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Queenofdenile1

Love is Blind
shiki said:
it's true. I am looking at myself. But before I just threw away my family I wanted to make sure I was not just imagining it. I just wanted him to tell me the truth.



yep and still telling me he loved me.
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I won't be as hateful to you as you were to me.

You may never get the truth. Don't be his doormat. Have dignity about yourself and don't let him take advantage of you. I understand it will hurt like hell and there will be days when you love him and hate him at the same time. It's like a bad addiction, sometimes you will get a craving but eventually it subsides. You need to look out for you because obviously he isn't. Has he left yet? If he hasn't, pack his crap up and put it out in the yard. Mean business!!! If HE WANTS a divorce, HELP HIM AND KICK HIM OUT!!!
 
baydoll

baydoll

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Shiki I know what you are going through Hon, it sucks but it will get better, I promise you. I got the same exact 'Speech' from my hubby seven or so years ago. Hubby told me, 'No, there is no one else involved (yeah right) blah blah blah.'

I am in a SO MUCH better place right now without his sorry butt dragging me down I cannot begin to tell you. My life is TONS better without him. I LOVE LOVE LOVE being single! :yahoo:

If you don't mind my asking, how old is your husband, btw? He might be the early stages of the dreaded cough-cough Midlife Crisis disease.

I have some info to send via PM if you want it.
 
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Hey! I think I know you....anywho.....you can refuse to divorce him. If nothing crazy's going on (abuse,weird animal sacrifices ect.) Love is different for Men (sorry for letting that secret out) I've had my wife ask for a divorce and I just said "No". (much like her answer to sex).....that's a joke....kind of.....The issues come and go but in what I've experienced (I've been divorced) it took half the amount of effort to work on the marriage as it would have taken to get the divorce. That's just my situation. All and all She and I are OK people and some folks end up married to real nuckleheads. Marriage can suck at times but sometimes divorce can suck worse.
 
baydoll

baydoll

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I tried that...told my hubby that divorce was not an option with me and not to even bring it up. We agreed to try and 'fix' our marriage but then after finding out about gf number two (after dumping gf number one), I finally realized that in my case it just wasn't going to work and it was time for me to cut the cord and let him go.

Every marriage is different. I've heard that some marriages are made even stronger when things happen such as this.

Thus wasn't the case in mine, unfortunetly.

I love that verse from Acts in your signature, btw. How true that is.
 
Qurious

Qurious

Im On 1.
that is so f'd up....how is he gonna be intimate with you just last week telling you he loves you and then file for divorce?

THAT IS GRIMEY.
 
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shiki

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baydoll said:
Shiki I know what you are going through Hon, it sucks but it will get better, I promise you. I got the same exact 'Speech' from my hubby seven or so years ago. Hubby told me, 'No, there is no one else involved (yeah right) blah blah blah.'

I am in a SO MUCH better place right now without his sorry butt dragging me down I cannot begin to tell you. My life is TONS better without him. I LOVE LOVE LOVE being single! :yahoo:

If you don't mind my asking, how old is your husband, btw? He might be the early stages of the dreaded cough-cough Midlife Crisis disease.

I have some info to send via PM if you want it.
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he'll be thirty in august :whistle:
 
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shiki

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Hey! I think I know you
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Hrmm...that's a teaser! PM me hehe.

....anywho.....you can refuse to divorce him. If nothing crazy's going on (abuse,weird animal sacrifices ect.) Love is different for Men (sorry for letting that secret out) I've had my wife ask for a divorce and I just said "No". (much like her answer to sex).....that's a joke....kind of.....The issues come and go but in what I've experienced (I've been divorced) it took half the amount of effort to work on the marriage as it would have taken to get the divorce. That's just my situation. All and all She and I are OK people and some folks end up married to real nuckleheads. Marriage can suck at times but sometimes divorce can suck worse.
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He's gonna have a fight on his hands believe me...If the kids were grown that would be one thing. :coffee:

But we have a family. Divorce is devastating and brutal.
 
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shiki

Guest
baydoll said:
Hmmmm....reaching the big 3-0 yeah that would do it. :whistle:


Has his behavior changed lately? Prior this 'Speech' of his?
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yes. He refused to get a cellphone after he gave up his last one. He started dressing up and even started shopping for clothes. He quit his job and took a new one almost 2 hours away.
 
baydoll

baydoll

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shiki said:
Sorry, the breakup of a family is devastating and brutal, financially and emotionally.

Even the most amenable divorce is gonna suck.
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Agree with you there. And me and hubby have been on best of terms throughout this whole horrendous ordeal.

But after all is said and done I am glad this happened as awful as it was. :yay:

(in my case, that is.)
 
Chain729

Chain729

CageKicker Extraordinaire
baydoll said:
Even so the kids will be devastated.
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shiki said:
Sorry, the breakup of a family is devastating and brutal, financially and emotionally.

Even the most amenable divorce is gonna suck.
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suck? yes. Devastating? Doesn't have to be. I'm from a divorced family. The problem wasn't the divorce. The problem was that my parents were so involved in their emotional "woe is me" crap that they stopped being parents all together.
 
baydoll

baydoll

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shiki said:
yes. He refused to get a cellphone after he gave up his last one. He started dressing up and even started shopping for clothes. He quit his job and took a new one almost 2 hours away.
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Shiki, Hon, that doesn't look very good.

Did you check out the link I posted previously?
 
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jjsmommy99

Guest
Chain729 said:
suck? yes. Devastating? Doesn't have to be. I'm from a divorced family. The problem wasn't the divorce. The problem was that my parents were so involved in their emotional "woe is me" crap that they stopped being parents all together.
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is that why you are such an angry person?
 
baydoll

baydoll

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Chain729 said:
suck? yes. Devastating? Doesn't have to be. I'm from a divorced family. The problem wasn't the divorce. The problem was that my parents were so involved in their emotional "woe is me" crap that they stopped being parents all together.
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yeah been there, done that. Even though hubby and I behaved ourselves (for the most part, anyway) I have to admit that I wasn't there emotionally for my son who was only 12 at the time and really REALLY needed me. I really REALLY regret that. But then again I was pretty much in shock the first several months and couldn't see pass my pain.
 
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