Bridal Shower/Wedding

[Speedy70]

My now husband was on your side that is why we stayed on the lower end. One of my close friends on the other hand, had all the bells and whistles so she spent around 65,000. She even had a party bus for close friends and the bridal party so that no one had to drive.

Again, that's insane. My husband and I paid for the whole wedding ourselves (including my gown). I can't believe people pay that much for a one day event.

 

[CityGrl]

My first wedding cost $5K. Yea, mon....Will you marry her, mon?

 

[tastycakes]

I didn't even pay that much for my car.

Had very generous friends and family so we made it all back in gifts from the wedding. Sounds crazy I'm sure, but that is just the norm there.

 

[Chasey_Lane]

My first wedding cost $5K. Yea, mon....Will you marry her, mon?

Damn, ST was cheap back then.

j/k

 

[virgovictoria]

Here's my take...

If you are close and are attending both - the bridal shower and wedding as a guest, then both would be a good idea - or a combined gift, if it is a substantial one, and you should be able to convey that to your friend...

If you are close and are attending the shower and are in the wedding, then you should not only be helping to give what they need to start a life, but of yourself to make it go smoothly....

Come to think of it, I had three showers... One at college - my girlfriends held one for me there... Another at home, with family... And yet another in the home state of my ex-husband where women friends of his family threw the old-fashioned "starter" shower - with kitchen utensils, baking items, etc..

(I did not know a single one at the third, but it was a small town and they felt it was their duty to set me up proper)

 

[tastycakes]

Again, that's insane. My husband and I paid for the whole wedding ourselves (including my gown). I can't believe people pay that much for a one day event.

I can say that my husband and I paid for our wedding. The only thing that someone else paid for was the flowers (my Mom wanted to do that).

 

[Chasey_Lane]

If you are close and are attending the shower and are in the wedding, then you should not only be helping to give what they need to start a life, but of yourself to make it go smoothly....

Typically, the bridal party will pay for their own dress, shoes, accessories, etc. On average I'd say the cost is roughly $200 per person. Not to mention a gift/money for the new couple starting out. I think that's plenty to get them on their way.

 

[tastycakes]

Where the hell are you from anyway? That is a crapload of money for a wedding.


Signed,

I'm from NY originally.

 

[CityGrl]

Damn, ST was cheap back then.

j/k

Shotgun weddings are cheap.

I thought you were doing Vegas?

 

[Nickel]

I can say that my husband and I paid for our wedding. The only thing that someone else paid for was the flowers (my Mom wanted to do that).

My husband and I paid for our wedding too, but we weren't $30k poorer after having done so.

 

[virgovictoria]

Typically, the bridal party will pay for their own dress, shoes, accessories, etc. On average I'd say the cost is roughly $200 per person. Not to mention a gift/money for the new couple starting out. I think that's plenty to get them on their way.

didn't say that it wasn't... giving of themselves is the gift is more of the point I was trying to make... apparently, a point not so well made

 

[Speedy70]

My husband and I paid for our wedding too, but we weren't $30k poorer after having done so.

Seriously! My husband would have had a heart attack if I told him we needed that much for our wedding.

 

[Chasey_Lane]

Shotgun weddings are cheap.

I thought you were doing Vegas?

Yep, leaving Monday 08/14. FYI, Elvis is NOT officiating.

 

[Speedy70]

Yep, leaving Monday 08/14. FYI, Elvis is NOT officiating.

Will you get married in a chapel that has an online cam so we can watch?

 

[harleygirl]

Yep, leaving Monday 08/14. FYI, Elvis is NOT officiating.

Congrats, Chasey!! I must say my niece's wedding out there was beautiful. Chapel was very elegant, and the minister that did the ceremony brought tears to my eyes. It was better than any "church" wedding I have attended.

 

[Chasey_Lane]

Congrats, Chasey!! I must say my niece's wedding out there was beautiful. Chapel was very elegant, and the minister that did the ceremony brought tears to my eyes. It was better than any "church" wedding I have attended.

No chapel; we'll be outside.

 

[Trunk Monkey]

Yep, leaving Monday 08/14. FYI, Elvis is NOT officiating.

I picked my robe up from the cleaners, I almost have the vows completed and I am flattered you asked me to perform your ceremony. I don't mind officiating but I am NOT flying to Vegas in the cargo hold with stupid dogs. You have to spring for the ticket.

 

[tastycakes]

Each to their own, but IMO it's excessive and not necessary. I consider one's wedding day to be an opportunity to have one's friends and family stop what they are doing to acknowledge the love and commitment of the marrying couple. I don't think it should be a day based on materialistic values and braggin' rights...:shrug:

This is just the norm there. Has nothing to do with bragging rights. Honestly, the one thing that had bragging rights to it was who came up with the best favor. This was also usually the cheapest cost of the whole event. It's all done in just having a great time.

 

[ememdee19]

Usually a gift at the bridal shower (something off a registry) and then I always give money at the wedding.

See, I was always under the impression that bridal showers were more personal. Meaning...all the girls would get together and buy stupid gag gifts or lingerie, etc. At least that's what I've always been accustomed to. However, since I've lived here I've been to two showers and at both I was told to purchase something from the registry for the shower AND the wedding.

 

[Speedy70]

No chapel; we'll be outside.