Radiant1
Soul Probe
She will love this! I guess I'm not helping things when I take her to things like the Celtic Fest and she sees manly men in action.
In kilts!!!
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GWguy
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So true! My daughter has been raised in a family where men are men and raise their son's to be men so she expects men to be men and boys to become men. Now that she's in the dating world she's finding there are way more boys that have no clue what it means to "man-up" and be a man then their are boys that are becoming durable, dependable, manly men.
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acommondisaster
Active Member
My best friend's husband passed away two years ago this coming October. She called me about a month ago to talk about something that was bothering her. I thought she was going to say she'd met someone at work or something. Instead, she'd finally had a dishwasher installed in the house - something she'd wanted for more than 20 years, but John had thought they didn't need it - I could hear by her tone of voice that she needed someone to say it was okay.
I have a feeling she'll never remarry - I hope I'm wrong because I think she's too young to be alone for the rest of her life.
I have a feeling she'll never remarry - I hope I'm wrong because I think she's too young to be alone for the rest of her life.
PrepH4U
New Member
Oh my! Sounds like John still has control even from the grave.
That might depend on a lot of things, for instance the age of the spouses and the ages of any children, and if the death was sudden or had been a long illness.
My husband was married before, and his wife was diagnosed with leukemia 18mos. into their marriage. She was sick for 3 1/2 years before she passed away. My husband was only 26 at the time, they had no children (she was actually pregnant when she was diagnosed) and we started dating within 6 weeks. My sister still thinks it's bizarre (even though we've been married almost 20 years), but while he loved her, I think he had come to terms with her death long before the day it happened.
I wouldn't begrudge my husband another spouse if I die. What I would want to be sure of is that any money we set aside for our children would not be spent on a floozy in Florida. If I've worked and made sacrifices (I REALLY wish we could get a new carpet) so that we could save for the kids' college, I'll be damned if he's going to spend that on someone else.
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czygvtwkr
Guest
Aww did you convince her it was ok?
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czygvtwkr
Guest
OMG the money issue, between my grandfathers 3 living daughters, my two cousins (sons of the deceased daughter), his new wife and his illegitimate son you want to talk about a mess. Things were spelled out in the will perfectly but it was still a mess.
Hopefully, it won't be spent on Jennifer.
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mv_princess
mv = margaritaville
As someone who is being witness to a man going out on his own after 33 years. I think it really depends on the relationship and the person.
They say the happier the marriage generally the easier it is for someone to move on after a loss.
They say the happier the marriage generally the easier it is for someone to move on after a loss.
kwillia
n/a
I think that it is because a truly loving person needs to love and be loved.
mv_princess
mv = margaritaville
Agreed...
GWguy
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That makes sense. A bad relationship can leave bad feelings and anger behind.
migtig
aka Mrs. Giant
I've thought about this before and I think the giant would need to remarry just so he could have regular meals and clean clothes.
Also, I really think you have to factor things in like a long illness, as was previously mentioned. That prepares the surviving spouse long before their loved one actually passes. So they've most likely been grieving a lot longer than just from the funeral date.
Also, I really think you have to factor things in like a long illness, as was previously mentioned. That prepares the surviving spouse long before their loved one actually passes. So they've most likely been grieving a lot longer than just from the funeral date.
SamSpade
Well-Known Member
I think we had this discussion and my wife said that she thinks I would NEED to re-marry.
On the other hand, she's beyond convinced that she will outlive me, by a LOT.
I think she's right, that I would need to re-marry, but since it took so very long to get married the first time, I'm figuring I wouldn't live long enough to reach a second time.
On the other hand, she's beyond convinced that she will outlive me, by a LOT.
I think she's right, that I would need to re-marry, but since it took so very long to get married the first time, I'm figuring I wouldn't live long enough to reach a second time.
sockgirl77
Well-Known Member
I haven't read the rest of the thread yet, but I hope she ripped you a new one after reading this! If not, would you care to meet me next Tuesday? ####.
SuzySunshine
Spreading Sunshine
We all know you believe in free love, long before your wife is dead, or even moved out of your house, so your advice is for all those free-spirit types who don't care who is banging who like a screen door, right? 
BadGirl can haunt anyone she wants. I am sure there will be no complaints.
