I have a wedding to go to this weekend...in Vermont. The couple said they'd rather have money for their honeymoon instead of things for their house. What's a good amount to give? We're already spending several hundred dollars to go as it is....gas money, hotel, dress, etc. I don't want to seem cheap, but I don't want to spend more than I have to. Ugh.
I'd say if the cheap bastards are looking for handouts to pay for their honeymoon.
1) they shouldn't be going on a honeymoon .. and
2) you should give them a bill for 50% of what it is costing you to get there.
3) EXPECTING gifts is rude and brash, and having the cajones to tell people what you want is beyond bad form! They should, instead, write their guests and inform them that first and formeost they want their company on the important day, nothing is more important to them than sharing their love with their friends and family. NOTHING else should be said about gifts or cash, unless it's to say "Your presence at this glorious event can be in lieu of gifts."
I'm sorry, but I don't want nor do I need anything...
well except this lamp..
and this chair..
oh, and this ashtray too..