Dating and Spoiled Children
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nomoney
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we have talked about it, my question is really, what kind of problems might i run into. i wanted some advice from people who may have had thise experience
How often will they be in your care?
Cowgirl
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JULZ
BFJ
That's a good way to think it will go down. But a 16 year old that is hard pressed to do something will badger the sh!t out of you and beg you to be on his side if his parents say no.
sockgirl77
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we have talked about it, my question is really, what kind of problems might i run into. i wanted some advice from people who may have had thise experience
There are a million potential problems, and things others have experienced that won't be a problem for you at all. It's really hard to tell, especially considering I don't know either of you except in cyberworld.
:shrug:
SO funny you should say that!
The thought HAS crossed my mind! However he sees all of her behavior as "typical teenage behavior." I think no matter what, she will never be held accountable for her behavior, nor will she ever have limits.
If I had been "typical" toward my parents, I wouldn't have made it to age of 18!
Maybe you should show him this thread. It could be an eye-opener.
The thought HAS crossed my mind! However he sees all of her behavior as "typical teenage behavior." I think no matter what, she will never be held accountable for her behavior, nor will she ever have limits.
If I had been "typical" toward my parents, I wouldn't have made it to age of 18!
Eh. It's pretty easy to walk away from a badgering kid who's not yours.
Maybe the best advice I can give KVJ is:
If you are pressed for an opinion, always side with the parents, NEVER the kids. Even if you think Mom and Dad are being boneheads, never take the kid's part. The second you side with the kid, you become his ally - you and him against the adults.
(Unless the issue is physical abuse or something extreme like that - seems obvious but I figured I'd clarify just for the nitpickers out there.)
kvj21075
Meow
thanks
JULZ
BFJ
I agree with your comment to always side with the parents. And you are right there are so many things that can come up that it's hard to plan for how something will happeng and I think that's what I was trying to get across when I said not to be "the friend".
Bottom line is that kvj and 4d need to have a clear understanding of how they will parent the kids as a now blended family and the children need to understand that kvj is not their equal.
Black-Francis
New Member
My stepfather always stayed out of it, and I was a handful, believe it or not!
JULZ
BFJ
Seriously, you....a handful....no way!
Black-Francis
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Black-Francis
New Member
my poor momma!
pixiegirl
Cleopatra Jones
I wholeheartedly disagree with those that say to stay out of it and leave all the decisions up to the bio parents. My house, my rules. I don't care if it's Mk's kids, friends kids or my own mother. You step foot in my house, you live by my rules. Fortunately MK and I have similar parenting styles so it's been a smooth transition with both mine and his kids. We don't spank each others kids but have no problem sitting them in time out or whatever else.
kvj21075
Meow
but like they said- im 22, i dont think a 22 year old should be parenting a 16 yr old, or even a 12 yr old... or 8 yr old. im sure we would have to agree on house rules, and we both talked about that already. but i can not parent someone elses kids, especially with no experience.
ICit
Jam out with ur clam out
WOW!
Glad I wasnt a bad girl when I was over!
Or maybe I should have been? I may have got the "whatever else"!Good rules
kvj21075
Meow
i could see 4d walking in on me spanking his 16 yr oldWOW!
Glad I wasnt a bad girl when I was over!
Good rules
that kid would be bad all the time!
ICit
Jam out with ur clam out
i could see 4d walking in on me spanking his 16 yr old
girl at 16 yrs old spanking is not going to help and not an option
a "come to Jesus" talk would be more like it and then take things away!