Well I got redded for feeling foolish about walking into this one (unsigned).
Bottom line to me is when you're married you have a trust that must be held close regardless of what she did before, and regardless of the situation you happen to allow yourself to be in. A simple "no, I am married" would have done it if it meant anything at all.
But not to worry, there is always a bright side. But it starts with learning from this mistake and not doing it again. Doesn't mean you won't pay for this one, though. You (and only you) earned it this round. Not being disrespectful, just telling how I feel. Things will get better if you take things like this seriously, or worse if you don't. It's all about choices and responsibility.