I was going to suggest slowlying working it out until the "attack" word was used and now that u've cleared that up from above - No Man or Woman, should act like child and throw and break things.. I lived with my father who did that crap but he was physically abusive towards my mother and his children to some degree.. its only a matter of time before the slapping starts.. I hate to say it - but i'd leave.. Hes the one who cheated, he should realize he needs to prove to you - you can trust him and prove himself worthy of you again and hes not doing that if hes acting like that..
Forgiving A Cheater
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I was going to suggest slowlying working it out until the "attack" word was used and now that u've cleared that up from above - No Man or Woman, should act like child and throw and break things.. I lived with my father who did that crap but he was physically abusive towards my mother and his children to some degree.. its only a matter of time before the slapping starts.. I hate to say it - but i'd leave.. Hes the one who cheated, he should realize he needs to prove to you - you can trust him and prove himself worthy of you again and hes not doing that if hes acting like that..
Wrong. Are you trying to tell me that if any of the girls had an abusive husband, we wouldn't do what we could to get him out of there? And if he were abusing our daughter in a house that WE owned, even though they were renting it, we wouldn't throw him out bodily?
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shygirlmd
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Don't really want to know the details. I agree that you should try to save the relationship but violence is a deal-breaker in my opinion (verbal or otherwise). I am glad that things worked out for you and your husband.
MMDad
Lem Putt
I agree , once a cheater always a cheater! no doubt about it
Especially a younger man. If he's forgiven, he learns that he can get away with it.
rack'm
Jaded
Vince
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If it were my daughter? I would probably do a little more than throw him out.
MDTerps
Back in the saddle
In some cases
I loved my ex-husband too. But sometimes it's better to get OUT for the children! Not everyone has the same situation as you. If you trust your husband that he isn't cheating any more, then good for you. But some people, once a cheater always a cheater. I took my ex back more times then I care to actually add up. Why? B/c we have a child and I felt the child deserved the best from me and for me to forgive and forget. Well I did several times only to be crapped on over and over and treated like trash.
By leaving I have given my son something better of me. Showing him that no one deserves to be treated the way I was. Now he gets to see a real relationship where two people love, trust, respect and enjoy being with each other.
I'm guessing there is more to this situation then she is telling. Sounds like this isn't the first time.
rack'm
Jaded
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Keep...
...up here. She has no dad. It's just mom.
But I agree, if Kyle starts beating her husband too bad, I will get him out of there and get him some self defense classes. And if Alex makes hers feel too much like and idiot all the time, I will march right over there and take him out for a beer or 10 and feel his pain for awhile. And if Emily and her beau get along to well and are too pleasant and agreeable all the time I will go over and start some trouble. For their own good.
Halfangel seems know what she has on her hands and I think she sees it's time for her to step up to her business. Maybe her mom got the message through?
...up here. She has no dad. It's just mom.
But I agree, if Kyle starts beating her husband too bad, I will get him out of there and get him some self defense classes. And if Alex makes hers feel too much like and idiot all the time, I will march right over there and take him out for a beer or 10 and feel his pain for awhile. And if Emily and her beau get along to well and are too pleasant and agreeable all the time I will go over and start some trouble. For their own good.
Halfangel seems know what she has on her hands and I think she sees it's time for her to step up to her business. Maybe her mom got the message through?
PrepH4U
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rack'm
Jaded
and since she's already looking for things, the end is already here, she's just looking for someone to talk her out of what she already knows.
Yes, of course, there's more than I'm telling! I can say that I've hidden a lot of things from a lot of people. . . . My husband is a recovering alcoholic/addict. He's been clean for about 2.5 years now. That's when things turned sour - although you'd expect the opposite, right?? He put me through the ringer for about 8 years - sneaking out of the house for crack, and taking my ATM card to withdraw the rent money with him. Kinda see why mom no likes him? But I would always hide it from her, claiming that I had had an unexpected expense come up. I did not do drugs with him - and a heavy night for me is 2 wine coolers! But still, I loved him. This was my husband, I picked him and vowed to stay for better or worse.
Obviously, the things I saw THIS MORNING hurt me bad - bad enough to come on to here, a place where people don't really know me and 'noobs' are generally slammed and ask for opinions.
I am at the end of my rope with the situation. He acts like he is the only 'victim' because he was thrown out - and I'm devastated that, for once in my life, I can't make everybody happy. Even if it is at my own expense. . . .
Obviously, the things I saw THIS MORNING hurt me bad - bad enough to come on to here, a place where people don't really know me and 'noobs' are generally slammed and ask for opinions.
I am at the end of my rope with the situation. He acts like he is the only 'victim' because he was thrown out - and I'm devastated that, for once in my life, I can't make everybody happy. Even if it is at my own expense. . . .
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Eight Years????
...where are you? Me and Vrail are coming down to beat your azz, young lady. Just remember, it's gonna hurt you more than us.
Then we'll hug you and have a little talk about how we do.
...where are you? Me and Vrail are coming down to beat your azz, young lady. Just remember, it's gonna hurt you more than us.
Then we'll hug you and have a little talk about how we do.
shygirlmd
New Member
You are a people pleaser just like me. You need to please yourself first, take care of your little girl and let him find his own path. You can't save everyone, only yourself. Good luck with whatever you do. You and your little girl will be in my thoughts and prayers.
jetmonkey
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you stupid
Larry Gude
Strung Out
rack'm
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