Well, I must say that this thread has been enlightening. You do realize, when you CHOOSE to dine out at a restaurant, you are removing the responsibility of setting your own table, rolling your silver, making sure that your environment is presentable, your salt and pepper are there, the menu is selectable, you don't have to go to the fridge or get up and cook or refill your drink.. You don't have to pick up crapass cheerios off of the floor or clean your plates and make two or three desserts or two plus kinds of cocktails or coffees and have one person wait on you hand and foot for the low low price of $2.13 an hour... No cooking, no kitchen knowledge, no dishes.
Unless you're an azzhole, you should realize that most of the restaurant folks are just trying to get by for various reasons. And don't give me the blanket answer of "find another job or quit b!tching" or pull a master and servant routine when it comes to GRATUITY - it doesn't sit well.