All I want to know is what, exactly, I did that was so harsh and hostile. I think it's unfair of the counselor and Larry to tell me that I handled something poorly, then not tell me exactly what I did wrong or how I should handle it in the future.
Get "B's" medicine while you're outLarry Gude said:...I gotto go pick up Z here in a minute...
I vote that you print this statement out and read it out loud at the beginning of the next session... then come back and tell us how it went.vraiblonde said:All I want to know is what, exactly, I did that was so harsh and hostile. I think it's unfair of the counselor and Larry to tell me that I handled something poorly, then not tell me exactly what I did wrong or how I should handle it in the future.
That's a good idea - that way I'll have my thoughts together and can communicate my dilemma more effectively.kwillia said:I vote that you print this statement out and read it out loud at the beginning of the next session... then come back and tell us how it went.
"Please" ?vraiblonde said:Get "B's" medicine while you're out
morganj614 said:To communicate effectively you need to understand you each have different personalities that can't be changed.
Now you can take that difference and push each others hot buttons or you can try and relearn a different way to communicate within the family.
kwillia said:I vote that you print this statement out and read it out loud at the beginning of the next session... then come back and tell us how it went.
Larry Gude said:...and it's called 'The SOMD Forums.'
From now on, all family issues will be presented on the forums, we will each make our case and then y'all get to vote on it.
So, Vrail, dear, in the interest of familial harmony, say, oh about 11:30 or so tonight we and then and then...
All in favor?
kwillia said:I vote that you print this statement out and read it out loud at the beginning of the next session... then come back and tell us how it went.
No doubt. Maybe two or three sessions. :cha-CHING:Larry Gude said:Girl, please. We're up to page 29, so far. It will BE the next session.
I'd love to see you explain to Shrink how it is you got all these crazy people on here to think she's a :touchyfeely:
For the record, I never said that about the shrink... as another person that tends to be "righteous and therefore harsh"... I would expect the same rebuttal from a shrink towards me...Larry Gude said:I'd love to see you explain to Shrink how it is you got all these crazy people on here to think she's a :touchyfeely:
jazz lady said:Based on what I'm seeing, there is a lot of confusion as to what EXACTLY is the issue and a lot of hair-splitting going on. You have yet to get to the root of the problem IMO as everyone is interpreting the sessions in their own way.
kwillia said:For the record, I never said that about the shrink... as another person that tends to be "righteous and therefore harsh"... I would expect the same rebuttal from a shrink towards me...
I agree.jazz lady said:Based on what I'm seeing, there is a lot of confusion as to what EXACTLY is the issue and a lot of hair-splitting going on. You have yet to get to the root of the problem IMO as everyone is interpreting the sessions in their own way.
Yes.... ostingfromafetalposition:Larry Gude said:...of our touchy, feely, hippy shrink! Kwillias scared of our touchy, feely, hippy shrink!
vraiblonde said:Get "B's" medicine while you're out
Larry Gude said:...we're on the same page. I'm just learning to more clearly communicte to her specific concerns without it sounding like I'm attacking. To learn to be a bit more nuanced or aware of the overall picture, thoughts and how past behavior may color things in some manner. To be able to walk a few steps in her new gold boots, so to speak, and allow sensitivity into my thought process to express my feelings.
She's working on how to more clearly tell me to #### off when she's busting some kids azz.
And where the shrink would comfort you and try to get you to express what you're feeling, I would tell you to get up and quit acting like that - I don't speak "whine".kwillia said:ostingfromafetalposition:
Larry Gude said:....if tha speling poleece are gonnuh be pahrt of this, it's gonna be a llong threeda.
vraiblonde said:And where the shrink would comfort you and try to get you to express what you're feeling, I would tell you to get up and quit acting like that - I don't speak "whine".