How would you like your son to marry this little #####?

[JabbaJawz]

A son is son until he takes a wife
But a daughter is a daughter for the rest of your life.

Oh God!! That's awful!!!

 

[Pete]

I did that because my parents insisted that my mother had done nothing wrong. In my judgment, they were refusing to respect the boundaries I had set regarding my wife and child. I didn't feel I could trust them ever again. A mother who would try to look at her DIL half-naked would be capable of kidnapping a grandchild from his or her school.

psssssssst you are starting to sound mental

 

[kwillia]

IMO the courthouse wedding is the real wedding. Any ceremony after the fact is simply a "dog 'n pony show". So called "getting married" a second time does not make them anymore married. It is a farce.

 

[vraiblonde]

Our decision was to have only me and my mother-in-law in the delivery room, and have everyone else wait in the waiting room.

That is one of the more hurtful things I've ever heard of. One grandma gets to watch her grandbaby come into the world - the other one gets to sit in the waiting room. Anyway, now I think I understand your estrangement with your family a little better.

For the record, I don't think this is the DIL's doing. It's Doug and her mother. The mother wants to marry the girl off ASAP and Doug wants to please the mother. I could call and appeal to the DIL but I don't want to put anymore pressure on her.

I'm not going to call and beg to be invited to their marriage. If he wanted us there, he'd have said so. I'm just upset because we had such a nice weekend in NY and had so much fun. Now this.

So I'll probably spend the day feeling sorry for myself, then get over it and move on.

 

[huntr1]

Get real.

You said so yourself, she was the other labor coach.

I read that as meaning that HER mother was the other labor coach. He was the primary I would assume. I still think he is an idjit for cutting them out of his life for this crap.

 

[Bogart]

http://www.nzherald.co.nz/storydisplay.cfm?storyID=3611808&thesection=news&thesubsection=general&thesecondsubsection=

 

[Tonio]

Anyway Tonio, you have to remember that our children only get one shot knowing grandma and grandpa. They will not understand your reasons, they will resent you and your wife for steeling the opportunity to know them. That is JMO.

What I'm saying is that it would be worse if my kids knew my family. It's not just my parents. We tried reconciling for a while, but the family pretty much ignored the kids at family gatherings. And my brother called our younger daughter a "vodka baby."

 

[huntr1]

That is one of the more hurtful things I've ever heard of. One grandma gets to watch her grandbaby come into the world - the other one gets to sit in the waiting room.

 

[2ndAmendment]

I did that because my parents insisted that my mother had done nothing wrong. In my judgment, they were refusing to respect the boundaries I had set regarding my wife and child. I didn't feel I could trust them ever again. A mother who would try to look at her DIL half-naked would be capable of kidnapping a grandchild from his or her school.

JMHO but I think you are way over the top on this.

 

[Sharon]

I read that as meaning that HER mother was the other labor coach. He was the primary I would assume. I still think he is an idjit for cutting them out of his life for this crap.

Oh I see... but what's so wrong about his mother calling her mother, if she was to be there anyway?

 

[Oz]

psssssssst you are starting to sound mental

Yeah, it's not like T has ever sounded that way before...

Seriously though, its unfortunate that folks have family issues that lead to extreme measures. Sounds like if his folks had just said "we disagree, but we apologize for making you feel that way" then his situation wouldn't be where he described it.

 

[vraiblonde]

A mother who would try to look at her DIL half-naked would be capable of kidnapping a grandchild from his or her school.

Tonio, as hurt as I am with my own son, right now I'm very thankful for him. At least he's not you.

Your mother wasn't trying to look at your half-naked wife. She wanted to see the birth of her grandchild. If you think that makes her a horrible person who would kidnap children, you need to seek help.

 

[Tonio]

That is one of the more hurtful things I've ever heard of. One grandma gets to watch her grandbaby come into the world - the other one gets to sit in the waiting room.

I bet that's how my mother viewed the situation, like it was "No fair! No fair!" Think of it this way--would you want Larry's mom to have viewed your kids' deliveries, to see your most private part of your anatomy splayed out for almost-public viewing during a very vulnerable time for you?

 

[Oz]

Tonio, as hurt as I am with my own son, right now I'm very thankful for him. At least he's not you.

Your mother wasn't trying to look at your half-naked wife. She wanted to see the birth of her grandchild. If you think that makes her a horrible person who would kidnap children, you need to seek help.

Chicks perspective - seeing grandchild's birth.

Guy's perspective - It's wrong to have a naked chick (wife in this case) and your own mother in the same room...

Clear it up for you?

 

[Tonio]

I still think he is an idjit for cutting them out of his life for this crap.

Will you just cram it, you tard?! No one has the right to pass judgment on me for this or anything else. None of you know what it's like to be greviously betrayed by your parents. I asked them to love my wife as they love me, and they did what they wanted without regard for her feelings. On top of that, they told me I had no right to get angry at them about anything. I refuse to roll over and let them push my wife around.

 

[CableChick]

Don't lecture me about my family responsibilities! Who the hell do you think you are?!

CableChick. And I'm not stating anything different than some others here. You do have issues.

 

[Kain99]

I did that because my parents insisted that my mother had done nothing wrong. In my judgment, they were refusing to respect the boundaries I had set regarding my wife and child. I didn't feel I could trust them ever again. A mother who would try to look at her DIL half-naked would be capable of kidnapping a grandchild from his or her school.

Tonio.... I say this with the utmost respect. Please seek counseling NOW! You have seriously, over reacted and exhibit signs of delusional paranoia.

 

[CableChick]

Will you just cram it, you tard?! No one has the right to pass judgment on me for this or anything else. None of you know what it's like to be greviously betrayed by your parents. I asked them to love my wife as they love me, and they did what they wanted without regard for her feelings. On top of that, they told me I had no right to get angry at them about anything. I refuse to roll over and let them push my wife around.

Yeah, they attempted to be a part of a wonderful thing .. the birth of your child and their grandchild. Off with their heads! I'm sure there are worse things they could have done that would have deserved such unkind re-actions.

 

[Tonio]

Tonio.... I say this with the utmost respect. Please seek counseling NOW! You have seriously, over reacted and exhibit signs of delusional paranoia.

OK, so I did exaggerate. Get off my back, willya? My point is that my mother can't be trusted when it comes to my wife and kids. It wasn't what she did so much as that she wouldn't acknowledge our objection.

 

[Pete]

OK, so I did exaggerate. Get off my back, willya? My point is that my mother can't be trusted when it comes to my wife and kids. It wasn't what she did so much as that she wouldn't acknowledge our objection.

Didn't we talk about this before You know, the part where you wank about how evil your family is openly on the firum, then people jump on you, then you get mad? How all those other people are wrong and you are right.

Dude if you hate your parents there is no law that says ou ever have to talk to them again. You really should get over it before Oprah or Montel's people get wind of this and give you a call. Then whamo Oprah's crying and Montel is offering to pay for a shrink.