JULZ
BFJ
i could see 4d walking in on me spanking his 16 yr oldthat kid would be bad all the time!
First lesson: 16 year olds don't get spanked.
Dating and Spoiled Children
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First lesson: 16 year olds don't get spanked.
What kind of parenting style is 4D using at home now?
I think 4D spanks her when she's bad and also when she's good.
Black-Francis
New Member
JULZ
BFJ
pixiegirl
Cleopatra Jones
Well we haven't come across any huge parenting issues but there have been discipline issues with both our kids. If he's outside with a couple of them and I'm inside with a couple of them both of our kids will listen to the other. If he doesn't like what one of my kids is doing he has full right to be the adult and command the situation and the reverse is true. It comes down to adults and children and age really plays no factor.
I have an old coworker that I'm friends (who has custody of his kids who are a good deal older than mine) with and I remember giving him parenting advice on how to deal with an adolecent girl; I was in my early 20s and he was knocking on 40. Sometimes its not about age or experience but more so about common sense.
I guess the point I was trying to make is you may not have or want so much of a say in life altering paretal choices but you absolutely do a have a right to parenting choices made in your home. If he wants to let his kids act like heathens (which I'm not saying he does) and run the house that's his choice but in your home you have a choice too.
WOW!
Glad I wasnt a bad girl when I was over!
Good rules
Do you need a spanking young lady?
kvj21075
Meow
girl at 16 yrs old spanking is not going to help and not an option
a "come to Jesus" talk would be more like it and then take things away!
it was a joke, i can only be serious for so long
they get whipped?
you know it!!
I am in my thirties and still love being spanked.....
kvj21075
Meow
Well we haven't come across any huge parenting issues but there have been discipline issues with both our kids. If he's outside with a couple of them and I'm inside with a couple of them both of our kids will listen to the other. If he doesn't like what one of my kids is doing he has full right to be the adult and command the situation and the reverse is true. It comes down to adults and children and age really plays no factor.
I have an old coworker that I'm friends (who has custody of his kids who are a good deal older than mine) with and I remember giving him parenting advice on how to deal with an adolecent girl; I was in my early 20s and he was knocking on 40. Sometimes its not about age or experience but more so about common sense.
I guess the point I was trying to make is you may not have or want so much of a say in life altering paretal choices but you absolutely do a have a right to parenting choices made in your home. If he wants to let his kids act like heathens (which I'm not saying he does) and run the house that's his choice but in your home you have a choice too.
Do you need a spanking young lady?
thats where agreed upon "rules" are talked about beforehand, as far as "parenting" i know im "old" enough for it. i think it does have to do with experience and age, in some ways atleast. what if his kid was 17 and i was 19? do u think a 19 yr old stepmom should really be parenting a 17 yr old? helping enforce "rules" is one thing, making life decisions is another.
JULZ
BFJ
I am in my thirties and still love being spanked.....
Will you pull my hair too please?
Black-Francis
New Member
kvj21075
Meow
oh pix, also u have kids too, you both are parents. i think that makes a difference too.
i will say, bringing our kids together now ha sbeen tough (our kitties), and we are still working on it. we just made some progress in the past 2 days
i was worried we were going to have to give one or two of them up 
but things are looking up 
i will say, bringing our kids together now ha sbeen tough (our kitties), and we are still working on it. we just made some progress in the past 2 days
i was worried we were going to have to give one or two of them up but things are looking up
JULZ
BFJ
oh pix, also u have kids too, you both are parents. i think that makes a difference too.
i will say, bringing our kids together now ha sbeen tough (our kitties), and we are still working on it. we just made some progress in the past 2 days
Just because someone is a parent doesn't mean they have parenting skills.
pixiegirl
Cleopatra Jones
If the step parent is making more sense than the bio parent, yes. Case in point my above referenced example. I was in my early 20s and the girl in question was 12 or so. She was very much like the OP's boyfriends daughter. Dad was biatching about her but treating her the same for many of the same reasons. I think she'd wanted a cat or something and the deal was she was to take care of it which she wasn't at all. I told him to get rid of the damn cat if she didn't take her responsibility seriously. He didn't want to be the bad guy, blah blah blah. I told him he should be her parent and not her friend and sometimes being the parent meant making choices that the kids don't like. He wasn't teaching her anything good by letting her get away with not holding up her end of the deal. I don't know what he ever did but that was very sound parenting advice from someone too inexperienced to give it. It didn't affect my life so I really don't care if he took it or not or if that girl is now a heathen. BUT if I had a personal involvement and his choices affected my quality of life I'd certainly have cared.
kvj21075
Meow
thats true lol
Don't listen to Pixie - she thinks she rules the world. You are right and she is wrong.
The end.
Whether the step is making more sense than the bio is a matter of opinion. And when it's a matter of opinion, the bio parents win.
kvj21075
Meow
pixiegirl
Cleopatra Jones
When and if it affects her life her opinion absolutely matters. I don't think that I rule the world, in fact quite the contrary. When and if it affects kvj's quality of life she has a say. What if one or all of the children want to live with kvj and 4D, both parents are ok with it and think that it is best for the kids; does kvj not have a say?
kvj21075
Meow
i think thats something that should be discussed before marriage, and we have
This has already been discussed. If it's something that affects KVJ and her home, she will be a part of the conversation and have her say. If it's something regarding the kid alone - the example was if he wants to get a tattoo - then it will be up to the parents and she will butt out.
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Chasey_Lane
Salt Life
When you have two married people living under one roof, each with a different set of rules, who wins?
