Question for the men

Cowgirl

Cowgirl

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kwillia said:
You can only control the things that have impact over you. If he decides not to do his own laundry, who does that impact? Most likely only him. However, if he decides not to do the kid's laundry, who does it impact? If you are the one getting them dressed in the morning, than you can't shrug it off. That's why I suggested you include their clothes as your responsiblity.
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Well crap, if I wanted to really get him, I would tell him I am not going to get the kids ready in the morning. :jet:

:lol: BUT, most likely, I'll just ask him (again) if he and I can sit and discuss the chores. If we both know what exactly it is we're supposed to be doing, it gets rid of the guessing. I don't mind doing his laundry, if he'd just put it away. Or, I would agree to put away the laundry if he'll pick up another chore. I just want things to be equally divided...
 
kwillia

kwillia

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Cowgirl said:
BUT, most likely, I'll just ask him (again) if he and I can sit and discuss the chores. If we both know what exactly it is we're supposed to be doing, it gets rid of the guessing. I don't mind doing his laundry, if he'd just put it away. Or, I would agree to put away the laundry if he'll pick up another chore. I just want things to be equally divided...
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Let us know how that works for you...:lol:
 
BS Gal

BS Gal

Voted Nicest in 08
aps45819 said:
Household chores are split 3 ways at my house.
Me, myself and I.
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He takes care of the outside, does stuff inside and is not a slob. I take care of my gardens and my pond outside, and am kind of a freak about keeping the house clean. It works perfect for us.
 
aps45819

aps45819

24/7 Single Dad
Wenchy said:
My only issue with laundry is when it's put into the hamper inside out. I wash it, fold it, and they put it away the same way it was deposited in the hamper. The boys don't seem to care, so I don't either. A non-issue.
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Clothes last longer if washed and dried inside out, especially printed T-shirts. The wear from the washer and dryer occures on the inside (major source of pilling) and dryer heat has less effect on T-shirt graphics.

Of course if they outgrow stuff every other month, just smack 'em and tell them how things are.
 
Cowgirl

Cowgirl

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vraiblonde said:
Cowgirl, you should get a cat. That's what broke our teenage laundress from leaving folded clothes on the living room floor. :biggrin:

"ARRRRGGGGHHHH!!! The cat peed on my brand new jeans!!! :jameo:"
"He did? How did the cat get in your dresser drawers? :confused:"

:cool:
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:lmao: Unfortunately, we have two cats...and bf comes home smelling of diesel fuel...so I don't think he'd be bothered by cat urine.....sad, but true.

Don't get me wrong...I love my guy, he just has some annoying habits...as do I, I'm sure! :lol:
 
Tonio

Tonio

Asperger's Poster Child
nachomama said:
My ex was spoiled rotten by his mom. If she asked him to do something, even as an adult, if he didn't want to do it, he wouldn't. It used to pizz me off when she'd ask him to do something and he'd blow her off; I'd end up doing it or trying to do it, if it were a major task. She'd never say anything to him, because she CREATED the problem. I finally snapped one day and said to myself, if I'm going to do all this crap by myself, then I'm going to do it BY MYSELF.
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That's exactly what I had in mind when I said "deeper issues." He probably saw you as a stand-in for his mom.
 
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Wenchy

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aps45819 said:
Clothes last longer if washed and dried inside out, especially printed T-shirts. The wear from the washer and dryer occures on the inside (major source of pilling) and dryer heat has less effect on T-shirt graphics.

Of course if they outgrow stuff every other month, just smack 'em and tell them how things are.
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No printed t-shirts here, and I told them. They have clean and nicely folded clothes. They can either choose to turn their socks and undies right side out before wearing, or not. That's not my problem. I do laugh when I fold a polo shirt that's inside out.
 
cattitude

cattitude

My Sweetest Boy
Pete said:
In all my male bonding time with the Ott have never heard him biatch about silly crap. :yay:
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That's because he knows if I found out, I'd kick his azz.

I swear some of you are thinking way too much. :lol:

And, Tonio, Good Lord. :jameo:

I have no complaints about Otter, seriously. Only that he could take better care of himself. That's it. I don't care what he does or doesn't do. It doesn't matter..I do it. Does he get on my nerves? Sure..and I'm sure I bug him. But it's all stupid stuff and doesn't amount to anything. But, sure, I'll biatch to my g/fs about the silly stuff. I think it's actually just some sort of female bonding. :lol:
 
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kwillia

kwillia

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Cowgirl said:
:ohwell:


He better recognize......I could make his life way harder than it is now. :lol:
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In my view, a working relationship is based on finding a balance and it doesn't necessarily mean "50/50" on any one aspect in the relationship. You've got to find your "balance" and playing games isn't gonna do it. The example I gave on splitting laundry chores wasn't given as a "game". It was really meant as a "balance". You will learn that always being the one that "gives" messes up the balance. Him not doing his part in the laundry chores messes up the balance. You picking up his slack for putting yours and the kids clothes away, but dropping his laundry altogether helps reset the balance.
 
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