Who gets the final say?

[barncat]

Wow...you must know alot to be able to say they're wrong about their kids.

You don't know the only reason the 4 yr old won't go to sleep is because of co-sleeping. Maybe you have a better bedtime routine, maybe your house is quieter, maybe it's louder, maybe they wind up the 4 year old then expect it to go to sleep. Too many things there besides just the co-sleeping.

Like I said, to each their own. If it works for them, so be it. You can't speak for the thousands of parents who co-sleep. Obviously it's working for them.

True, I'm more disciplined to sticking to a schedule then my friends and that could be a factor.

I'm not saying co-sleeping is wrong, just that I don't understand the detour to the end result of having a child sleep in their own bed. Wouldn't it be much easier to start with the child sleeping in their own bed?

 

[Club'nBabySeals]

Mom and dad must be very fertile...

Mom attributes it to growing up within 10 miles of the Nuclear Power Plant...

 

[Cowgirl]

True, I'm more disciplined to sticking to a schedule then my friends and that could be a factor.

I'm not saying co-sleeping is wrong, just that I don't understand the detour to the end result of having a child sleep in their own bed. Wouldn't it be much easier to start with the child sleeping in their own bed?

Well, alot of parents find it easier to have the child in their bed. It would be kind of nice to just roll over and breastfeed the baby. :shrug: I can see some benefits to it.

Like I said though, it's hard enough for me to get enough room with my bed-hogging BF. The other day I fell off the bed.

 

[nightowl]

Well sounds like if dad has to put her down for 2 naps a week and wants to do it "his way" then I would try not to worry about it but also just make it clear to him that you don't want to hear about it.

As for condoms not working by themselves then maybe you could try a female contraceptive in addition (sponge, spermicide, diaphram) if you don't want to take BC with breastfeeding. EDIT: I just read that you were using BC and a condom? Maybe more kinds of contraceptive would work then, maybe try BC, condom, sponge, spermicide and diaphram hehehe. Also, breastfeeding is a form of contraceptive also.

As for the vasectomy, it's not a very long recovery for the guy but it does take about 3 months for the sperm to clear out of his system (that means he needs to be having sex or doing something to help clear it out). Then he will have to go and get "his stuff" tested to make sure there are no longer any sperm. Then they recommend a second test of "his stuff" just to make sure. With my husband this whole situation took years to resolve hehehehe. He wasn't ready after our last child for about 2 yrs and then after the surgery he didn't go back for his test for another 10 months. So I would definitely try to find another way to handle the situation then to make him suffer till it's "officially handled".