GWguy
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Pardon me, but is this where I sign up for the He man Woman Haters Club?
Yup! Except there's no sign-up. We don't have meetings, dues or charitable events. And you have to buy your own t-shirt.
Women Haters
- Thread starter tshowusa
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Yup! Except there's no sign-up. We don't have meetings, dues or charitable events. And you have to buy your own t-shirt.
See, now your "tooting" your own horn. Nobody cares that you started your own business and you "think your all that". I'm 43 and I don't have children because I chose to not have children. If that is the lifestyle some women choose, thats fine. If you honestly think some man is gonna bend down and your, you are so highly mistaken. There should be a mutual respect and just because you think your all of that, doesn't mean everybody else is going to as well.
I am all that.
You don't notice all those Red Corvettes out there.............
Seriously, I'll PM you a book title that covers Male Depression.
You claim you are all that then why do you have to go on a public forum to praise how great you are to a bunch of strangers?
Sure you are. That is why you have no man. No kids. No life! Your in a singles club and on line picking men up. Yea, girl you got it going on!
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ok, I went out on a date with someone from an online service. We chatted online and over the phone for about two weeks. We saw pictures of eachother and were ready to meet. He was 20 minutes late (strike one) then he didn't even dress to impress me (strike two). I'm not saying he had to be in a suit and tie, but jeans, teenies and a shirt that looked like he just worked out in it was not getting my attention. I, however went and got my hair cut, toes and nails manicured, waxed all that I needed to and actually put some real effort into it (because a classy women does that)
so....I went inside the restaurant, sat down, had a beer and waited on him to show up. Not to mention I drove 60 miles while he drove 20. Ok....so then we sit, and order. His phone rings (while I had enough sense to turn mine off, not wanting to be rude) ...he didn't answer it however, so I have to give him a point for that.
He wanted to know about previous relationships and if I was dating other people, ok...fine...I talked about that. I didn't really care about his previous relationships at this point. I haven't even decided if I'm totally interested yet. Then he gets that 'jealous' look on his face and ask if I had another date after his. good grief, I felt smothered all ready. I'm not the type of person who likes to feel smothered, so...I wasn't really comfortable with moving forward at this point, but ...he started talking about his home life and how he and his sister were adopted and then he talked about his career, and he got my attention.
Then I told him that I see marriage as a 'business deal' in a sense. now, before you all chew my head off (yet again) I meant that in the sense that you have a contract based on trust (or covenant) and if you can't trust that person to handle the finances properly...the relationship is not going to work. I didn't mean for it to sound like I didn't have emotions and wouldn't love the person, but first things first. I do not think love is a feeling. It is a decision and my decisions are based on if I can trust the person or not AND a lot can be said about a person by the way they handle their money (security).
My 'love language' is security and time. I need to feel secure and I need time with the person.
Well, apparently his ex girlfriend said that same statement to him and he was bitter because she ran off with 'the rich guy down the street'. I'm not saying my man has to be rich, but I would like him to have VISION .....their is a difference. If he can visualize a future with me that will take up where we want to go and enjoy the journey to get there...then I'm in. What couple doesn't need more free time and more money to do things and provide for their family?
This guy totally cut me off as soon as he heard me say that and would not let me explain anything. He only heard what he wanted to and that was it. well, I pulled out my wallet to pay for my portion ....actually because I didn't know what to do at that point, but...I wanted to be fair and not make him feel like he was being taken advantage of. (because he vented all about how much he spent on the previous women and was not ever going to do that again)
what really made me mad after we finished eating, he asked if he could walk me out to my car. I said sure and then when leaving he tried to kiss me. what for? Our minds were both made up that this wasn't going anywhere. I didn't appreciate that he was trying to 'get some' by inviting back to his house and the fact that he works in Law enforcement made me even more mad.
ok, I went out on a date with someone from an online service. We chatted online and over the phone for about two weeks. We saw pictures of eachother and were ready to meet. He was 20 minutes late (strike one) then he didn't even dress to impress me (strike two). I'm not saying he had to be in a suit and tie, but jeans, teenies and a shirt that looked like he just worked out in it was not getting my attention. I, however went and got my hair cut, toes and nails manicured, waxed all that I needed to and actually put some real effort into it (because a classy women does that)
so....I went inside the restaurant, sat down, had a beer and waited on him to show up. Not to mention I drove 60 miles while he drove 20. Ok....so then we sit, and order. His phone rings (while I had enough sense to turn mine off, not wanting to be rude) ...he didn't answer it however, so I have to give him a point for that.
He wanted to know about previous relationships and if I was dating other people, ok...fine...I talked about that. I didn't really care about his previous relationships at this point. I haven't even decided if I'm totally interested yet. Then he gets that 'jealous' look on his face and ask if I had another date after his. good grief, I felt smothered all ready. I'm not the type of person who likes to feel smothered, so...I wasn't really comfortable with moving forward at this point, but ...he started talking about his home life and how he and his sister were adopted and then he talked about his career, and he got my attention.
Then I told him that I see marriage as a 'business deal' in a sense. now, before you all chew my head off (yet again) I meant that in the sense that you have a contract based on trust (or covenant) and if you can't trust that person to handle the finances properly...the relationship is not going to work. I didn't mean for it to sound like I didn't have emotions and wouldn't love the person, but first things first. I do not think love is a feeling. It is a decision and my decisions are based on if I can trust the person or not AND a lot can be said about a person by the way they handle their money (security).
My 'love language' is security and time. I need to feel secure and I need time with the person.
Well, apparently his ex girlfriend said that same statement to him and he was bitter because she ran off with 'the rich guy down the street'. I'm not saying my man has to be rich, but I would like him to have VISION .....their is a difference. If he can visualize a future with me that will take up where we want to go and enjoy the journey to get there...then I'm in. What couple doesn't need more free time and more money to do things and provide for their family?
This guy totally cut me off as soon as he heard me say that and would not let me explain anything. He only heard what he wanted to and that was it. well, I pulled out my wallet to pay for my portion ....actually because I didn't know what to do at that point, but...I wanted to be fair and not make him feel like he was being taken advantage of. (because he vented all about how much he spent on the previous women and was not ever going to do that again)
what really made me mad after we finished eating, he asked if he could walk me out to my car. I said sure and then when leaving he tried to kiss me. what for? Our minds were both made up that this wasn't going anywhere. I didn't appreciate that he was trying to 'get some' by inviting back to his house and the fact that he works in Law enforcement made me even more mad.
Having kids and a man doesn't necessarily mean you have a life. I am having fun and enjoying my time with my single's group. we go camping, skiing, concerts, museums, operas, boat cruises...we have a blast~ so I probably have more of a life then you, but whatever. And I enjoy meeting people online. I can't pick up my patients at work nucklehead.
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Kain99
Guest
You and I share the same vision.
I'm glad we share something positive ~
well? You have nothing to say ?
Having kids and a man doesn't necessarily mean you have a life. I am having fun and enjoying my time with my single's group. we go camping, skiing, concerts, museums, operas, boat cruises...we have a blast~ so I probably have more of a life then you, but whatever. And I enjoy meeting people online. I can't pick up my patients at work nucklehead.
Evidently you can't pick up those men at your singles group either, nor are you having much luck on-line. Seems to me, that you are searching for a man, but having no luck. Um.....how do you spell L O S E R?
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kris31280
Guest
Your entire date doesn't mean that the guy is a woman hater... it would just appear that something you said rubbed him the wrong way and you're obviously not compatible.
That being said... he is a guy, and if a guy thinks he can score then he's gonna try. You must've been giving off some skank vibes, because he was obviously not offended enough to not see you as a sex object.
I think you're pretentious and full of yourself, and that has a lot to do with why you're having issues in the relationship and dating realm. :shrug:
That being said... he is a guy, and if a guy thinks he can score then he's gonna try. You must've been giving off some skank vibes, because he was obviously not offended enough to not see you as a sex object.
I think you're pretentious and full of yourself, and that has a lot to do with why you're having issues in the relationship and dating realm. :shrug:
Queenofdenile1
Love is Blind
Wow, well first of all, he didn't have to put forth any effort, you did it all for him. You drove the furthest, spent more time on yourself, probably so you could have something to biatch about after the date. Classy? Let's see, obviously you know nothing about having a "man" pick you up at your home. If he was really that into you, he would have gone out of his way. Who paid for dinner? Did you pay or did he? You only mentioned that you pulled out your wallet to pay but never said that you did. You never said that both minds were made up that the relationship wasn't going anywhere. You disagreed on some issues but who doesn't. So, he tried to kiss you, big deal. You obviously didn't make it clear enough that you weren't as interested. Did you tell him at the end of your date that you felt this wasn't going to work out?
My next thing is...this is coming from the same person who not more than a week ago was crying the blues because she couldn't get over some guy that she hadn't seen in over a year. Plus dated someone else for almost year after him. This to me sounds like desperation. Sounds like you need time ALONE!!! Don't hand me the crap about singles clubs, hell, according to your STORY, you haven't had time for singles clubs between crying the blues about a guy from 2 years ago or a year ago, and internet dating. SOUNDS LIKE A LOT OF
to me.Also, from the way you sound, YOU ARE SERIOUSLY NOT ALL THAT and I firmly am starting to believe that you do need PSYCHIATRIC HELP!!
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kris31280
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Maybe she was in the singles clubs while she was still with the dude she dated for almost a year that was the stand in for the guy she really wanted :shrug:Wow, well first of all, he didn't have to put forth any effort, you did it all for him. You drove the furthest, spent more time on yourself, probably so you could have something to biatch about after the date. Classy? Let's see, obviously you know nothing about having a "man" pick you up at your home. If he was really that into you, he would have gone out of his way. Who paid for dinner? Did you pay or did he? You only mentioned that you pulled out your wallet to pay but never said that you did. You never said that both minds were made up that the relationship wasn't going anywhere. You disagreed on some issues but who doesn't. So, he tried to kiss you, big deal. You obviously didn't make it clear enough that you weren't as interested. Did you tell him at the end of your date that you felt this wasn't going to work out?
My next thing is...this is coming from the same person who not more than a week ago was crying the blues because she couldn't get over some guy that she hadn't seen in over a year. Plus dated someone else for almost year after him. This to me sounds like desperation. Sounds like you need time ALONE!!! Don't hand me the crap about singles clubs, hell, according to your STORY, you haven't had time for singles clubs between crying the blues about a guy from 2 years ago or a year ago, and internet dating. SOUNDS LIKE A LOT OF
Also, from the way you sound, YOU ARE SERIOUSLY NOT ALL THAT and I firmly am starting to believe that you do need PSYCHIATRIC HELP!!
I have two more dates this week ~ I'll let ya know how it goes @sshole
o well
aps45819
24/7 Single Dad
Maybe he wanted to see what got waxed :shrug:
Larry Gude
Strung Out
Look...
...presuming 1/2 her story is correct he had no business even attempting a kiss. That is boorish behavior and he knew damn well there was no 'there' there between them.
Skank vibes? Nice. He's gonna try because he's a guy, yet she must have been giving off skank vibes??? WTF?
Not offended enough to NOT see her as an object?
For crying out loud. If women rule the world it sure ain't because they had much to do to overcome the interpersonal brilliance of men.
...presuming 1/2 her story is correct he had no business even attempting a kiss. That is boorish behavior and he knew damn well there was no 'there' there between them.
Skank vibes? Nice. He's gonna try because he's a guy, yet she must have been giving off skank vibes??? WTF?
Not offended enough to NOT see her as an object?
For crying out loud. If women rule the world it sure ain't because they had much to do to overcome the interpersonal brilliance of men.
Wow, well first of all, he didn't have to put forth any effort, you did it all for him. You drove the furthest, spent more time on yourself, probably so you could have something to biatch about after the date. Classy? Let's see, obviously you know nothing about having a "man" pick you up at your home. If he was really that into you, he would have gone out of his way. Who paid for dinner? Did you pay or did he? You only mentioned that you pulled out your wallet to pay but never said that you did. You never said that both minds were made up that the relationship wasn't going anywhere. You disagreed on some issues but who doesn't. So, he tried to kiss you, big deal. You obviously didn't make it clear enough that you weren't as interested. Did you tell him at the end of your date that you felt this wasn't going to work out?
My next thing is...this is coming from the same person who not more than a week ago was crying the blues because she couldn't get over some guy that she hadn't seen in over a year. Plus dated someone else for almost year after him. This to me sounds like desperation. Sounds like you need time ALONE!!! Don't hand me the crap about singles clubs, hell, according to your STORY, you haven't had time for singles clubs between crying the blues about a guy from 2 years ago or a year ago, and internet dating. SOUNDS LIKE A LOT OF
Also, from the way you sound, YOU ARE SERIOUSLY NOT ALL THAT and I firmly am starting to believe that you do need PSYCHIATRIC HELP!!
well, no..he did pay for dinner and I've been friends with people from this single's group for over 10 years, smarties! ......do I have to explain every single word. and the guy from this date is still trying to text message me and call me. I'm just not interested. I think he's finally getting the hint to back off. The guy for the past year was on again off again because he has loose ends to tie up with his ex...because they have a five year old together but we still hang out from time to time. I do still miss my ex but I have to keep trying to move on. I'm not trying to get married soon, I just want to keep dating. maybe I should write a book. Why Men Love B@itches is so true! Sherry was right on in that book. o well, maybe I'll try to date someone from church again.....O' no! wait.....had flashback..........nevermind!
Wish God just threw them on your doorstep and said, "clean um' up and he's yours"
Have a good day!
...presuming 1/2 her story is correct he had no business even attempting a kiss. That is boorish behavior and he knew damn well there was no 'there' there between them.
Skank vibes? Nice. He's gonna try because he's a guy, yet she must have been giving off skank vibes??? WTF?
Not offended enough to NOT see her as an object?
For crying out loud. If women rule the world it sure ain't because they had much to do to overcome the interpersonal brilliance of men.
thank you ~