I can tell by reading the responses to this thread who got fat after marriage and who didn't in their lifetime... I think it comes right down to a health concern. You didn't marry someone so they can ruin their health and not be there for the long haul.
I can tell by reading the responses to this thread who got fat after marriage and who didn't in their lifetime... I think it comes right down to a health concern. You didn't marry someone so they can ruin their health and not be there for the long haul.
I can tell by reading the responses to this thread who got fat after marriage and who didn't in their lifetime... I think it comes right down to a health concern. You didn't marry someone so they can ruin their health and not be there for the long haul.
I can tell by reading the responses to this thread who got fat after marriage and who didn't in their lifetime
You can tell more by who stopped responding after post 15.
I don't think he's being a jerk at all. It seems as if she's making no effort to try to lose the weight. If there's a valid excuse, like a medical condition, fine he's being a jerk, but it reads as if she's just lazy.
You can tell more by who stopped responding after post 15.
I can tell by reading the responses to this thread who got fat after marriage and who didn't in their lifetime... I think it comes right down to a health concern. You di
dn't marry someone so they can ruin their health and not be there for the long haul.
To be honest I am in a similar boat as the initial subject of this thread, except for my g/f has not had any kids. She now wants one but she has gained 50+ lbs after getting off of the pill and well I am having doubts about our future as time passes. We have been together for over 10 years, I started reading this thread for other opinions/advice.
I agree that you don't marry someone so they can ruin their health- and that door swings both ways. You would be wrong about everyone in this tread gaining weight after marriage. I had lost all my pregnancy weight & was in better shape when I divorced than my ex. My life insurance rates (for a woman over 40) were less than half what my ex's was. AND I was an ex-smoker & he never smoked at all. To this day I am in as good if not better shape healthwise as I was in my 30's.
I've realized you can't change your SO. In fact if you try things get worse. If you want change it has to be you. Start liking plumbers or turn the lights off and squeeze your eyes shut really really hard. It could be breast, it could be belly who knows.....
To be honest I am in a similar boat as the initial subject of this thread, except for my g/f has not had any kids. She now wants one but she has gained 50+ lbs after getting off of the pill and well I am having doubts about our future as time passes. We have been together for over 10 years, I started reading this thread for other opinions/advice.
He loves me regardless of my weight. He'd love me if I was bald, lost a leg, eye, etc... vice versa for meJust because he never said anything does not mean he has not thought it.
Thank you.Probably because it doesn't matter "in the grand scheme of things" to him and/or because he's not a dolt and realizes that a woman gains weight when she's pregnant. Some women can lose it fast - others can't. Eventually, most women have to work pretty hard to lose weight they gained in their pregnancies.
I gained 45lbs with BOTH pregnancies, (the first one I didn't watch what I ate & the 2nd one I was 35 yo & was seeing a dietician and STILL gained that much weight). While I'm not carrying that weight any longer - it isn't easy to lose that much weight. Twice. :shrug:
Take out or increase her coverage on your life insurance policy. If she won't take care of her health, you might as well make the best of it.
I agree that you don't marry someone so they can ruin their health- and that door swings both ways. You would be wrong about everyone in this tread gaining weight after marriage. I had lost all my pregnancy weight & was in better shape when I divorced than my ex. My life insurance rates (for a woman over 40) were less than half what my ex's was. AND I was an ex-smoker & he never smoked at all. To this day I am in as good if not better shape healthwise as I was in my 30's.
He loves me regardless of my weight. He'd love me if I was bald, lost a leg, eye, etc... vice versa for me
Thank you.
My weight has fluctuated ever since I had kids. I gain, then lose, then gain, the lose. I went from a size 26 to a size 8. Got pregnant and am now a 20/22. Once I have surgery on my foot I hope to be able to get back in the gym and get back down to fighting weight
At this point if something happened to either of us neither would benefit, our parents would. She does not want to get married because "If we were to marry and a divorce came up, I(she) would not benefit because I(she) earns more money than I do. Marriage is nothing but a legal arrangement where I(she) would get screwed."