Spousal abuse
- Thread starter TurboK9
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Beta84
They're out to get us
Did you bother reading the post I was responding to, or did you just decide to post without giving it much thought? The person I responded to was talking about getting a hotel and said everyone has money in the bank, which isn't true. They also said in a later post about that money being enough to get decent hotels when people were saying they were would be hotels, but I didn't quote that one.
The poster acted like getting out for a couple of days and calling the cops would magically solve everything. That's just not the case. It takes more than that and it really depends on the situation. Like I said, I have a friend who is dealing with this right now. The guy never left marks or bruises on her and when she called the cops they didn't really do anything. She finally got an injunction against him based on past complaints but even after doing that, they didn't really bother with it. They never arrested him for the abuse and they FINALLY arrested him for breach of the injunction after she reported enough crap. It was absurd. He's out on house arrest but that doesn't really mean much. At least she got out, but she went back SO MANY TIMES because she felt like she knew another side of him and that he was a good person and blah blah blah garbage.
Back to your first comment, I'm of the opinion that there's always somewhere for the person to go if you try hard enough, but sometimes you may have to try REALLY hard. I know people who swear up and down that they have nowhere to go, at least on a semi-permanent basis. There are plenty of people who have alienated themselves from friends and families due to these abusive relationships...and as HORRIBLE as it sounds, I have heard of a time where people REFUSED to help after she realized the problems and tried to find a place to stay to get away. It was dumbfounding that people could be so cold and heartless.
Sherlock
Casserhole!
We are in somd so I'm sure you thought you had a chance of scoring. You sick bastard.
Roberta
OLD WISE ONE
RPMDAD
Well-Known Member
Sherlock sir, IMHO you are and idiot
Abc123
New Member
Because someone who is a decent human being stood up and protected a family member? Perhaps YOU are the sick bastard for even thinking such a thing. Not everyone has ulterior motives. Get a life, and stop thinking disgusting thoughts about your cousins. dontknowwhy
New Member
ok, here's a really messed up 1 for ya'll..I didnt grow up in anything like an abusive home but the woman I married did...tensions grew in the home over the course of the first year until 1 day, & I don't remember why, she went ballistic on me & my first thought was to knock some sense into this crazy woman...she beat back on me pretty bad, the cops came, she had no marks, & I went to jail. About 2 years later I don't know what I did to provoke her, but she snapped & started swingin, throwin things, & yellin...men can get sucked into facing this type of confrontation with force, we're wired for that. And I foolishly did a second time...After smackin her, I felt horrible because I was not raised this way so I left. Again, she called the cops who just talked to the both of us. I knew the cops & told them my version & it was obvious that although I hit my wife, I was very much provoked...I talked to my wife on the phone, she wanted me to come home, but I told her only if she agreed to counseling...2 sessions of me askin & gettin a total run around story from her. then by the third session it came out that our marriage wasn't normal because I wouldnt get physical like her daddy did.
dontknowwhy
New Member
No matter what I tried, walkin away, church, counseling...she was programmed that there has to be abuse in a relationship. & I was scared that if I walked out that door, since I did have prior charges on me & she didn't then 1) she'd hang me out to dry with custody. & 2) I feared that she might turn to confronting our son...BTW, this was at a time in this County when Judge Raley called the shots...men had no rights in his courtroom...she was guaranteed anything she wanted
kwillia
n/a
You beat her twice... I'd say that is physical.
He only smacked her, not beat her, she wanted a real azz whooping from him, so she was mad about that from what he said about the counseling thing, her father got real physical with her mother, programmed WOW.
ArkRescue
Adopt me please !
For someone who SAYS that don't believe in hitting women, you sure do get excited about the topic. 
For someone who SAYS that don't believe in hitting women, you sure do get excited about the topic.
Not excited ha ha, just interesting topic of why men do thiis #### and why the ladies put up with it, crazy
TurboK9
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Upstate NY. You could have just asked. :shrug: