BlackSheep
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All suited up-standing byonebdzee said:
What is it about men...
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Sadysue
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JeweledSkye said:
This applies to men and women.
a) They are scared they will get asked to babysit.
b) They know they will get dropped like a hot potato when your child is born.
c) They know all you will want to talk about after you child is born is YOUR
CHILD!
d) They are scared that if you do find time to do something with them, like go to the movies, that they will be embarrassed by your screaming infant.
e) They are scared they will be asked to change a diaper
f) They are scared they will be asked to clean up puke.
g) See c again.
Three of my best friends had kids right out of school. Two were single moms. Even though we had been best friends for years, I didn't have a kid so we had NOTHING in common anymore. I was worried about buying cute new shoes, they were worried about their children's ears. It like being from two different worlds.
There lives revolved around their children. Not that there is anything wrong with that, but if I wanted to hang out with them, my life had to revolve around their children too.
My advice to you, to make friends, would be to meet other expecting parents. Maybe go to some parenting classes or something where other young mothers would be. Meet some single men that already have kids.
IMO most single, childless 20 yr olds do not have a lot in common with young mothers.
I also agree with the previous poster that said men are scared you are looking for a daddy or a pay check. My current finance has had that done to him twice. I am from a small southern town that was near a military base. A LOT of women would try to hook up with the military men because of the benefits, job security, and steady pay. That is exactly what happened to my finance. Unfortunately, young mothers have been given somewhat of a stereotype that you will have to deal with.
Anyways, thats just my opinion.
I wish you the best of luck.
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Tina2001aniT
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JeweledSkye said:
Here's what I don't get, if you are seriously looking for friends, no relationships, no sex, none of that, then what happened before you got pregnant? Why are you so desperately seeking friendship now, did you live under a rock before you got pregnant?
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czygvtwkr
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Well a guy could see one of two things
1) Dirty Whore
2) Someone too stupid to use birthcontrol while having sex with someone they are not serious enough to stick with, or stupid enough to get hooked up with a man that they really shouldn't have.
Either way its baggage.
1) Dirty Whore
2) Someone too stupid to use birthcontrol while having sex with someone they are not serious enough to stick with, or stupid enough to get hooked up with a man that they really shouldn't have.
Either way its baggage.
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BuddyLee
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I'm 23 and have been around twenty-somethings for a good while now. I'd say it has to do with the level of maturity. I think I'm mature for my age but on the same note I don't really want a kid at this point. I still want to go out and have a little fun before I have to devote my life to my children.
Personally speaking, if I found out that the girl I was dating had a child it would be somewhat of a drawback at this time in my life. However, if I liked the girl it wouldn't matter as much.
Personally speaking, if I found out that the girl I was dating had a child it would be somewhat of a drawback at this time in my life. However, if I liked the girl it wouldn't matter as much.
Toxick said:
I am 25 and single. I already have the station Wagon and Suburban
I rarely drink or party anymore. I'd love to meet someone and have a family, gotta have a boy to carry on my name. I am starting to think that I won't find anyone anytime soon. Not around here anyways. I dated a girl that had kids before, I will not do it again. After about a year I just couldn't do it. I'd have no problem talking to or hanging out with a single pregnant girl, Friends are friends and nothing more.
Chain729 told you like it is as have others. The short version is you are not going to have much time to hang out very shortly, so forget about it, except very occasionally, for about 18 years after you have your last kid.JeweledSkye said:
SamSpade
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If 99% of any group of people all have the same reaction to something - they aren't the ones with the problem. It means they are acting *normal*. Perhaps you haven't described the situation well enough, or as others have noted - haven't considered everything.
I can think of dozens of reasons why young men - and older ones - might refrain from paying attention to women with children, and not all of them make the men look so awful. For one thing, it's still a good bet that a woman with children has another man in her life (at least, to an observer who hasn't chatted with you or anything) - those children didn't come from thin air. They also come with their own set of complications that is normal for some not to bother with. If you're a young guy looking for someone - who are you more likely to choose - someone who's available at a moment's notice - or someone whose schedule is tighter than a dermatologist's?
Me, I dated lots of single moms before I got married - but even I had my own concerns. For example, if their kids were out of control, that was a life I didn't want to take part in.
I can think of dozens of reasons why young men - and older ones - might refrain from paying attention to women with children, and not all of them make the men look so awful. For one thing, it's still a good bet that a woman with children has another man in her life (at least, to an observer who hasn't chatted with you or anything) - those children didn't come from thin air. They also come with their own set of complications that is normal for some not to bother with. If you're a young guy looking for someone - who are you more likely to choose - someone who's available at a moment's notice - or someone whose schedule is tighter than a dermatologist's?
Me, I dated lots of single moms before I got married - but even I had my own concerns. For example, if their kids were out of control, that was a life I didn't want to take part in.