How would you like your son to marry this little #####?

[Tonio]

Yeah, they attempted to be a part of a wonderful thing .. the birth of your child and their grandchild.

Of course it was wonderful, but we still wanted some privacy for the actual delivery.

 

[kwillia]

I bet that's how my mother viewed the situation, like it was "No fair! No fair!" Think of it this way--would you want Larry's mom to have viewed your kids' deliveries, to see your most private part of your anatomy splayed out for almost-public viewing during a very vulnerable time for you?

Get a grip. She could very easily have been seated at the head of your wife's body and viewed the birth of her grandchild without seeing the intricate nooks and crannies of your wife's box. As for your birth family not bonding with your aquired family... it sounds to me like it would be hard to form a bond when constant emotional walls and roadblocks are being thrown about. You can't have it both ways, Tonio. You felt the need to 'protect' your wife and kids from your family, you can't get outraged at your family for being all weird about it. You made a choice, live with it and get over it. Don't continue to harbor ill-will and let it fester. It's not healthy for you or your kids.

 

[Kizzy]

Tonio,

Private parts She is a women, all women come with the same equipment, now if the FIL wanted to come in the labor room, and he barged in, I would have stuck the IV stand up his arse.

She didn't have to have a birds eye view between the legs, she could have sat in a chair in the room without looking down there.

 

[sleuth]

What I'm saying is that it would be worse if my kids knew my family. It's not just my parents. We tried reconciling for a while, but the family pretty much ignored the kids at family gatherings. And my brother called our younger daughter a "vodka baby."

Tonio.. you know I don't like to be negative...
but the choice of whether your children want to get to know their grandparents should be left up to them, not you.

Not unless you feel your children would be in some kind of mortal danger as a result of them having a relationship.

If you force the issue of keeping your kids away from their grandparents, your kids will resent you, not your grandparents.

As for the delivery room debacle? :shrug: I'm gonna keep my trap shut until I'm the protective husband in the delivery room.

 

[Kain99]

OK, so I did exaggerate. Get off my back, willya? My point is that my mother can't be trusted when it comes to my wife and kids. It wasn't what she did so much as that she wouldn't acknowledge our objection.

Tonio you sound like a spoiled rotten brat! GOD! They were excited about the new grandbaby for Christ's sake!

Answer me honestly..... Is this you, or is it your wife brain washing you to hate your Mom and Dad because she is insecure and jealous?

Just curious....

 

[vraiblonde]

None of you know what it's like to be greviously betrayed by your parents.

Because they wanted to be included in the birth of their grandchild.

Tonio, you should have married my ex-husband. His parents were so weird about "meddling" that they never had anything to do with us. I asked his mother to teach me how to make sauerbraten and she wouldn't because she didn't want to be accused of "trying to tell me how to cook for her son". Anytime I tried to call her for advice, she'd just say, "I'm sure you'll figure it out".

 

[Pete]

Tonio you sound like a spoiled rotten brat! GOD! They were excited about the new grandbaby for Christ's sake!

Answer me honestly..... Is this you, or is it your wife brain washing you to hate your Mom and Dad because she is insecure and jealous?

Just curious....

This dose of reality is brought to you by; The California Almond Growers Association, "Just a can a week is all we ask."

And by Pfiser; makers of fine medications for mental illness because a mind is a terrible thing.



No Kain I do not think you are nuts or the one who needs medication for this topic.

 

[vraiblonde]

Not unless you feel your children would be in some kind of mortal danger as a result of them having a relationship.

Didn't you read where Tonio thinks his folks would kidnap his children from school?

 

[Kizzy]

~ and I have handed out all my karma today. Darn

 

[sleuth]

Didn't you read where Tonio thinks his folks would kidnap his children from school?

:shrug: He just said they were "capable".

Hell, I know lots of capable people.

 

[Tonio]

Answer me honestly..... Is this you, or is it your wife brain washing you to hate your Mom and Dad because she is insecure and jealous?

Just the opposite--in fact, she once suggested that we could placate my family by me going to holiday events by myself, without her or the kids. She's more worried than I am that our kids won't get to know my family, even though she herself never wants to see my mother again.

 

[Tonio]

Because they wanted to be included in the birth of their grandchild.

I understand that. My point is, they should have asked. They never even brought up the subject.

 

[huntr1]

Will you just cram it, you tard?! No one has the right to pass judgment on me for this or anything else. None of you know what it's like to be greviously betrayed by your parents. I asked them to love my wife as they love me, and they did what they wanted without regard for her feelings. On top of that, they told me I had no right to get angry at them about anything. I refuse to roll over and let them push my wife around.

I'm a tard for thinking you are an idjit for thinking your MOTHER will kidnap YOUR child just because she wanted to be there for the birth of her grandchild? I DO think she was out of line for trying to barge in after being told in no uncertain terms not to, but dayum, talk about blowing things out of proportion. Look, if you are going to publicly post this crap in the open forums, you are going to get opinions from those of us with which you have decided to share this information. So if you are offended by the opinions which we post, YOU are the TARD for having posted it in the first place.

 

[Kain99]

Just the opposite--in fact, she once suggested that we could placate my family by me going to holiday events by myself, without her or the kids. She's more worried than I am that our kids won't get to know my family, even though she herself never wants to see my mother again.

Oh, she sounds so perfect! Dude get real!

If she loved you, she would put up with any crazy BS your family pulled! Heck we all do it! The above offer, is just another way to let you know that you "Must Chose" Oh the drama!

And you my friend, are letting it happen!

 

[Kizzy]

Just the opposite--in fact, she once suggested that we could placate my family by me going to holiday events by myself, without her or the kids. She's more worried than I am that our kids won't get to know my family, even though she herself never wants to see my mother again.

Without your kids? Wow.

I encouraged my DH to go to family dinners, holidays, and birthdays for the longest time WITH the kids, so they had the family connection, of course I stayed back. I needed the distance to learn to accept things and better deal with them. After awhile, I rejoined and actually the relationship improved a great deal. I grew a back bone.

 

[mAlice]

Oh, she sounds so perfect! Dude get real!

If she loved you, she would put up with any crazy BS your family pulled! Heck we all do it!

No, not all of us. Not only do I not have a relationship with most members of my own family, I also refuse to put up with the in-law crap. It's not uncommon for FB to visit his family without me or our daughter.

 

[Tonio]

I'm a tard for thinking you are an idjit for thinking your MOTHER will kidnap YOUR child just because she wanted to be there for the birth of her grandchild? I DO think she was out of line for trying to barge in after being told in no uncertain terms not to, but dayum, talk about blowing things out of proportion. Look, if you are going to publicly post this crap in the open forums, you are going to get opinions from those of us with which you have decided to share this information. So if you are offended by the opinions which we post, YOU are the TARD for having posted it in the first place.

Look, I already said I was unnecessarily exaggerating. You got nasty with me, so I got nasty right back.

 

[cattitude]

You guys are depressing me. :sad:

A family member can be gone in an instant and then it's too late. This is Thanksgiving week...call a loved one.

 

[mAlice]

A family member can be gone in an instant and then it's too late. This is Thanksgiving week...call a loved one.

That's what FB says, too. I tell him if he wants to talk to them so bad, he should call them himself.

 

[Kain99]

You guys are depressing me. :sad:

A family member can be gone in an instant and then it's too late. This is Thanksgiving week...call a loved one.

I agree with Catt... Life is to short, to be so self centered.