Why women don't like you "nice guys"
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lucky_bee
RBF expert
or if you're really lucky, your tire!
JeJeTe
Happiness
It is hot when they take charge at the right time. But they have to know when to back down too.
SamSpade
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My older sister was very explicit about her interests. Nice guys were boring. She dated a guy for years. Her daughters LOVED him. He was kind to her and treated her well. She didn't want to be treated well - she wanted excitement. So she dumped him.
I know that confidence attracts women, but so does false confidence if the women are already interested. I've seen cocky idiots who have absolutely nothing going for them except maybe looks and a nice car. One of them dated my *younger* sister. He lived with me for a while. Guy simply could NOT stay at a job; he'd sleep in, get fired, start a new job next week, run up debt. But my sister loved him and was willing to support him herself.
Until she woke one day. And moved on to the next bad boy. The rich one.
mv_princess
mv = margaritaville
That's the key between a#@hole and nice guy, if you can find a guy with the harmony, don't freaking let go!
kwillia
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Yet that's how Mom's today are raising their boys. They aren't letting them rough house, they can't play outside and explore, they aren't made to do chores or learn how to fix things or do things for themselves, they aren't expected to get jobs until they become adults, they are coddled and not made to respect their elders, etc.
There is no way a coddled, protected from the world boy is going to grow up and know how to be a man.
ZARA
Registered User
Oh Yes It Is! Sexy sexy sexy. Mine learned a long time ago where the "I'm gonna shut up now because I'm not winning this one" line is drawn. I have also learned where this line is...lmao
lucky_bee
RBF expert
Wuddya using for bait?
:shrug: Usually I reel 'em in with promises of good home-cookin'
Then I set them to work!
I need some trim installed in the house!
Who wants some fried chicken?! 
ftcret
New Member
:shrug: Usually I reel 'em in with promises of good home-cookin'
Then I set them to work!
I need some trim installed in the house!
mmmmmm trim ......
ZARA
Registered User
Yet that's how Mom's today are raising their boys. They aren't letting them rough house, they can't play outside and explore, they aren't made to do chores or learn how to fix things or do things for themselves, they aren't expected to get jobs until they become adults, they are coddled and not made to respect their elders, etc.
There is no way a coddled, protected from the world boy is going to grow up and know how to be a man.
Not all true. I'm a Mom. I have a Son. He does everything mentioned above and then some. Except get a job, school is his job and will be as long as the majority of his classes are AP classes. He grads next year, then off to college, then he may get a job.
HollyRockJT
Jus Chillin...
Don't back up, don't back down... full throttle, wide open, get tired an you don't show it..dig a lil deeper when ya think ya can't dig no mo', that's the only way I know!
kwillia
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It was a generalization. BTW, my AP kid worked her junior and senior year and kept up with her AP classes. She's starting college this year with 43 credits. AP classes shouldn't be a reason to stop him from getting a part time job.
lucky_bee
RBF expert
Yet that's how Mom's today are raising their boys. They aren't letting them rough house, they can't play outside and explore, they aren't made to do chores or learn how to fix things or do things for themselves, they aren't expected to get jobs until they become adults, they are coddled and not made to respect their elders, etc.
There is no way a coddled, protected from the world boy is going to grow up and know how to be a man.
FRICKIN' AMEN.
This is why I hope I end up with boys one day. I feel like I'd be much better at making sure my boy grew up to be a good mix bc I hate seeing these little boys being coddled in to pansies. "But he's my widdle boy" yea well in 20 years, he's gonna be a widdle man, still living in your basement.
ftcret
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ZARA
Registered User
That is awesome!! Grats to her!!
I won't let my son get a job right now. Bit of selfishness on my part but I'm mom and I'm paying the bills so I can make that call if I want. He works during the summer but not during school.
HollyRockJT
Jus Chillin...
:shrug: Usually I reel 'em in with promises of good home-cookin'
Then I set them to work!
I need some trim installed in the house!
How good is your cooking
lucky_bee
RBF expert
kept a job since I was 14, had honors classes all the way
both younger brothers got jobs at 16...one is at the Naval Academy right now, the other got a football scholarship, and still has a job.
Now, my mama definitely coddled them a little...but they certainly know how to function as real men today. And they got their big sis to tell them how to treat their ladies
Bah. As long as it's not major, like a marriage or something, it's even fun to wallow in a "broken" heart. I tend not to like guys who don't like me for very long. It's fun to chase after them, but if they give me too much runaround I lose interest. After I wallow for a bit, that is.
Why, Fabio??? Why don't you want me????
kwillia
n/a
I coddle my son to some extent too. There is nothing more precious than the mother/son bond. But we are also supposed to let them skin their knees and do things that may not be 100% safe, and they should be taught to pick their battles and defend themselves when necessary, they should be made to do chores and figure out how things work and how they break... etc.Now, my mama definitely coddled them a little...but they certainly know how to function as real men today. And they got their big sis to tell them how to treat their ladies
In general, our society frowns upon those things now... heck, there was even an attempt to put laws into place that would prevent kids from helping their parents out on a farm below the age of 14.