when is enough......enough
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StephenCMT
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I guess this is as good a place as any for a first post. 
Love only requires the emotions of one person. But, for that love to create and maintain a relationship, it takes two. All relationships require something from both sides whether it be a business, platonic, physical (FWB), or a commited love.
From what I see, the fact that you mentioned her indiscretion from years past tells me that either you're still a lil miffed from that or that you're trying to to shield your guilt with it. I'm not saying this to offend you. I'm just being honest about what I'm feeling from your explanation and I could be totally wrong. Either way, it leads me to a question:
Did you forgive her? If so then, even legally, it can't be brought up as having relevancy to do with the situation. That's the rip of relationships...we become so wrapped up in the other person that they become the focal point of blame when they screw up when, in reality, we're the ones who could have avoided the drama by seriously asking ourselves if what they did could become habitual or is a sign of a greater problem in the relationship. That's what I'm seing here.
You screwed up...and it seems like you've paid your dues from what you're saying. But, if she's cutting off intimacy and has been for months, then it's time to really ask her if she wants to stay in the relationship. Plain and simple. If she wants out, then move on, bro. It sounds like you're already wanting out anyways. You have to listen to your own instincts...you may find that you want out of this just as much as she does.
Good luck.
Love only requires the emotions of one person. But, for that love to create and maintain a relationship, it takes two. All relationships require something from both sides whether it be a business, platonic, physical (FWB), or a commited love.
From what I see, the fact that you mentioned her indiscretion from years past tells me that either you're still a lil miffed from that or that you're trying to to shield your guilt with it. I'm not saying this to offend you. I'm just being honest about what I'm feeling from your explanation and I could be totally wrong. Either way, it leads me to a question:
Did you forgive her? If so then, even legally, it can't be brought up as having relevancy to do with the situation. That's the rip of relationships...we become so wrapped up in the other person that they become the focal point of blame when they screw up when, in reality, we're the ones who could have avoided the drama by seriously asking ourselves if what they did could become habitual or is a sign of a greater problem in the relationship. That's what I'm seing here.
You screwed up...and it seems like you've paid your dues from what you're saying. But, if she's cutting off intimacy and has been for months, then it's time to really ask her if she wants to stay in the relationship. Plain and simple. If she wants out, then move on, bro. It sounds like you're already wanting out anyways. You have to listen to your own instincts...you may find that you want out of this just as much as she does.
Good luck.
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Larry Gude
Strung Out
Not...
...so you will shut up per se because we do care very much. We care so much we want to help you 'fix' it. That is caring in our book; to help someone we love.
Women don't want that. You've seen how we fix things; get out tools, tear the summ##### apart, go get beer, finish up and leave a few extra parts laying around.
Women want sympathy and understanding which most guys struggle with, at least by the third or fourth or 10th time through. 
vraiblonde said:*ding*
This is why women who think they want to "talk" to their man and "share" their feelings with him are tards. Men do not give a crap about your feelings - they want to solve your problem so you will shut up. Talk to your girlfriends because they feel your pain. Don't bother talking to your man because they will go, "...Huh?....Oh yeah...Right...Uh huh...HOLY ####!!! TOUCHDOWN!!!!! YES!!!!!Now, what were you saying, baby?"
...so you will shut up per se because we do care very much. We care so much we want to help you 'fix' it. That is caring in our book; to help someone we love.
Women don't want that. You've seen how we fix things; get out tools, tear the summ##### apart, go get beer, finish up and leave a few extra parts laying around.
Women want sympathy and understanding which most guys struggle with, at least by the third or fourth or 10th time through.
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StephenCMT
Guest
But sailors still get scurvy...or is that the clap? :O
appendixqh
Silence!!! I Kill You!!!
vraiblonde said:
Vrai...having been on several deployments myself...let me tell ya, their are plenty of freak chicks out there that do just this sort of thing...and they target the guys that show the least interest. They take it kinda like a challenge, and this isn't the first time I have heard of chicks getting naked to shock the unsuspecting male.
Chain729
CageKicker Extraordinaire
appendixqh said:Vrai...having been on several deployments myself...let me tell ya, their are plenty of freak chicks out there that do just this sort of thing...and they target the guys that show the least interest. They take it kinda like a challenge, and this isn't the first time I have heard of chicks getting naked to shock the unsuspecting male.
Freaks, huh? Guess I should've joined the military afterall
appendixqh
Silence!!! I Kill You!!!
Chain729 said:Freaks, huh? Guess I should've joined the military afterall
See what you missed out on!
Rael
Supper's Ready
Well I got redded for feeling foolish about walking into this one (unsigned).
Bottom line to me is when you're married you have a trust that must be held close regardless of what she did before, and regardless of the situation you happen to allow yourself to be in. A simple "no, I am married" would have done it if it meant anything at all.
But not to worry, there is always a bright side. But it starts with learning from this mistake and not doing it again. Doesn't mean you won't pay for this one, though. You (and only you) earned it this round. Not being disrespectful, just telling how I feel. Things will get better if you take things like this seriously, or worse if you don't. It's all about choices and responsibility.
Bottom line to me is when you're married you have a trust that must be held close regardless of what she did before, and regardless of the situation you happen to allow yourself to be in. A simple "no, I am married" would have done it if it meant anything at all.
But not to worry, there is always a bright side. But it starts with learning from this mistake and not doing it again. Doesn't mean you won't pay for this one, though. You (and only you) earned it this round. Not being disrespectful, just telling how I feel. Things will get better if you take things like this seriously, or worse if you don't. It's all about choices and responsibility.