originally posted by czygvtwkr
Let me pose this question to y'all

What if your in a relationship where you know you love the other person but are not attracted to them?

That's like loving a child. No way, that the passion will ever exist. Without passionate moments there is no marriage... right?