Advice needed
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Dymphna
Loyalty, Friendship, Love
They AREN'T in agreement. The bride is just saying that because SHE is mature enough not to make waves. She's pizzed at Athena for having to ask for permission when she should know better. What's she going to say, "No Athena, I don't want you anywhere near that party and I think you should know better than to go to a bachelor party. You are out of line and I don't care what the guys say, you have no business being there." I don't think Athena and the bride are close enough friends for Bride to be that frank. If they were that close, Athena would be happy to go to the chick thing.
Oh, she's going alright. She made up her mind a long time ago. They're buddy-buddies after all. Nothing gets in the way of their friendship at any cost! If she can't stay away out of respect for her guy friend's future bride, why would she listen to what we think? :shrug:
Sometimes you have to stand outside and look in, to make a worthy decision concerning friendships. I think most of us gals (who had a lot of male friends) and were in Athena's shoes, would put ourselves aside and go make nice with the bride at her party, instead of trying to justify being with the guys.
Even if these guys really say they wanted her to be there, there's a time and place for male/female friendships. Most girls respect the boundaries, others are clueless like Athena and the husband-to-be.
JabbaJawz
Be about it
BINGO! None of Dean's friend's wives or significant others came to my bachelorette party because we're not down like that. They never expected to come or be invited.
Oh, and Dean and I both have friends of the opposite sex that we're close with, but none would have ever asked to come to our bach/ette parties.
Okay, but certainly the bride is close enough to the groom that she could say how she really feels. Then it's the groom's responsibility to tell Athena to bow out.
It could be that the bride doesn't want to seem jealous or immature, that's why she hasn't objected. In which case, she's too young to get married.
It could also be that she's relieved to not have Athena hanging out with her and her girlfriends so she's happy to pawn her off on the guys.
I still want to know why this thread exists, since Athena already knew what she was going to do.
You have the power.... 
I would never dream of deleting Athena's thread. She asked for a reason - I'm just trying to find out what that reason is.
Horse hockey
"a woman's place is not at a bachelor party...unless she's the entertainment... (and other such comments)"....Horse hockey.
Athena, (and I say this with more emphasis after your above post) go to the bachelor party and have a good time. Go out with the bachelerette group first..make a graceful bow out early, and go with the guys. Warning, you will end up probably being DD. (but dats what friends are for).
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"a woman's place is not at a bachelor party...unless she's the entertainment... (and other such comments)"....Horse hockey.
Athena, (and I say this with more emphasis after your above post) go to the bachelor party and have a good time. Go out with the bachelerette group first..make a graceful bow out early, and go with the guys. Warning, you will end up probably being DD. (but dats what friends are for).
crabcake
But wait, there's more...
Re: Horse hockey
with advice like that, it's easy to see why ...
Originally posted by JackieY
Athena, (and I say this with more emphasis after your above post) go to the bachelor party and have a good time. Go out with the bachelerette group first..make a graceful bow out early, and go with the guys. Warning, you will end up probably being DD. (but dats what friends are for).
with advice like that, it's easy to see why ...
Re: Re: Horse hockey
HAAAAAAAAA. Game on!
In retort, I just happen to like the lyric. It's quite funny.
Listen, Athena's got the bride's "Okey dokey", and the groom's friends' "okey dokey". Why the heck not!? And she could also be a good friend to both sides and volunteer to shuttle around both parties (making sure people get to the festivities and back home OK).
All this crap about "it's insulting to the bride" and "I would never attend a bachelor party because guys do sacred, ritualistic male bonding there.." is total poo.
Let me address the first statement.."it's insulting to the bride" (i.e. jealousy conflict, etc...). Listen, if the bride is not secure enough in herself, her man (or in the relationship that she has with her man), then the relationship (and the bride herself) have got too many problems right off the bat. As far as the ritualistic bonding thing goes..puleeeeze. They're going to sit around recounting old "scores", booze it up, scratch themselves, fart/belch and watch a few boobies bounce around. Hey! Can I join this cult?! 
Originally posted by crabcake
HAAAAAAAAA. Game on!
In retort, I just happen to like the lyric. It's quite funny.
Listen, Athena's got the bride's "Okey dokey", and the groom's friends' "okey dokey". Why the heck not!? And she could also be a good friend to both sides and volunteer to shuttle around both parties (making sure people get to the festivities and back home OK).
All this crap about "it's insulting to the bride" and "I would never attend a bachelor party because guys do sacred, ritualistic male bonding there.." is total poo.
Let me address the first statement.."it's insulting to the bride" (i.e. jealousy conflict, etc...). Listen, if the bride is not secure enough in herself, her man (or in the relationship that she has with her man), then the relationship (and the bride herself) have got too many problems right off the bat. As far as the ritualistic bonding thing goes..puleeeeze. They're going to sit around recounting old "scores", booze it up, scratch themselves, fart/belch and watch a few boobies bounce around. Hey! Can I join this cult?!