Black man White girl

[somdprincess]

Where in my post did I say I was talking to a child at 2:30 am? I would be more than happy to provide links to support my views. I wish that I was making this stuff up. Children shouldn't have to feel that they have to chose to be black or white. Thats why I don't agree with interracial dating. No matter how well your intentions are, there will always be people out there who make children feel like crap because they can't be both black or white. They are made to feel they have to choose one race over the other. Just like children from divorced families. The child acts like a different child when they are with the mother versus the father. Look... this is my opinion If you don't agree with it fine. Just because you don't agree doesn't make me a liar or make what I am trying to say bs. Seriously... because I didn't type a certain way means that I'm uneducated... Whatever.

There are more mixed couples out with children that do not experince these problems. Years down the road it will no longer be an issue of black and white.


Where is your office located? How long have you been in practice? Is this your specialty?

 

[jessie_101]

I work in outside DC right now. I graduated in from UNC in Chapel Hill with Honors. My bachelors degree was child psychology minoring in social work. I worked for Wake County dept of social services. While working for social services, I went back to unc for my masters. I took my current job in DC to be closer to my family. I've worked as a child psychologist at this location for close to three years.

 

[jessie_101]

In an ideal world all interracial couples would not have this problem. But sadly thats not the case. The more people ignore the fact that there is a problem, the worse the problem will become. Again this is my opinion... Whether you agree or not It's your choice.

There are more mixed couples out with children that do not experince these problems. Years down the road it will no longer be an issue of black and white.


Where is your office located? How long have you been in practice? Is this your specialty?

 

[carolinagirl]

I work in outside DC right now. I graduated in from UNC in Chapel Hill with Honors. My bachelors degree was child psychology minoring in social work. I worked for Wake County dept of social services. While working for social services, I went back to unc for my masters. I took my current job in DC to be closer to my family. I've worked as a child psychologist at this location for close to three years.

I smell First, UNC-CH is one of if not the most liberal schools in NC as well as Wake County. If you left either of these places with the impression you have stated in your posts, you are way out of touch.

Sure some kids may be messed up because of their families. It's called dysfunction, but to chalk it up to child being mixed is BS. I speak from experience. It is all about the parents and extended family and if you have a grandmother filling your child's head full of crap like "you act like a cracka" then you nip that crap in the bud. All children get picked on for some reason throughout their lives. I don't care if you are lily white or midnight black, someone is going to find something to pick on you about! It is a fact of life. If another child senses that you're insecure about your racial makeup, then that will be the button they push with you. If you have freckles, it will be that and if you have glasses that will be your button. When parents get more defensive when their child comes home and says so and so called me black or so and so says I act white, then it is the parents causing the issues. If you treat these words the same as you would someone calling your kids fat, then you don't play into that notion, that it is somehow wrong to be mixed.

I have three interracial children and I have lived in SOMD and Wake Co., NC. My oldest is 15 years old and while she has had some kids say she is too light or too black, she has had more kids that have told her how beautiful she is, how nice her hair is, how great of a person she is. None of my children have had identity issues and in fact they love the fact that they are mixed. As they say, they have the best of both worlds. When questions arise we discuss them head on like any family would. Just as if you were a blended family with step parents and you would get questions surrounding that.

Finally, not all interracial children come from white mommas supporting black daddys with 5 other baby mommas. It it is a fact that some do, just like some white kids come from similar situations. He!!, just reads this forums for some non-interracial baby mamma drama.

 

[jessie_101]

Wow... I'm glad your familiar with wake county. So does that make you an expert on North Carolina in general? In fact I was just down there last week. You can smell the bull#### all you want. It doesn't change the facts. You are correct. In the south interracial relationships are more accepted than in the north. I worked for social services, while in social services in wake county I did not do counseling. Have you ever worked with the youth in Durham? Just curious? Have you ever had to be escorted by police to remove a child from it's home? Probably not. Going into a house escorted by police is not fun believe me. Perhaps you are the one who is out of touch. I did not say every family is messed up. If I did please show me where I said it. The point that I have been trying to make is that there is an issue. This issue is not going away. This has mostly been a black and white issue. Not all families are educated enough to help their children with this issue. That is where I come in. Yes children get picked on. Thats a fact of life. There are parents who are out there who don't care that their children are being picked on because they are bi-racial. I'm glad that your children are glad that they are bi-racial. Obviously you make the effort to help you children understand both of their heritages. I'm glad that you do that. The point that I am trying to make that you obviously are not getting.

Not all children have parents like you!!!

Why is that so hard to understand. You are acting like this is a personal attack on you. It isn't. There are children out there who have cultural identity issues. Its a fact. Whether you chose to accept that or not. Thats your problem. Not mine.

 

[carolinagirl]

Wow... I'm glad your familiar with wake county. So does that make you an expert on North Carolina in general? In fact I was just down there last week. You can smell the bull#### all you want. It doesn't change the facts. You are correct. In the south interracial relationships are more accepted than in the north. I worked for social services, while in social services in wake county I did not do counseling. Have you ever worked with the youth in Durham? Just curious? Have you ever had to be escorted by police to remove a child from it's home? Probably not. Going into a house escorted by police is not fun believe me. Perhaps you are the one who is out of touch. I did not say every family is messed up. If I did please show me where I said it. The point that I have been trying to make is that there is an issue. This issue is not going away. This has mostly been a black and white issue. Not all families are educated enough to help their children with this issue. That is where I come in. Yes children get picked on. Thats a fact of life. There are parents who are out there who don't care that their children are being picked on because they are bi-racial. I'm glad that your children are glad that they are bi-racial. Obviously you make the effort to help you children understand both of their heritages. I'm glad that you do that. The point that I am trying to make that you obviously are not getting.

Not all children have parents like you!!!

Why is that so hard to understand. You are acting like this is a personal attack on you. It isn't. There are children out there who have cultural identity issues. Its a fact. Whether you chose to accept that or not. Thats your problem. Not mine.

My point exactly. It is not about race, it is about parenting. Just like kids with parents that aren't together mentally, or are alcoholics are highly likely to get picked on as well. And there are lots of parents that don't care for whatever reason that their kids get picked on. But your first post seemed clear, that you felt alot of the problem with interracial children, was just that - race. That is in fact not the case and as a person educated in psychology, you should know it is much deeper than that. If you don't you need to go back to school.

Yes, I am very familiar with Wake County and NC in general. I have been in the legal field in some form or fashion for almost 20 years, so your comments about Durham and having to be police escorted to pick up children does not stun me. In fact, it is normal procedure and always has been for police to escort social workers to pick up children. You also should have know that before you took the job. Futhermore, if it bothers you so much, find another field of work. I have never had a problem with the work I do, because I believe that I am making a difference. I can eat lunch with judges and the Governor and then stand on Canal Street looking for juveniles and feel fine in either place.

Bottom line is, if a kid has f-ed up parents, they may very well be f-ed up themselves and it has nothing to do with color.

Let me make it clear that I did not take your statements as a personal attack. My point was to educate you from a first hand point of view. If you can't accept the facts from real life experience, then you my dear have the problem, not me. And I will say you have no business trying to help others, if you take offense to someone disagreeing with your point of view.

 

[Nicole_in_somd]

My point exactly. It is not about race, it is about parenting. Just like kids with parents that aren't together mentally, or are alcoholics are highly likely to get picked on as well. And there are lots of parents that don't care for whatever reason that their kids get picked on. But your first post seemed clear, that you felt alot of the problem with interracial children, was just that - race. That is in fact not the case and as a person educated in psychology, you should know it is much deeper than that. If you don't you need to go back to school.

Yes, I am very familiar with Wake County and NC in general. I have been in the legal field in some form or fashion for almost 20 years, so your comments about Durham and having to be police escorted to pick up children does not stun me. In fact, it is normal procedure and always has been for police to escort social workers to pick up children. You also should have know that before you took the job. Futhermore, if it bothers you so much, find another field of work. I have never had a problem with the work I do, because I believe that I am making a difference. I can eat lunch with judges and the Governor and then stand on Canal Street looking for juveniles and feel fine in either place.

Bottom line is, if a kid has f-ed up parents, they may very well be f-ed up themselves and it has nothing to do with color.

Let me make it clear that I did not take your statements as a personal attack. My point was to educate you from a first hand point of view. If you can't accept the facts from real life experience, then you my dear have the problem, not me. And I will say you have no business trying to help others, if you take offense to someone disagreeing with your point of view.

Now this is what I would expect from someone who knew what they were talking about and has either the education or experince to back it up.

Good post!

 

[jessie_101]

Here are some links that are interesting.


Biracial children's identity problem

CNN.com - Mixed-race students report more troubles - Nov. 1, 2003

Bottom line is this. You have your opinion and I have mine. Since you feel that I am uneducated because I disagree so be it. Thats on you. Keep in mind that cultural identity is a problem that is on it's way to being a large scale problem. Until people stop being ignorant and stop denying that this is a problem it will continue.

 

[somdprincess]

Here are some links that are interesting.


Biracial children's identity problem

CNN.com - Mixed-race students report more troubles - Nov. 1, 2003

Bottom line is this. You have your opinion and I have mine. Since you feel that I am uneducated because I disagree so be it. Thats on you. Keep in mind that cultural identity is a problem that is on it's way to being a large scale problem. Until people stop being ignorant and stop denying that this is a problem it will continue.

Anybody can google. Your posts are lacking. Period.

 

[CRoyal]

I work in outside DC right now. I graduated in from UNC in Chapel Hill with Honors. My bachelors degree was child psychology minoring in social work. I worked for Wake County dept of social services. While working for social services, I went back to unc for my masters. I took my current job in DC to be closer to my family. I've worked as a child psychologist at this location for close to three years.

Why do people feel the need to 'flex' their degrees? Unnecessary. Some VERY smart people have nothing but a high school diploma and some pretty stupid people drank their way through grad and undergrad.

None the less, I can certainly see your point on the child having some difficulty culturally, but usually the child is brought up to lean towards one race or the other, depending on the parents.

I don't feel that the issue merits an interracial couple to NOT have children;, they will need to do their job to prepare them for the woes and racism of society, just like any other parent, no matter the race of the child.

 

[Pete]

Anybody can google. Your posts are lacking. Period.

I am not getting it. Her posts are "opinion" pieces backed up with a smattering of factual observation and logic. Why are her posts "lacking"? Your posts could be considered lacking as well. Yours are based solely on your situation alone and emotion. :shrug:

Not saying either is right or wrong but simply because she disagrees and may need to use a few more paragraphs does not make her a fake/fraud or a goober.

 

[FerretRescue]

Why do people feel the need to 'flex' their degrees? Unnecessary. Some VERY smart people have nothing but a high school diploma and some pretty stupid people drank their way through grad and undergrad.

None the less, I can certainly see your point on the child having some difficulty culturally, but usually the child is brought up to lean towards one race or the other, depending on the parents.

I don't feel that the issue merits an interracial couple to NOT have children;, they will need to do their job to prepare them for the woes and racism of society, just like any other parent, no matter the race of the child.

Long topic thread. Not jumping in but I agree. The only way society is ever going to change is to have people change.

the more people engage in interracial relationships the more it will become the norm.

Kids have it hard for many reasons. They learn to get by.

 

[jessie_101]

You're entititled to your opinion.

Anybody can google. Your posts are lacking. Period.

 

[jessie_101]

How does one flex their degrees? I was asked a question about my education and I answered it. I'm proud of my degree I worked hard for it. My degree wasn't handed to me like some students. I love my job and I love working with kids. Thats why I went back and got my masters and Phd in child psychology. I admit being an alumni of UNC has opened doors to opportunities others may not have. I worked very hard and have earned everything I have in my life. I work with kids who have this issue on a daily basis. For anyone to say "I don't deal with reality" is ignorant. There are children who have KILLED themselves over this. Yet I am the uneducated one. I hope this never happens but I'll tell you what Carolina Girl... next time a child commits suicide over this I'll send you a pm, you can come to my office and tell the childs parents they aren't dealing with reality.. I'll help you up off the floor after they knock you out. I'm done talking about this. Have a nice day .

Why do people feel the need to 'flex' their degrees? Unnecessary. Some VERY smart people have nothing but a high school diploma and some pretty stupid people drank their way through grad and undergrad.

None the less, I can certainly see your point on the child having some difficulty culturally, but usually the child is brought up to lean towards one race or the other, depending on the parents.

I don't feel that the issue merits an interracial couple to NOT have children;, they will need to do their job to prepare them for the woes and racism of society, just like any other parent, no matter the race of the child.

 

[FerretRescue]

How does one flex their degrees? I was asked a question about my education and I answered it. I'm proud of my degree I worked hard for it. My degree wasn't handed to me like some students. I love my job and I love working with kids. Thats why I went back and got my masters and Phd in child psychology. I admit being an alumni of UNC has opened doors to opportunities others may not have. I worked very hard and have earned everything I have in my life. I work with kids who have this issue on a daily basis. For anyone to say "I don't deal with reality" is ignorant. There are children who have KILLED themselves over this. Yet I am the uneducated one. I hope this never happens but I'll tell you what Carolina Girl... next time a child commits suicide over this I'll send you a pm, you can come to my office and tell the childs parents they they aren't dealing with reality.. I'll help you up off the floor after they knock you out. I'm done talking about this. Have a nice day .

sorry not buying it. You are just not Doctor material.

 

[Chuck Norris]

How does one flex their degrees? I was asked a question about my education and I answered it. I'm proud of my degree I worked hard for it. My degree wasn't handed to me like some students. I love my job and I love working with kids. Thats why I went back and got my masters and Phd in child psychology. I admit being an alumni of UNC has opened doors to opportunities others may not have. I worked very hard and have earned everything I have in my life. I work with kids who have this issue on a daily basis. For anyone to say "I don't deal with reality" is ignorant. There are children who have KILLED themselves over this. Yet I am the uneducated one. I hope this never happens but I'll tell you what Carolina Girl... next time a child commits suicide over this I'll send you a pm, you can come to my office and tell the childs parents they aren't dealing with reality.. I'll help you up off the floor after they knock you out. I'm done talking about this. Have a nice day .

The only knock out may be the one Chuck Norris delivers to you after a swift roundhouse kick to the chin. Nobody in this thread seems to buy into what your selling. Chuck Norris has 3 degrees - Pain, Suffering and the "Chuck Norris School of Cooking".

Chuck Norris will also beat down those doors opened by UNC with the fists hidden under his beard, take the basketball signed by Michael Jordan and bounce it off your PhD-having (or not having) noggin and make it in the basket - nothing but net.

 

[FerretRescue]

The only knock out may be the one Chuck Norris delivers to you after a swift roundhouse kick to the chin. Nobody in this thread seems to buy into what your selling. Chuck Norris has 3 degrees - Pain, Suffering and the "Chuck Norris School of Cooking".

 

[(((echo)))]

i'd go for some chocolate, just as long as its light chocolate and not that "blurple" stuff

 

[Lexib_]

You guys are evil. Cut her some slack..... We all are entitled to our opinions...

i'd go for some chocolate, just as long as its light chocolate and not that "blurple" stuff

 

[CRoyal]

How does one flex their degrees? I was asked a question about my education and I answered it. I'm proud of my degree I worked hard for it. My degree wasn't handed to me like some students. I love my job and I love working with kids. Thats why I went back and got my masters and Phd in child psychology. I admit being an alumni of UNC has opened doors to opportunities others may not have. I worked very hard and have earned everything I have in my life. I work with kids who have this issue on a daily basis. For anyone to say "I don't deal with reality" is ignorant. There are children who have KILLED themselves over this. Yet I am the uneducated one. I hope this never happens but I'll tell you what Carolina Girl... next time a child commits suicide over this I'll send you a pm, you can come to my office and tell the childs parents they aren't dealing with reality.. I'll help you up off the floor after they knock you out. I'm done talking about this. Have a nice day .

You should know a good proctologist with your connections...

to get that big stick removed.


I respected your opinion, just not the flaunting, don't get your panties in a bunch woman. So effin preachy.