Setting your kids up on a blind date?

[mainman]

I'm sure the security cameras will give me the info required to pack his bags.

That sounds sexist. The boys could end up behaving and it could be girl that goes "Trixie ho" on me.

Regardless, once caught, don't let the door hit you in the azz.

Don't fool yourself, a father with a loaded shot gun is not even a deterrant, what makes you think you with a full samsonite is?

 

[harleygirl]

I am hoping don't ruin it! Luckily Boy is afraid of me.

He will be afraid until he hits puberty........then he will look at you like you are big dork.

 

[aps45819]

I'm not so sure boys actually bring a girl home with the thought of sex.

you're doing his laundry and cooking, why else would he bring her home?

 

[Pete]

He will be afraid until he hits puberty........then he will look at you like you are big dork.

He already does

 

[bresamil]

Don't fool yourself, a father with a loaded shot gun is not even a deterrant, what makes you think you with a full samsonite is?

LIke I said. I'm sure one day they each will make the mistake. I'm just not having it at my house.

I don't bring home men so I am setting the example. If I don't break the rule, then they know it won't be bent for them. There's already been family meetings to the effect when Boy 1 hit puberty at age 11.

Sex, drugs, alcohol, cigarettes IN MY HOME are terms for dismissal. I'll still love them, I'm just not enabling them. Want to make adult decisions? Go out and take on adult responsibilities.

Every one of their friends know my rules, and yet they beg to come over and abide by them. Personally I think some of them enjoy being in a environment where they know what's expected and what won't be tolerated.

 

[Pete]

Don't fool yourself, a father with a loaded shot gun is not even a deterrant, what makes you think you with a full samsonite is?

As soon as some soft skinned sweetie sets the hook mom's voice takes on a similar sound to the teacher in Charlie Brown cartoons. "Waaaawhaahwaawhaaaawuuuu"

 

[mainman]

As soon as some soft skinned sweetie sets the hook mom's voice takes on a similar sound to the teacher in Charlie Brown cartoons. "Waaaawhaahwaawhaaaawuuuu"

She's not getting it....:shrug:

 

[Pete]

She's not getting it....:shrug:

It really doesn't matter. The first time a male "bottoms out" he rises thinking the world is his oyster and is ready to charge at windmills on his own anyway.

"Food? Who needs food? I just did something GREAT! :chestbeating:

 

[cattitude]

you're doing his laundry and cooking, why else would he bring her home?

Not at my house. My kids did their own laundry from their early teens. If I was feeling nice, I did it for them.

 

[BlackSheep]

I mean sh*t, I pay for his college, his car insurance hell everything and this little brat is going to tell me what he is going to do. And the car is in my name too!

Please say he has a part time job?!

 

[LexiGirl75]

I think it is safe to say I did the right thing. It wasn't my choice at the time but I am glad my son is living with his dad. He has wanted to come back home with me all year but I have been sticking to my guns about the could'ves.

Just the thought of him (12y/o) playing hooky from middle school down here while I am at work up in PG 1.5hrs away just makes me sick to my stomach. Or just even getting home around 2:30pm or whatever the time is and being home without me for 3hrs. All that idle time. I could become a very young granny.

So far so good in PG his dad stays on that azz and nana is home all day. We will definitely be monitoriing his report card for any absences.

Sinwagon I feel for you sweetie but at least he is an adult. I remember when I was 18 (about to give birth) there were certain things I had not done or had done to me sexually because I always thought those were things that crackheads did for money. Boy was I wrong.

Even if "trixie the child ho" gets knocked up your son can still finish college and provide for his family. Chances are she won't, she should be on contraception or tell your son to ask or you can ask her if she is, this in addition to your son wrapping it up. Hopefully their compatibility is real, I have seen young people stay together regardless of the mistakes made they endure it. Some young people though.

 

[sinwagon]

Please say he has a part time job?!

He DID have a part time job. He was working with me but then when he pulled his crap, I stripped him of everything and sent him to find his own. So far....nothing! He now has everything back due to an agreement that we entered into. But now, no money = no gas = the car sits!

 

[Sweet 16]

He DID have a part time job. He was working with me but then when he pulled his crap, I stripped him of everything and sent him to find his own. So far....nothing! He now has everything back due to an agreement that we entered into. But now, no money = no gas = the car sits!

Just curious why you would strip him of his job as a means of teaching him responsibility? I would take away the "goodies" (car, cash, etc.) and make him earn those for himself.

 

[Pete]

I remember when I was 18 (about to give birth) there were certain things I had not done or had done to me sexually because I always thought those were things that crackheads did for money. Boy was I wrong.

What?

 

[sinwagon]

Just curious why you would strip him of his job as a means of teaching him responsibility? I would take away the "goodies" (car, cash, etc.) and make him earn those for himself.

Well after he went into this "I'm a man, I can make my own choices I know everything faze" I said "ok fine!" When I got up for work in the morning, I did not wake him, if he was not up and ready to go, then he didn't come unless he drove himself in. Then he told me after a few days of him not being ready to go "I am going to go work at (Blank) so and so said they were leaving and they would be looking for people." My husband and I told him that it was not a guarantee he would get the job so he should work with me until he got something else. He said "well I will put the application in and wait and see if after a week they haven't called, I will come back there with mom" Well as you and I know the real world doesn't work that way. Two weeks passed and that was the ONLY application he put in. So I had not choice but to hire someone else. This is the third week and he still sits at home with no job. Big man huH?

I told you he needed a helmet!

 

[vraiblonde]

I told you he needed a helmet!

How to say this nicely and supportively?

Maybe you need a helmet.

When my daughter came home from her freshman year of college (at our insistence because she had failed too many classes), she thought she would have the same freedoms that she had when she was at school.



Attitude. Pissed at us because we "made" her come home from school (completely forgetting that the idea was for her to actually attend classes, not just bite the Big Apple on our dime).

She finally got the picture when I threw her out of the house. It was a looooong three days and we had no idea where she was. Finally she called and wanted to talk. Made the decision to move to Nebraska (ostensibly to take classes at UNL). Got an apartment, started working, and now she lives a big girl grown-up life, paying bills and being responsible for herself. She bought herself a car and even insured it! Her big excitement was when she had been at her job long enough to get health coverage.

So guess what, Mama? Maybe it's time for you to encourage Jr. to grow up. And I say that with sincere sympathy for you, because I've been there. They don't learn to fly until you boot them from the nest.

 

[Pete]

I told Boy in no uncertain terms when you turn 30 you are OUT!

 

[sinwagon]

How to say this nicely and supportively?

Maybe you need a helmet.

When my daughter came home from her freshman year of college (at our insistence because she had failed too many classes), she thought she would have the same freedoms that she had when she was at school.



Attitude. Pissed at us because we "made" her come home from school (completely forgetting that the idea was for her to actually attend classes, not just bite the Big Apple on our dime).

She finally got the picture when I threw her out of the house. It was a looooong three days and we had no idea where she was. Finally she called and wanted to talk. Made the decision to move to Nebraska (ostensibly to take classes at UNL). Got an apartment, started working, and now she lives a big girl grown-up life, paying bills and being responsible for herself. She bought herself a car and even insured it! Her big excitement was when she had been at her job long enough to get health coverage.

So guess what, Mama? Maybe it's time for you to encourage Jr. to grow up. And I say that with sincere sympathy for you, because I've been there. They don't learn to fly until you boot them from the nest.

See only difference is....he is NOT flunking school. That is the ONE area he is actually doing well in. I don't want him to quit school and will gladly pay for him to go until he does flunk then I am not going to waste my money! But as for the other stuff.....the car is paid for, I refuse to retitle it in his name because atleast then I have some control. The insurance is in my name. When he has no job, no money, he has no ride. If I have to put gas in it for him to go to school, then until every drop of my gas is gone.....the car sits! So needless to say even if we said right now "you are free to go frolicking with the trampy teen ho" he would have no gas to get him to the post office much less a 3 hour journey!

I won't kick him out, well not yet anyway. Well maybe when he is a little older, he just turned 18 in July. Like I said he was the MODEL kid until he went ape #### over some strange booty! I always told my kids that I will provide the basics but, thats it, a roof, food. As far as the transportation, cell phone etc. he has to earn that!

I'm just glad to see that its nothing new with teenagers and at this too shall pass! If not, that will be one hillbilly wedding!

 

[itsbob]

Ok, my 18 year old son went to OC for beach week and came home with his first ever girlfriend who lives about 2 hours away. I send him out to sew his wild oats and he comes back acting like he is married! Now she is 3 hours away in college and he was going back and forth up there to see her and occasionally she would come spend the weekend here. I REALLY tried to like her, went out of my way in fact until I found out some stuff. And until my 18 year old was ready to quit school and everything to move up there and made the stupid statement of "I don't care if I do all the sacrificing so she doesn't have to" and was talking about marriage!

Now I am told boys go through something completely different than girls where they are COMPLETE IDIOTS over their first loves. Needless to say, the info about her has piled up and now......I JUST HATE HER!

I have been searching the myspace and found some girls that would be perfect for him or so they seem. I would love to go on that MTV show Parental control! Now I know they could all be deceiving but I think if he would allow himself a chance to meet and get to know other girls, he would see this one is not so special.

So just how wrong would it be to try and fix him up with someone else????

Someone got his wanker wet for the first time, and now he's in love..

You need to stay away from MySpace and get him to a doctor for some bloodwork, then to planned parenthood for some free rubbers..

 

[vraiblonde]

I'm just glad to see that its nothing new with teenagers and at this too shall pass! If not, that will be one hillbilly wedding!

Nothing new with teenagers and this, too, shall pass. I mean, I hope it does anyway because I'm about to tear my hair out.

That said, I think it's uncivilized to have kids that are only two years apart so that they've got teen ignorance going on at the same time. And a pair of friggin' girls, no less. That wasn't very well-thought out.