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Hank

Hank

my war
Larry Gude said:
I want my own talk show. I'd have all you MF'ers on as guests. :buddies:
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Probably would be better going back in time with that. The cast of characters were more interesting than the current. I actually enjoyed your banter that day on the SOMD Radio Show. You got potential, Kid.
 
Larry Gude

Larry Gude

Strung Out
Hank said:
Probably would be better going back in time with that. The cast of characters were more interesting than the current. I actually enjoyed your banter that day on the SOMD Radio Show. You got potential, Kid.
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That was all vrai!! That was a ton of fun but she is the pro and carried me!!!
 
Larry Gude

Larry Gude

Strung Out
OK, we're stuck on a consensus. We're both like 'this is just too damn easy...is this the way it's supposed to be???"

We spent an hour googling various definitions of 'soul mate' last night. Some are a freaking hoot so, don't waste any time worrying about this or that concept or pre conceived notion of the term. But, mother####er, chemistry is real. Is it simply two people from birth? I don't think so. I think it is time and place. There is NO way this woman would have looked at me, well, OK, she would have looked but, who she was four years ago, who I was, hell, two years ago, no effing way. NONE. Or, maybe? #### if I know.

She has a tremendous mind. VERY clear thinker. Has this way of stripping me bare but, I'm not even trying to be pretentious let alone remotely capable of it. She'd have made me defensive as hell not too many years ago, intimidated the crap out of me. And I've got this way of putting her at ease that...makes her uncomfortable...that puts her at ease. One thing I can say for sure; there is NOTHING easier than being yourself, as corny and obvious as that sounds. Not who you might wanna be or what you're pondering. Who, what, you are.

We talked about some #### today that just...fell out. Effortless. I know a lot of that has to do with 'new'. However, 'new' or 25 years of just being right for one another, effortless is effortless.


Huh.... ####ing 'eh. :buddies:
 
vraiblonde

vraiblonde

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Larry Gude said:
'this is just too damn easy...is this the way it's supposed to be???"
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Yes, that's the way it's supposed to be.

Everyone told me - relationships are hard, they take work, blah blah blah. That's bull####. Monello and I are effortless. He is strong where I am weak and vice versa, and neither of us wants to accept credit because we just do what we do and it works.

Don't overthink this and don't #### it up. Yes, it's supposed to be that damn easy.
 
Larry Gude

Larry Gude

Strung Out
vraiblonde said:
Yes, that's the way it's supposed to be.

Everyone told me - relationships are hard, they take work, blah blah blah. That's bull####. Monello and I are effortless. He is strong where I am weak and vice versa, and neither of us wants to accept credit because we just do what we do and it works.

Don't overthink this and don't #### it up. Yes, it's supposed to be that damn easy.
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I was hoping you'd comment. I mean, you already told me that but, that was months ago. That it still is so is a very nice comfort to my thoughts. You are, and forever will be, a frame of reference for me.
 
vraiblonde

vraiblonde

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Larry Gude said:
I was hoping you'd comment. I mean, you already told me that but, that was months ago. That it still is so is a very nice comfort to my thoughts. You are, and forever will be, a frame of reference for me.
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Okay, but it was never easy with us. Not even when we were just dating.

Monello and I talk about that, what if we'd met earlier and had kids, money issues, etc, to piss us off and make us hate each other. But we don't. We have no stressers and can just be happy together. That's you and your new flame, and isn't that awesome? Now it's all on you, no one else to blame, no situational #######ry...so don't #### it up.
 
Larry Gude

Larry Gude

Strung Out
vraiblonde said:
Okay, but it was never easy with us. Not even when we were just dating. .
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THAT, because those were still some of the best years of my life, is why you are a frame of reference for me. THE frame of reference. And, by extension, so is Mo. I have this sense of him, in context of you, that is that it was right person, right time, right place and that is a hopeful thing. Absent the kids, all that other stuff, and this is where it gets deep, I don't think we'd have ever hooked up. So, if I'm right, the things that were the strain were also the attraction and there was a lot of good that came from that. So, now, in and of yourself, who you really are, just you, he's a fantastic match for you. And that's what I am pondering with B. Where she is, here and now, where I am, man, it is just so damn...easy.

At my age it's pretty easy to sift through 'new' and 'real' and see what's what. You always had a more developed sense of self. It seems I am growing into mine.
 
2BRN2B

2BRN2B

No Question
Larry why do you continually state that neither of you would have talked to the other years ago? Why is that important now when you are talking to each other and appear to enjoy doing so? Is the past so relevant on the new relationship that it needs to compare to the old you? I understand lessons learned My thought is when you meet new people, move forward from there, bringing lessons learned.

Dating is hard enough without the past.
 
Larry Gude

Larry Gude

Strung Out
2BRN2B said:
Larry why do you continually state that neither of you would have talked to the other years ago? Why is that important now when you are talking to each other and appear to enjoy doing so? Is the past so relevant on the new relationship that it needs to compare to the old you? I understand lessons learned My thought is when you meet new people, move forward from there, bringing lessons learned.

Dating is hard enough without the past.
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Well, she doesn't necessarily agree with me that we would not have talked years ago and, for me, it's a conversational thought and not necessarily one I am invested in as being THE truth. I ask a lot of questions sometimes and really get into the observational aspects of couples relationships because I see so many different combinations in life; long term commitments I'd have NO interest in, long term ones I admire, short term ones that don't appeal to me, short term ones that seem really like a good thing. Dating, for me, has ALWAYS been easy. My problem is finding MY long term match.

I know I do want THE one and it is the person that we can work out whatever happens and be happy with one another. That is hard for me to some extent because of my nature BUT, I don't see anyone with THE formula. Some of the best relationships I know of, I have zero interest in how they live their lives even though I love and admire parts of it. Some of the worst seem to be, as per the 'expected' text book proper relationships that it seems to me they don't even like one another anymore.

I mean, we all influence one another. All the little decisions and choices we make influence everything to some extent, sooner or later. MAYBE had I met her years ago my life takes a whole other trajectory because we would have been the one for one another in the right way, time and place? It's like coming to an intersection; one way, seemingly, is not the right path but, darn well could have been. And the seeming 'right' path could put you on a road that takes years to get off of. Some people get it right the first time and not very many of them are saying "We know the right way for everyone!" They seem to be very aware that what they do is right for THEM and maybe ONLY them.

To me, my past, my present and my future are all tied together. I can't separate them. Don't want to. There is a saying I am growing fond of; show me your soil and I'll show you who you are. That's fine as far as it goes but, soil can be improved, or degraded so, it's a starting point. The base 'you', generically 'you', is YOUR starting point. A little of this and or that, a little less of this or that at the right time and amount and you got better soil or worse. That's life, what we did. What we're doing. The better or relationships make those adjustments together and do it well. That's their magic, their ways.

Good question. :buddies:
 
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