Why women "don't like nice guys"
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jrt_ms1995
Well-Known Member
And you do it so well
Practice, practice, practice!
jetmonkey
New Member
And you do it so well
Great, now my PMer is going to blow up.
Vince
......
You jinxed it. She's back.Unimpressed. Move along. Maybe Arkie will come back.
Railroad
Routinely Derailed
Interesting - from Fox News
What makes women happy? Believe it or not, it tends to be the little things that make women the most satisfied in relationships. We spoke with Dr. M. Gary Neuman, family counselor and author of “Connect to Love,” who, based on his research, gave us some insights on what women want.
Time: Of all the things we talk about women wanting, time with their spouse is it. The vast majority of women in happy relationships get 30 minutes of uninterrupted time with their husbands each day. Twenty-four percent of women who claim to be in unhappy relationships spend fewer than five minutes a day with their spouses.
Ask yourself, “How much time do I spend with my spouse?” Uninterrupted time means time spent without iPhones and Blackberrys, a conversation with nothing else on.
READ: What Truly Keeps a Marriage Together?
Appreciation: Nowadays, women take care of the children and make salaries, and they tend to be very underappreciated. Women should be expressive of what makes them feel appreciated, saying “these are the kinds of things I like … x, y and z.” Men should listen, and women should tune in when their husbands are appreciative.
READ: Are You in a Semi-Happy Marriage?
Understanding: It’s important for women to have men who understand them. It’s also important for women to help men understand how to listen. Men often don’t have a clue they’re being bad listeners.
Women have to sense a time limit to conversation. More often than not, men are sitting there thinking, “When is this going to end?” I would say 15 to 20 minutes, max. Women should say to their husbands, “It’s 8:00 p.m.; I need you to listen until 8:20 p.m.” Women may deserve 10 hours, but most men are not the best at listening to serious, emotional conversations that go on.
Fun: This is one of those things that often goes out the window, especially after the first child is born. All the factors like jobs, rents, mortgages can add to relationship strain. Couples should set up a date night – once every week, even if they are tired, during which they spend a minimum of two hours alone. During this time, the couple should talk about everything BUT work, money and children.
READ: Delicious Date Night Recipes
Kind Gestures: Hugs, kisses, unexpected telephone calls to say ‘I love you.’ Simple things. I suggest five touch points a day for one week – any kind gesture that takes 30 seconds or less. If a man can do this for his partner for one week, both will be amazed at how much better they feel in the relationship.
For more on Dr. Neuman, go to his website.
Read more: 5 Things Women Want Most In A Man | Fox News
What makes women happy? Believe it or not, it tends to be the little things that make women the most satisfied in relationships. We spoke with Dr. M. Gary Neuman, family counselor and author of “Connect to Love,” who, based on his research, gave us some insights on what women want.
Time: Of all the things we talk about women wanting, time with their spouse is it. The vast majority of women in happy relationships get 30 minutes of uninterrupted time with their husbands each day. Twenty-four percent of women who claim to be in unhappy relationships spend fewer than five minutes a day with their spouses.
Ask yourself, “How much time do I spend with my spouse?” Uninterrupted time means time spent without iPhones and Blackberrys, a conversation with nothing else on.
READ: What Truly Keeps a Marriage Together?
Appreciation: Nowadays, women take care of the children and make salaries, and they tend to be very underappreciated. Women should be expressive of what makes them feel appreciated, saying “these are the kinds of things I like … x, y and z.” Men should listen, and women should tune in when their husbands are appreciative.
READ: Are You in a Semi-Happy Marriage?
Understanding: It’s important for women to have men who understand them. It’s also important for women to help men understand how to listen. Men often don’t have a clue they’re being bad listeners.
Women have to sense a time limit to conversation. More often than not, men are sitting there thinking, “When is this going to end?” I would say 15 to 20 minutes, max. Women should say to their husbands, “It’s 8:00 p.m.; I need you to listen until 8:20 p.m.” Women may deserve 10 hours, but most men are not the best at listening to serious, emotional conversations that go on.
Fun: This is one of those things that often goes out the window, especially after the first child is born. All the factors like jobs, rents, mortgages can add to relationship strain. Couples should set up a date night – once every week, even if they are tired, during which they spend a minimum of two hours alone. During this time, the couple should talk about everything BUT work, money and children.
READ: Delicious Date Night Recipes
Kind Gestures: Hugs, kisses, unexpected telephone calls to say ‘I love you.’ Simple things. I suggest five touch points a day for one week – any kind gesture that takes 30 seconds or less. If a man can do this for his partner for one week, both will be amazed at how much better they feel in the relationship.
For more on Dr. Neuman, go to his website.
Read more: 5 Things Women Want Most In A Man | Fox News
Railroad
Routinely Derailed
So, maybe the jerks are fun for a little bit and the nice guys are for keeps? Should jerks assume that she's "just passing through?" If you marry the jerk that attracted you, are you hitched to an ogre (clue: PM me for my sister's nightmare relationships).
The only thing I think I'm sure of, is that where women are concerned, there ARE NO RULES. Each woman is as unique as her fingerprint. This is an important thing to know, because one can't adopt oneself to fit the person one is attracted to. Guys might be easier to typecast, but even then, there are quirks which make one very different from all the others. Some of them are very nice quirks and some aren't.
The only thing I think I'm sure of, is that where women are concerned, there ARE NO RULES. Each woman is as unique as her fingerprint. This is an important thing to know, because one can't adopt oneself to fit the person one is attracted to. Guys might be easier to typecast, but even then, there are quirks which make one very different from all the others. Some of them are very nice quirks and some aren't.
DEEKAYPEE8569
Well-Known Member
Heeyyy.....how YOU doin'? /:-\ :snort:
No.....wait.....wait.....
I like your face. (?)
I also remember one about u-n-i sex; but THAT wouldn't work.....
Hank
my war
ItalianScallion
Harley Rider
You can come down nowUnimpressed. Move along. Maybe Arkie will come back.
Maybe that's why I didn't remember you 
I don't recall us having a conversation. Do you also just jump on the bandwagon to try to be cool?
And yet soo many women SAY they want a nice guy. They're walking contradictions and deserve what they get. Everyone sees the guy for what he is except the woman. They hang around poop and wonder why they end up smelling like it. I have no sympathy for them. Then, after many abusive relationships, they regularly complain about how bad the guys treated them and all men become
Sure, guys lie and play games but are the women really blind to that forever? Warning! Keep out! High estrogen area...
Hank
my war
I don't recall us having a conversation. Do you also just jump on the bandwagon to try to be cool?
You better not talk to Vrai's lap dog like that!
:ItalianScallion
Harley Rider
I HAVE to be mean or they won't like me...You better not talk to Vrai's lap dog like that!
Hank
my war
I HAVE to be mean or they won't like me...
You should read them a passage from that whacky bible of yours....
struggler44
A Salute to all on Watch
You should read them a passage from that whacky bible of yours....
"Thou shalt put out or STFU"
ItalianScallion
Harley Rider
Actually, that's one thing I DIDN'T do at Toots...Maybe I should have :shrug:You should read them a passage from that whacky bible of yours....
Hank
my war
"Thou shalt put out or STFU"
Isn't that the 11th Commandment??
You can come down now
I am hardly all that. You were merely a creeper from afar. Don't flatter yourself.
struggler44
A Salute to all on Watch
....
....sound like my daughter when I mention something I have read on her FB page........creeper 
Toxick
Splat
"Nice guys finish last"
Living proof.Should have played the bad boy more than once.
I also am living proof of this truism.
As a nice guy, I always make sure my hook-up(s) finish(es) before I do. It's common courtesy.
And a truly nice guy never goes a2m. Amirite?
Baja28
Obama destroyed America
Anybody got a universal translator?? How about a drunk to English translator?