deadbeatdad
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raindrop said:
Really now. Do we believe in soul mates? Sorry, but I think there is no such thing. There are many people out there that you can have a lasting relationship with. Cosmic partners? No.
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Really now. Do we believe in soul mates? Sorry, but I think there is no such thing. There are many people out there that you can have a lasting relationship with. Cosmic partners? No.
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danceintherain said:
I'm soo sorry to hear this. You must feel completely devastated, not to mention he played you for a fool, not just to you but played you one in front of family and friends too. I'm soo very sorry to hear some azzhat did this to you.
I do have a question though... if you knew him and he knew you... why didn't he introduce his kids to you? I think in a healthy relationship he would want to introduce the kids to you, especially if things were progressing nicely and if it were me, I'd want to meet his kids or family or something? Just wondering.Eitherway, I'm soo very sorry to hear about this. It sounds quite traumatic, but there's more fish in the sea. It's his loss and I say good riddance to the jerk. Who knows what else he has been lying about... you may want to get a dr. check up or something. What a frick'n azzhole.
Well, no wonder you feel that way, considering your user name.deadbeatdad said:
I think you will be much better off in the long run. Last year I dated a guy for a couple of months. We were both recently separated well he told me every lie under the sun. he lied about what he did for a living, where he worked you name it he lied about it. I had a funny feeling he was lying but waited until I got proof. One day I saw a paper on the table that confirmed it. I walked out the door that night and would not answer his calls etc. I had already learned enough to know that if they lie don't waste your time finding out why just go. If you allow them to explain that means you are opening the door to forgiveness.
Also I do believe we have a soulmate out there for us. Whether we find them or not is the real challenge.
Also I do believe we have a soulmate out there for us. Whether we find them or not is the real challenge.
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Tigerlily said:
Sheeesh... you can say that again!!!
Dems is in too much of a hurry to read the whole post. Right Dems?aps45819 said:Pay attention
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aps45819 said:Pay attention
Well heck... their his kids, its then up to him to find away to come see his kids - irregardless of ex not being able to arrange her schedule. Its not the kids fault their mother can't get her crap straight... (as was his excuse).
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He was lying to her.
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2ndAmendment said:Dems is in too much of a hurry to read the whole post. Right Dems?
huh? I'm not in a hurry to post a right...
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2ndAmendment said:
I realize that
I'm just saying that shoudl have been a red flag...its different if it was his pet dog, cat or bird, but we are talking about his kids for shiat sake... weekend after weekend, after weekend, after weekend, after weekend, after weekend, same excuse... woudln't the father have been more inclined to say eff' it and bend his schedule to go see the kids? I'Their his KIDS - not his pets or plants or anything. Something would begin to smell fishy. :shrug: I've dated guys and was even engaged to a guy that had a kid, that's one of the first things discussed in a relationship, and if he'd told me the same excuse everyweekend and out and out saying he can't see his kid, I would be very concerned... I'm just saying from my point of a view (a girls point of view) I woudl have saw that as a big red flag and it would have alarmed me somewhat. ooooohhhh... never mind.. Why do I even try to explain.
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OK. Glad you took the time to explain. Your other posts sounded like you didn't get it.dems4me said:I realize that
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aps45819 said:
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Been that way for years.
hope you feel better soon.
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aps45819 said:
go play with your rainbows
Nickel
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Don't worry, most of us have been there. I was lucky enough (and I hope you are too), that I learned from my mistake (at a very young age) and never repeated it. From here on out, you know how to spot a loser, so don't let another one treat you that way. Don't spend your time looking for a soul mate, you'll be disappointed. A soul mate, in my opinion, may exist for you, but they may come in the form of your dog, or your mom, or your best friend: not necessarily your significant other. Instead, find someone that you get along with (and isn't shady) and build from there. And don't worry, you won't feel stupid forever. Sooner than you think, it'll be a distant memory that you can just laugh off.danceintherain said:
