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Yeah, not agreeing, disagreeing, justifying or anything else. It's just what popped out at me from between the lines.
Ok. Help please!!!
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Yeah, not agreeing, disagreeing, justifying or anything else. It's just what popped out at me from between the lines.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Uh...
...my reaction to this is that it ain't a good sign, to me, that you barely know this person and he's pouring out his pain to you, talked 'lot's about his pain'?
I mean, you're all worried about how he's reacting to you, right? If I read you correctly, he's pouring out more than you and that, to me, is at least odd.
...my reaction to this is that it ain't a good sign, to me, that you barely know this person and he's pouring out his pain to you, talked 'lot's about his pain'?
I mean, you're all worried about how he's reacting to you, right? If I read you correctly, he's pouring out more than you and that, to me, is at least odd.
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toppick08
Guest
could you repeat that in english please TYIA
I mean that us guys like to be wrapped around our women's finger.
Helps our fragile egos.
godsbutterfly
Free to Fly
It is good to have friends you can talk to about things. This guy does sound like a nice man. I don't know what sort of things he is telling you about but it sounds like he might have some personal isues too. How long has it been since you lost your husband? I'm sure it takes awhile to get over a huge loss like that and Vrai is right - it would be unnatural to never talk about somebody who had such a big part in your life. IMO it would be okay to call him - just don't drink first!
rack'm
Jaded
Call him and thank him for being supportive while you were having your meltdown. He sounds like a nice guy.
Knowing that your husband passed away, he knows that there will always be reminders.
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Yeah...
...so the last thing he should be doing is whining about his own hurts. Where does that leave her? "Oh, there, there you poor thing..."
Knowing that your husband passed away, he knows that there will always be reminders.
...so the last thing he should be doing is whining about his own hurts. Where does that leave her? "Oh, there, there you poor thing..."
red_explorer
Well-Known Member
It has been about 20 months. And in two weeks, it would have been our anniversary
red_explorer
Well-Known Member
They, the memories and emotions, sometimes hit hard and fast, and I am not always prepared. I really tried to call members of my circle of friends who have supported me through all, and noone was available.
Baja28
Obama destroyed America
I don't have baggage. :shrug:
red_explorer
Well-Known Member
One of my closest friends says that the older she gets, the more she realizes that all of us have pain, and that the situations may be different but the pain is the same, and I was looking at it as we were comparing situations. He still has family, we never had children. It didn't bother me that he talked about his past.
Baja28
Obama destroyed America
Call him. Tell him you had reservations about calling and ask him his opinion. It's nice to have someone to talk to.
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toppick08
Guest
Baja28
Obama destroyed America
Dude, please.
red_explorer
Well-Known Member
I am thinking that is what I should do.
That has been the hardest part of all of this. My husband and I talked over everything. We didn't make a move without talking with each other. It drove people crazy. But that's the way we made things work. And miss him.
Baja28
Obama destroyed America
Of course. Your husband was also your best friend.
This guy sounds like a good egg. Call em up and tell him what's on your mind. He has a sense of humor so tell him you even resorted to asking the opinion of a bunch of loons on here. Have a laugh with him. Ask how he's feeling too. Conversation will flow....
Katt
Active Member
call him, and after apologizing about your bad judgement in calling before while intoxicated, suggest doing something fun that YOU know won't dredge up memories of you and your husband. You know, something that is different from your previous life. Just a suggestion. Life is too short to let it slip by with "what ifs" hanging over us. JMHO
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toppick08
Guest
red_explorer
Well-Known Member
He always makes me laugh, even when I was crying last night. He tells Minnesota jokes that are really funny. He doesn't get SOMD jokes though. He hasn't been down here yet.
mainman
Set Trippin
cattitude
My Sweetest Boy
Have you thought about therapy? My best friend lost her husband in a tragic accident about 17 years ago. She has since remarried but still talks about her deceased husband. She says it's something you never get over, never forget, but you learn to move on and make a life for yourself.
You drank too much, happens to most of us. Call him, be honest. Heck, that's all you can be. You're in uncharted waters and you are going to have good days, bad days, and there will be constant reminders of your husband. First and foremost, you are going to need somebody secure in themselves and somebody who can understand your pain.
Good luck to you.