I'm talking as a civilian. You, as military personnel, have rules you must follow or you'll get in a whole lotta schizz.
I don't blame the soldier for following orders - that's what they're supposed to do. I blame those who actually make the rules and expect the soldier to follow them, while the enemy is unencumbered by such niceties. It's like tying their hands behind their backs and saying, "We want to win the war but we don't want to offend anyone in the process. Now go get 'em, Tiger!"
It's just stupid.