I hear you but, this isn't over analyzing...for me.
And I am enjoying now. Work, band (we did an open mic Tuesday, but, that's another story
Larry, wouldn't ExLax have been easier?
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Larry, wouldn't ExLax have been easier?
SoMD_Fun_Guy
Do you like apples?
Larry,
I think what you are doing is the best way forward. From what you have said, the 2 of you have been open and honest about things. Time will tell if everything is as it seems and if the spark will continue, so I say "Hang on and enjoy the ride!"
I think what you are doing is the best way forward. From what you have said, the 2 of you have been open and honest about things. Time will tell if everything is as it seems and if the spark will continue, so I say "Hang on and enjoy the ride!"
2BRN2B
No Question
I hear you but, this isn't over analyzing...for me.
And I am enjoying now. Work, band (we did an open mic Tuesday, but, that's another story
Story! Are we adding another girl to the mix?
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Larry,
I think what you are doing is the best way forward. From what you have said, the 2 of you have been open and honest about things. Time will tell if everything is as it seems and if the spark will continue, so I say "Hang on and enjoy the ride!"
That's the thing. There is no hanging on. This is easy. She worries it's too easy so, I make a fart joke or something else juvenile which makes her shake her head and laugh and say "Ok, maybe not too easy..."
Radiant1
Soul Probe
Exactly! And, thank you!
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Another? Huh? No.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
I have a band, it's new. 3 piece, only have about 5 practices as a unit. Bass player is a young kid who lives Iron Maiden and Steve Harris. Drummer is my age, really ####ing old, ex of Marine Corp, was in band. FANTASTIC drummer and easy as hell to work with.
I had 16 songs ready to go but, once we brought the drummer on board, we're starting to make the songs less simplistic and really working them into good, well worked up songs so, we're sorta starting over. They both have plenty of live experience and I do not so, I'm trying to do open mics to build live experience. We rehearsed the other night and headed up to a local dive who was doing a drop in jam. Well, no drum kit, which we were counting on. So, bass player and I are like '#### it, lets jam' so we go play just him and me, no drums. I'm nervous, as usual. We're using the gear that is there and the guy whose stuff it is dials up the tone and volume. I'm happy with mine.
So, we roar through our opener, a song I love. We finish and....
....crickets.
At open mics, SOMEONE will always give you a courtesy clap. SOMEONE. NOTHING. So, I look at Alex and laugh and jump right into the next song. #### it. Next one is a good tune too, but, again, no drums, nothing for people to get into unless you REALLY like guitars. So, now, a little cheers here and there.
Then, out next one, a pretty technical little dity the bass player struggles with so I feel like I am lazered into keeping the time in check and not rush it so he doesn't get left in a heap. I thought it sounded good but, our drummer, who is just sipping a beer and hanging out for moral support comes up and says "You sped that one up!" and I'm like "####! I was trying, really trying not to! My timing is usually pretty good stand alone but, I'm nervous and he'd know. He's just being a dick, giving me a good natured hard time and says no one could tell but him' He say 'but you better not do Rolling thunder" which is a slow song that REALLY needs the drums to keep time on the slow part but then rips into a 100% ass kicker. SO, I felt instant challenge and just started it before he could even get back to his sit. We do an abbreviated version because he's right, it is tough to keep time on this one then we roar into the heavy part, finish and everyone in that ####ing place is clapping and cheering. All 10 of them.
In any event, it was just a hoot doing it without drums, good experience and I've been operating on the premise we need to be sorta restrained and mid rock-ish, beer rock and not too heavy. Well, I've been out twice now, once by myself and now this and the heavier #### has now appealed to the hippie emo crowd at one place and the Charlie Daniels rednecks at this place. So, we're thinking now about the implications of being heavier which we're all into.
So, that's that. :shrug:
SoMD_Fun_Guy
Do you like apples?
If you're being honest with her and showing her the real you and she's accepting of that, then that's a good thing.
In every relationship there are things a partner does that we absolutely love and things that annoy us or that we don't like. There's the good and the bad. And they change over time. Subconsciously, we continually evaluate the good and the bad of our partner. If the good outweighs the bad then we can decide that it's worth the effort to stay in the relationship. If not, then it's time to address the problem.
Right now, when you joke around or do something juvenile it doesn't bother her much and she's willing to accept it cuz she values your good traits over any bad ones.
So are there any things that she does that you notice but push aside cuz her good traits far outweigh them?
Or is it too early in the relationship to identify such things?
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Larry Gude
Strung Out
She's picky and wants what she asked for. Does not have much patience for poor service but, she doesn't belittle them or let it bother her. Just gives them the 'really? This isn't that hard, dumb ass' look. The other day she'd asked for coffee, cream and a splenda which the waitress said she had and the chick comes back with coffee and cream and walks away to wipe down the far end of the bar and she says "Sweetie, You said you have Splenda?" and the bar maid, who was pretty poor at this and needs to consider something else to do, took it well and got it right away. So, no biggie. Then, she insists on paying and leaves her a generous tip anyway so, that's about all I got so far and that is to say nothing. If she'd left no tip or something like $1, that bothers me, even if service sucks, so, she doesn't look down on people. So, again, I got nothing so far :shrug:
Oh, she doesn't take her coffee black. That makes me wonder about a person. THAT is a yellow flag right there...
2BRN2B
No Question
She's picky and wants what she asked for. Does not have much patience for poor service but, she doesn't belittle them or let it bother her. Just gives them the 'really? This isn't that hard, dumb ass' look. The other day she'd asked for coffee, cream and a splenda which the waitress said she had and the chick comes back with coffee and cream and walks away to wipe down the far end of the bar and she says "Sweetie, You said you have Splenda?" and the bar maid, who was pretty poor at this and needs to consider something else to do, took it well and got it right away. So, no biggie. Then, she insists on paying and leaves her a generous tip anyway so, that's about all I got so far and that is to say nothing. If she'd left no tip or something like $1, that bothers me, even if service sucks, so, she doesn't look down on people. So, again, I got nothing so far :shrug:
Oh, she doesn't take her coffee black. That makes me wonder about a person. THAT is a yellow flag right there...
Why people mess up a good cup of coffee is beyond me.
Can she cook? You said she doesn't drink much. I'd get her drunked up and see how she holds her liquor!
Being condescending to waitstaff is something, imo. Calling the barmaid "sweetie" and giving them a "dumbass
" look is belittling and rude. Regardless, you will either grow tired of this and move on, or it won't bother you and you'll continue on indefinitely.Honestly, you're not going to know if she's a fit for you until much later in the dating cycle. Perhaps not until after 20 years of marriage. So why worry about it? Enjoy the now, dump her if she turns out to be a bitch.
:shrug:
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Commies, I fear.
Yeah, we cooked the other night, her in kitchen, me on grill. Good to go there. And I did get her drunked up.
Her and my room mate are from the same state and we're doing shots to their state which I also have ties to and hooting it up. She's good social company. Holds her liquor just fine.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Being condescending to waitstaff is something, imo. Calling the barmaid "sweetie" and giving them a "dumbass
Honestly, you're not going to know if she's a fit for you until much later in the dating cycle. Perhaps not until after 20 years of marriage. So why worry about it? Enjoy the now, dump her if she turns out to be a bitch.
:shrug:
See, I'm not conveying tone very well. You know that stuff bothers me and how she handled it, the tone, was good. We'll see.
Well, you don't have to convince us. You don't have to sell her to the internet; the only opinion that matters is yours.
2BRN2B
No Question
Commies, I fear.
Yeah, we cooked the other night, her in kitchen, me on grill. Good to go there. And I did get her drunked up.
What state? If she's southern, sweetie, honey, sugar, and dear are all fair game. And not one bit condescending.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Bingo.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
That's why this tread. Just chatting it out with whomever is interested. Lotta good thoughts and feed back.
SoMD_Fun_Guy
Do you like apples?
Oh, she doesn't take her coffee black. That makes me wonder about a person. THAT is a yellow flag right there...
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