Straighten me out

morganj614

morganj614

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vraiblonde said:
Well, see, that's the problem. I'd have believed it was a joke BUT when asked about the missing item, Z didn't tell the truth. In fact, Z didn't tell the truth through several different stories.
Today (and in sessions past) I have been called "harsh" for suggesting that what Z did was "stealing". And also for calling the resulting stories "lies".
My next question is:
Based on what you know (that Z took A's belonging without A's knowledge or permission, then told a story that was different than what actually happened), do you think it is harsh to use the terms "stealing" and "lying" to describe Z's behavior?
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What is the counselor suggesting you call it? I was a tough parent. I would call it lying and stealing.
 
jazz lady

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vraiblonde said:
Based on what you know (that Z took A's belonging without A's knowledge or permission, then told a story that was different than what actually happened), do you think it is harsh to use the terms "stealing" and "lying" to describe Z's behavior?
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No, because it's the truth. Obviously, if they're having a problem with it, they can't HANDLE the truth.
 
kwillia

kwillia

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CMC122 said:
It is what it is! I don't think it's harsh at all:yay:
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:yeahthat: And let me add... it the taken item ends up damaged or missing.... Z would most definately be responsible for replacing said item PRONTO.
 
BS Gal

BS Gal

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Stealing and lying would be a good way to describe the behavior.

Did Z offer an apology?
 
Nickel

Nickel

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vraiblonde said:
Well, see, that's the problem. I'd have believed it was a joke BUT when asked about the missing item, Z didn't tell the truth. In fact, Z didn't tell the truth through several different stories.

Today (and in sessions past) I have been called "harsh" for suggesting that what Z did was "stealing". And also for calling the resulting stories "lies".

My next question is:

Based on what you know (that Z took A's belonging without A's knowledge or permission, then told a story that was different than what actually happened), do you think it is harsh to use the terms "stealing" and "lying" to describe Z's behavior?
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You need a new therapist. :lol:
 
rack'm

rack'm

Jaded
vraiblonde said:
Based on what you know (that Z took A's belonging without A's knowledge or permission, then told a story that was different than what actually happened), do you think it is harsh to use the terms "stealing" and "lying" to describe Z's behavior?
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NO and you should have administered a good beat down......


Your counselor is a panzy ass.......:duh:
 
mAlice

mAlice

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vraiblonde said:
She didn't say. Just that my calling those acts "stealing" and "lying" were harsh.
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You should ask at your next session what she suggests you call those things.
 
kwillia

kwillia

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vraiblonde said:
She didn't say. Just that my calling those acts "stealing" and "lying" were harsh.
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I wouldn't back down from those terms. Especially if this a reoccurring behavior.
 
Pete

Pete

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It was a pair of your freaking underwear! :rolleyes: I said I was sorry Geeez why does it have to be such a big deal? What do you want from me? :banghead:
 
BS Gal

BS Gal

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vraiblonde said:
She didn't say. Just that my calling those acts "stealing" and "lying" were harsh.
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Did you use the f word in front of either of those words when you were explaining it to the therapist?
 
MMDad

MMDad

Lem Putt
Why is this under Parenting? Shouldn't it be under Marraige?

Since Larry had no use for the Diva Cup, it wasn't really stealing. And since he kept the joke going by making up different stories, it wasn't lying. Also, since he is the Husband, everything is his anyway and he can't steal what he already owns.

Sounds to me like the marraige counselor is right.
 
vraiblonde

vraiblonde

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BS Gal said:
Did Z offer an apology?
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Z did not feel that an apology was necessary because it was "just a prank". I think eventually, under duress, she did apologize. But it was for A getting in trouble for "losing" her item, not for actually taking said item in the first place.
 
rack'm

rack'm

Jaded
Hey Vrai.........

Over the next three sessions.........take something off of her desk when she's not looking......see what she calls it. :really:
 
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