Straighten me out

[vraiblonde]

If it was done as a joke, I would tell the jokester that the other person did not appreciate it, and if you do it again,

I would have believed it was a joke had Z said, "I took the item as a joke, then forgot to give it back before I left." Then I would have said, "Okay, Z, now you can apologize to A because she got in trouble for that and that wasn't a very good joke."

Instead, Z told two different stories before she got to the one above ^^. The first story involved A asking Z to hang onto the item for her, which A said was not true. The second story was that Z snatched the item from A's hand right in front of her, just teasing, which A didn't remember happening, either.

 

[rack'm]

So ya'll feel free to help me see the counselor's POV.

It's all part of a Democratic brainwashing scheme to turn everyone into capitulating and appeasing sissies so the country can be taken over.

 

[itsbob]

Yes, quite frequently.

Based on that, what do you all think probably happened?

Beyotch Z sto Beyotch A's crack pipe, and Beyotch A laid a whuppin on that Z azz..

 

[vraiblonde]

Your counselor is a hippie.

She gave me Leo Buscaglia's book "Love" to read and see how to relate in a healthy marital relationship.

Description from Buscaglia's website:

An examination of the delicate phenomenon of human love as the one unifying force of life. The author identifies barriers of love and suggests means of overcoming them. This book was inspired by Leo Buscaglia's ground-breaking Love Class at the University of Southern California.

 

[kwillia]

She gave me Leo Buscaglia's book "Love" to read and see how to relate in a healthy marital relationship.

Description from Buscaglia's website:

Oooooh... this should have it's own thread... I'l love for you to share some "pointers"...

 

[itsbob]

She didn't say. Just that my calling those acts "stealing" and "lying" were harsh.

If Z went to a private school you wouldn't be having this discussion..

 

[virgovictoria]

I'm thinking the item in question was a cell phone, correct?

 

[kwillia]

If Z went to a private school you wouldn't be having this discussion..

Don't you have a battery to fix?

 

[pixiegirl]

So Vria, Are you going to print this out and take it to your whacky counselor?

 

[TexasPride77]

All right...my turn

She gave me Leo Buscaglia's book "Love" to read and see how to relate in a healthy marital relationship.

Description from Buscaglia's website:

Vrail,

Look..I think your therapist is trying to make you see fault in yourself. My opinion on the therapists train of thought: "It is not PC to go attacking people with only speculation in your weapon belt. If you are in a long term relationship with the person who sole from you, seeking out a way to peacefully close the "big uh-oh" without causing any hurt feelings is the goal."

If that is the case, I'd say the therapist is eating mushrooms...

Stealing is stealing and then lying about the act is down right dispicable. BUT again, if you are in a long term relationship with the person in question....and they want the relationship to reamain long term...they should come clean and admit all the wrongs.

Being a dirty character is one thing but having a dirty character is another.

For what its worth....

 

[vraiblonde]

Oooooh... this should have it's own thread... I'l love for you to share some "pointers"...

I can't share pointers because I couldn't get past the Foreward.

I'll try to find and excerpt. You'll howl.

I like the counselor, but I think she's a little more touchy-feely than someone like me can relate to. Larry loves her, so we'll continue to see her. But I should probably consider someone more aggressive.

Harsh. Like me.

 

[virgovictoria]

I'm thinking the item in question was a cell phone, correct?

I have a reason for asking...

 

[Midnightrider]

Your counselor is a hippie.

most of 'em are.... They never want you to say anything that implies a judgement, stealing and lying implying you are judging them to be bad. But if you are effing up, then someone sould tell you.

So if this happened a year ago, did it just come to light, or has this been an ongoing battle?

 

[cattitude]

I say "Yes, I am harsh" when I'm *being* harsh. But I do not think I was, in this incident.

Yelling at the kids is harsh (or can be considered as such), and I accept that. Simply using the correct terminology for a defined, factual behavior is not, in my opinion harsh.

So ya'll feel free to help me see the counselor's POV.

I just KNEW what you were talking about. I guess I don't get why you are discussing this at your counseling sessions.

 

[BS Gal]

I have a reason for asking...

Z took yours too, huh?

 

[pixiegirl]

I have a reason for asking...

You got unsolicited phone calls too? Z has a very dirty mouth!

 

[bresamil]

Vrail,

Look..I think your therapist is trying to make you see fault in yourself. ....

Now that I believe. As long as you think you have a problem and need counseling, you'll come back. So is your counselor trying to finance a vacation home or a boat?

 

[vraiblonde]

I'm thinking the item in question was a cell phone, correct?

No, it was money.

 

[virgovictoria]

You got unsolicited phone calls too? Z has a very dirty mouth!

 

[bresamil]

I
Larry loves her, so we'll continue to see her.

That just means she's a Skins fan.