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wkndbeacher
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vegmom said:
Havent met any when I go out, was hoping I d get a reply from one in here to chat with.
migtig
aka Mrs. Giant
I dunno. I don't have kids - but why not participate in your children's lives and meet other people like yourself at their sporting events, study groups, etc? Perhaps you really don't need to date, just have adult conversation. :shrug:
BTW, I have had no problem dating some guys who had kids. The way I looked at it, the hard work was already done.
It's not about the children. It's about the person. And if women are turning down your dating requests "because you have children" it's really all because of you and they are trying not to say that.
BTW, I have had no problem dating some guys who had kids. The way I looked at it, the hard work was already done.
It's not about the children. It's about the person. And if women are turning down your dating requests "because you have children" it's really all because of you and they are trying not to say that.
Chasey_Lane
Salt Life
How do you figure? What if a childless woman simply doesn't want children in her life?migtig said:
Vince
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Most women over 40 do not want men with responsibilities /children because they are done raising their children and are looking for someone that is the same. They're looking for someone that can travel, etc. without having to deal with the responsibilities. Nothing to tie them down.Chasey_Lane said:
migtig
aka Mrs. Giant
I've discovered that usually guys that are concerned about their kids, wait a while anyway before bringing the kids into their "dating" life. By that time the girl likes the guy not his kids, and so is more willing to accept them as part of the package - or not. However, I'm getting the "oogies" on this guy. He's either using his kids for the "sympathy" or he's using his kids as "bait" or something similar. That's why I don't think it's his kids that are the problem. :shrug: He's just blaming them.Chasey_Lane said:
wkndbeacher said:
That's because we don't have the luxery of going out for the sake of going out. I've dated plenty but have met people mostly online. Mostly first-and-last dates
but a few that turned out pretty well. The biggest obstacle is finding someone to watch young'n when I have a date. I don't like the idea of bringing guys around my daughter until I am sure its going to be long term. And yeah, I have encountered the same things as other posters here ie doesn't understand I can't pick up and go at a moment's notice, think's I'm easy, looking for a husband, etc.
Chasey_Lane
Salt Life
I still stand by my comment. If a woman doesn't want children, she'll date someone w/out them.migtig said:
migtig
aka Mrs. Giant
Honestly, seriously...if you are interested in the person then you work through every thing else. Kids/no kids included. What about guys who want kids, but they marry a woman who can't have any? :scratchinghead: See, it's not about the children, it's about the person you are seeing. And if things aren't working, then it's easy to "blame" the kids, but that's not the case, it's actually the adults and that one isn't the right one for you. Kids or no kids. JMO.Chain729 said:Or the hassles that go along with dating a single parent?
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wkndbeacher
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migtig said:
Thx for the vote of confidence!
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wkndbeacher
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Chasey_Lane said:
Thank you for the defense!
mAlice
professional daydreamer
I honestly think different people have different reasons for not dating someone with kids. Some may use it as an excuse to call if off, but I also think there are conversations on the first date or two where one initially finds out that there are kids. Or, someone who doesn't have kids may give it a go and find out it's not to their liking.migtig said:
Chain729
CageKicker Extraordinaire
migtig said:
Miggy dear, I wish everyone was a sweetheart like you. Not everyone looks past those things. A lot will simply dismiss someone before ever getting to know if they like them or even if they want to find out if they'll like them, simply because they want a hassle free life. They want availability and they want it now. They want to be able drop things and go, not pencil it in a week from now and hope. They want a mutual calendar, not have to operate on that of the parent.
It's like the other baggage of mine that you know about, but not as bad. People drop people for crap like that, what makes the hassles of children any different?