Misfit
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Professionals, more than just one, they used to get a table together. I don't know if it still happens but it soured me on that gig.
Should I feel guilty for hating Christmas?
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Professionals, more than just one, they used to get a table together. I don't know if it still happens but it soured me on that gig.
itsbob
I bowl overhand
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itsbob
I bowl overhand
And let me plug my Christmas charity recipient, Fisher House.The money that I've never spent buying crazy expensive junk for my kids and friends, that's where it goes.
St Judes...
MMDad
Lem Putt
A lot of people believe that you have to be all-in for Christmas. If you don't hang lights, don't have the biggest tree, don't send cards, etc. you aren't doing it right. That's why I used to hate it. But now I only do the parts I want and it's much more enjoyable.
I only bought presents for my kids, our dog, and my dad. I don't expect much in return, and will not be disappointed.
We don't go to a bunch of events to listen to crappy music we don't really enjoy. But we will go to Tubachristmas in Solomons on Sunday.
I don't do the "traditional" Christmas dinner - I let the kids choose their favorites and will cook a meal that makes us happy.
It's a balance thing. Pick the parts you want to do, skip the rest, and ignore anyone who thinks you aren't doing it right.
They should be ashamed of themselves.
Christy
b*tch rocket
Well if it is any consolation Scrooge McBadGirl, the Christmas ornament you gave me many years ago as a gift still brings me joy every single year.
I don't think anyone should feel bad for hating Christmas, but it makes me sad that people do, because it always makes me so happy. I don't ever remember having a bad Christmas, no matter how bad things were in my life at any given time, Christmas was just a time to forget about it all and have hope for the future. I've always felt that Christmas, whether you are Christian or not, represents hope, rebirth and a sense that anything is possible. I mean you look at a newborn, and to me, that's a clean slate right there. It is pure and full of great potential. I think every year we should view our own lives in that sense. JMHO. :shrug:
Just like that
On Christmas Eve and when we put up the tree, we had "junk food" dinner. We'd go to the store and each kid could pick one or two junk foods, then we'd put it all out and eat buffet style. Cookies, chips, smokies, squeeze cheese, frozen snackies - whatever they thought sounded good. It was always fun.
Roman
Active Member
Even as a Child, I didn't care for Christmas. It was a depressing time of year, especially for my Mother. She was the only child, and we lived far from her Mother. I remember her Mother (my Grandmother) calling on Christmas day, speaking to each of us to find out what my Dad's parents got us. She'd revel in the thought that she got us the "best" gifts. Even as a child, I hated that. I even remember arguments about that. If there was a favorite part of Christmas for me, it was the tree, and the snow. That's about it.
As an adult, my Husband worked seven days a week, up to 16 hours a day providing for the family. I was a Student, and didn't work outside the home. I did everything from putting up the tree, to shopping & wrapping, as well as the cooking. We had two Children, so I made the best ever effort to make Christmas very special for them. I was a great actress, and both our Children LOVE Christmas, and carry on some of the traditions that I made as time went along. I'm proud of that. Now that they are grown, and out of the house, I no longer decorate. To me Christmas is a big lie. Though I am not a religious person, Jesus was not born December 25. From what I know, he was born in June. Forgive me if I'm wrong. We teach our Children not to lie, but it's OK for us to lie about there being a Santa, who brings gifts to all the good little boys & girls.? I find that disgusting. There were times we couldn't afford to buy the kids what they wanted, and it broke our hearts. So forgive my bahumbug attitude. My true celebration is when it's all over.
As an adult, my Husband worked seven days a week, up to 16 hours a day providing for the family. I was a Student, and didn't work outside the home. I did everything from putting up the tree, to shopping & wrapping, as well as the cooking. We had two Children, so I made the best ever effort to make Christmas very special for them. I was a great actress, and both our Children LOVE Christmas, and carry on some of the traditions that I made as time went along. I'm proud of that. Now that they are grown, and out of the house, I no longer decorate. To me Christmas is a big lie. Though I am not a religious person, Jesus was not born December 25. From what I know, he was born in June. Forgive me if I'm wrong. We teach our Children not to lie, but it's OK for us to lie about there being a Santa, who brings gifts to all the good little boys & girls.? I find that disgusting. There were times we couldn't afford to buy the kids what they wanted, and it broke our hearts. So forgive my bahumbug attitude. My true celebration is when it's all over.
Think about it: who would have dinner at a soup kitchen if they had friends and family they could be with? I'd more feel sympathy for them and be pleased that they were able to come be with other people for Christmas dinner.
When my first husband was in the Army a group of us used to have Orphan Christmas (and Thanksgiving). All the peeps in the barracks were invited and we'd make a huge feast at whoever had the biggest home. The guys would put up flyers and spread the word. The base started kicking in food, so we'd get a sack of potatoes and a turkey, some stuffing mix, canned veggies and like that to offset the cost of feeding everyone. It was pretty cool.
kwillia
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I'll be 110% honest with you, now that my kids have reached young adulthood they've both informed me their cherished Christmas memories are not at all about any gift they ever received, but rather the time spent together. It was a big eye opener to hear them say that and I had to stop and realize that when I think back about my Christmases past it's not the gifts I'm thinking about either.
I admit it's been since this epiphany two Christmases ago that I've truly embraced the winter holiday season and now it's something I look forward to and cherish without the stresses I've always put on myself in the past.
Misfit
Lawful neutral
Sorry, I should have been clearer. I volunteered M-F daily during my lunch hour for a year .
BadGirl
I am so very blessed
You are much nicer than I was giving you credit for.
itsbob
I bowl overhand
That's the perception they want to make, but isn't it also the highest rate of suicide time of year?
If you're single, have no family (local anyways) I can imagine this time of year sucks out loud.
I have been single and had no local family for the last 7 years, and the holidays have never sucked for me.
Roman
Active Member
When I was a Paramedic, suicides were prevalent from October, until about mid-January.
MMDad
Lem Putt
If your family sucks, not being local is a good thing. I haven't spent Christmas with my mom since 1990, and it is much more pleasant this way.
Part of the depression is supposedly due to the short days, with the shortest being just 3-5 days before Christmas. I think the other huge part is people not being able to live up to their own expectations or being disappointed in the people around them.
Amused_despair
New Member
When I was in the Navy I remember training that said that January and February were worse months for suicide and depression than December.
Misfit
Lawful neutral
Thank you for my b-a-n-a-n-a.
