Why did she spend the night if there wasn't going to be any hanky panky?
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Hank
my war
kwillia
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My first assumption would be that she had alcohol to drink and didn't want to drive under the influence and my other assumption is that not all women chose to have sex with an acquainance, but rather someone they've actually gotten to know and see as a potential for a longer relationship.
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BadGirl
I am so very blessed
Well, that's no fun.
Hank
my war
If the alcohol isn't working, Larry needs a roofie supplier.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
I think that is a reasonable question.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
I invited her to spend the night on, gosh, Friday I guess, as we'd planned a busy day and it would obviously be late and she's about 90 mins away or so.
So, it wasn't like "Oh my, I can't drive. May I crash on your couch?"
kwillia
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Well there's the answer. Makes sense to me.
kwillia
n/a
Well, that's no fun.
That's what he said.
BadGirl
I am so very blessed
Larry Gude
Strung Out
That's what she said, too.
See, and this is where I am not sure. I'm gonna ask her about it. I mean, I am wondering if she is talking to her pals and saying "Gosh, there didn't seem to be much interest on his part..."
Dunno...
kwillia
n/a
That's such a dunce move. IMO, asking if there is chemistry subtracts potential chemistry points. Go in for the move. If you are rebuffed than there is no chemistry and she simply wants you for your year 'round lettuce supply. If she is interested you will get a sense that she is and the ball will be in her court.... or balls if you like puns.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Hank
my war
Thank you!
That's the entire point of this exercise!!!!: Great advice!
I would have put out for ya, Larry!
lucky_bee
RBF expert
I hateeee it when a guy asks me if I'm interested or like him. This isn't middle school. I'm talking to you on a regular basis and agreed to go out on date #3/4/5...whatever past date #1 and 2. Why do I need to verbally confirm this?
I am now no longer interested
Larry Gude
Strung Out
I would have put out for ya, Larry!
That's so....touching...
Larry Gude
Strung Out
I am an enormous fan of direct communication.
Ah yup. And see, that's part of the complexity of this; Much of my relationship with you was some of the best parts of my life, ergo, how I interacted with you, is a clear positive to my make up and, therefore, a huge part of the equation of how I move forward and answer the question; good match for me = X and X = X2+Y/Z etc, etc, etc...point being my relationship with you is a HUGE factor, ie, DIRECT works. Very well. And is my tendency.
I mean, by ALL my reckoning I've struck another dry well, so to speak as per the 'old ways' but, in the interest of this ongoing thing I call 'my life' I am of a mind to do things differently as I go along. I'm an explorer, as it were, observing, interacting, questioning.
However, if this #### keeps up much longer I'm going down to Goodwill, get me a cheap ####ing sofa and then run over and get a beat up used van...maybe get the van first. Then dig the pit...no, wait...
This part is tricky. Not everyone sees things the same. Someone can claim they are sending all the positive signals while the other person may be encouraged but not pick up on the message. Best to make another date. If she's not feeling it she may decline, which saves you time and emotions. If she accepts then see how that date goes. Not everyone that dates is driving in the fast lane. No matter what lane you are in, enjoy the ride.
Had I only taken that bag out of your hand...
But Larry, Monello is right - slow down, hoss. Your thinking is all whichaway. You're supposed to dig the pit first.