Isn't This Kinda Cart Before The Horse?
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With ALL due respect I have to say,I agree with Gilligan & Kwillia. Don't take the blame for their issues. If you can afford this why is it their business?
Time to tell them "your problem is not my problem".
DEEKAYPEE8569
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Bann, in the past, waaay back, I told the family to butt out of MY life. That came back to bite me in the a**.....HARD.
So now, when I do something.....even like this major purchase, without saying anything, I catch H*ll first for not informing the only people in the world who really care about me; and for 'not trusting' enough to say anything.
I didn't say anything to the family about buying a new car; not because I don't trust them; trust has nothing to do with it. I just knew an attempt would be made to try to talk me out of it.
My not saying anything to anybody is a form of deception in my family; so I'm guilty by omission.
Three things my; or any normal family; absolutely will not tolerate are sneaks, liars and thieves; just to name a few. In this case, I was being a sneak; 'deceptive through silence.' So, it's 'why this?' and 'why that?' and 'what if?' 'what if?'
'Now, you're on the hook for a car payment for however many years.' 'What if something happens and you need money for.....' Etc., etc.. H*ll, if I worried about 'what if's' every day, I'd never get outta bed.
How old are you?
DEEKAYPEE8569
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You first. Let's just say, plenty old enough to be lecturing my yet-to-be-had 21 year-old kids about the evils of drinking and driving.
Those are things any 16 or 17 year-old should be cautioned about by their parents.
I ask, because you come across like a really immature whiner. :shrug:
Hank
my war
Does your Mom require assistance that forces you to live there? I think it is time you spread those wings and fly, Holmes.... You should have spent that money on your car for a down payment on your own pad. I can be your Life Coach! I accept cash, check, credit cards & PayPal.
DEEKAYPEE8569
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I was. So was my Brother. We are both a wee bit past 16-17 now though; and we still tend to make adult versions of those mistakes. More dire consequences perhaps? Maybe, but there's only One perfect One.
DEEKAYPEE8569
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Can't you choose NOT to read my treds and posts?
DEEKAYPEE8569
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Does your Mom require assistance that forces you to live there? I think it is time you spread those wings and fly, Holmes.... You should have spent that money on your car for a down payment on your own pad. I can be your Life Coach! I accept cash, check, credit cards & PayPal.
Drinkin' heavy kinda early in the day, aren't you?
Why do you put all the dysfunctional stuff out here if you are not soliciting comments or advice??
I get that. I was just hoping for your sake that was not the case.
DEEKAYPEE8569
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That's why.
:shrug:
To me anyway, the funny part is, you people don't see my treds or my posts and think, "Oh, d*mn another one," and move on. So there must be some curiosity there; and not just a reason to b*tch.
There is also the ignore button you don't use. Try it some time. You might find that a day without even seeing a post or a tred with my name attached to it will calm you down.
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Hank
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You mad, Bro?
Who bitched? I didn't see any.... You really should take Hank up on his very generous offer. My money is him being able to help you break out of that dysfunctional situation you seem to be stuck in. Now where you'll end up afterward...might be some jail time or rehab involved, but hey, you'll have gone out with a bang. ;-)
DEEKAYPEE8569
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Nope.
DEEKAYPEE8569
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For what? What is the assumption?
Hank
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$75 an hour