Even if it comes up positive, he doesn't necessarily have to pay support. Yeah, he had the kid, and yeah he is responsible. But I don't think it's very fair either for this to be sprung on a man who has lived 12 years knowing there was a kid but not being told it was his, then have someone turn around someday, and say "I guess it was yours after all. We're going to flip the lives of your wife and other 4 kids upside down because of it."
I hear everyone talking about the fathers responsibilities, but isn't it the mothers responsibility to her child and the father to inform them there is even a possibility? Since we are going through the same thing maybe I am a little bit to close to it. Yes I agree, if my husband is the father, he should have to pay something, however taking 50% of his gross income, money he doesn't even see and not considering the two children we have together in the equation is a little steep! The child support calculator states that since she has no job, my husband is 100% responsible for the support of the child. Well why? because she chooses not to work and collect welfare? We have found that this woman was a call girl, is currently in a rehab, and was brought up on federal weapons charges and was charged and indicted on first degree arson! She plead to conspiracy to commit arson. The kid does not even reside w/ her in WV, he resides w/ the people who ran the call girl operation and who she hooked up w/ after leaving my husband. The kid has that guys last name! Those people in SC were convicted of welfare fraud in WV and are now trying to get it again! She has 4 kids, has had 3 paternity tests on 3 out of 4 of those kids and they all have different last names.
Is it fair, that now my children have to go without their basic needs so that dad can pay child support for a child he didnt know was his? And lets say for instance I have to stop paying my kids health insurance has to be dropped to pay this (its $500 a month) is the state going to give me a welfare check or medical assistance? NO! because they will consider the income that my husband shows on a tax return but does not see due to a child support obligation. Its not fair to my kids, its not fair to the kid in question, its not fair to me or my hubby.
If this child turns out to be my husbands, we will probably go financially broke fighting for custody because we will have to go to WV to fight. Then if we win, then what? we just take this kid from the only life he has ever known (may be a shitty life but still the only one he has ever known) and throw him into a ready made family and expect him to adjust? How do we do that? How do you explain to a 10 year old that she has a brother who is older than her that she knew nothing about? I feel like my world has been torn apart. I could have to sell my house that I finally was able to get (after living in a mobile home for 10 years) because someone wants a welfare check? Its not fair all the way around but the mother should be forced to take on some of the responsibilty! And yes, I do feel sorry for the child, I didnt fight for 4 years and go bankrupt to get custody of my stepson because I dislike children that are not mine, but the bottom line is, who is going to feel sorry for my kids when they do without? Why should I have to suffer because one thing I know for certain is that THERE IS NO WAY POSSIBLE THAT THAT KID IS MINE BIOLOGICALLY! We are the innocent victims here but we will pay the biggest price!