flirting when married

[LadyWolf]

As was mentioned earlier in thie thread, some people are just flirty and nothing is meant by it thus there is coming on to people and just flirting; two TOTALLY different things.

I don't care...we can all argue this until everyone is blue in the face and you are beating your head against a wall. Usually w/flirting, there is some motive. Whether it's for personal satisfaction in knowing that someone is giving you attention and you haven't lost your touch or just to tick someone off. My guy friend has women flirting w/him. He will talk to them, but he's not initiating anything with them. He's not making googly eyes or over smiling at them or anything. Flirting and coming on to someone is the same thing. Flirting might be a little more discreet. Things like touching, eye contact, over smiling, innuendo, could be considered flirting. The only way to know if the person you are with is "flirting" is to KNOW the person your dating. If someone is just "flirty" then you don't need to be with that person. It is still an insult to the person your are dating. They need THAT MUCH ATTENTION and you are not enough for them. I had some woman come on to my male "friend" the other night in front of me and said to me "I WOULD DO HIM IF I WERE SINGLE". I was a bit offended since she didn't know me and she didn't know his and my relationship and clearly didn't care. She is married. However, she knew him and he didn't do anything to instigate the comment. Was I mad? No. I don't like it when someone flirts w/my boyfriend but as long as he doesn't flirt back, we're good!.

 

[LadyWolf]

So what if the other person was flirting with your Husband. Don't you trust HIM? So now it an argument, evaluation, divorce, break up what ever any body wants to call it.
Can't you Husband just glance have conversation etc with out being evaluated on wither or not the other person might be flirting. Isn't he with you. Isn't an insult to him that you don't trust his judgment not to go home with somebody else or have a quickie when you are not in site HMMMMMMMM

And did ever think woman like to get UNDER other woman skin by flirting with their Man. Or get a kick out of starting a an argument with you and your SO. No it never ever crossed a woman mind before to start trouble just for the fun of it

WTF? I think I'm exhausted just reading this!!! I never said anything of sort or implied anything that you just said. You clearly have no idea what I just said and haven't lived long enough to understand.

 

[LadyWolf]

You need to be more secure in your marriage.

I flirt all the time, but its going to be a damn cold day in a normally hot place before I act on it.
and my wife knows this.

The way I see it, if I find someone that is just so perfect that I cant keep my hands off of them, it must mean that I need to divorce my wife and move in with Ms. Perfect. I have yet to meet her. Dont expect I will.

besides, are you aware that not allowing your husband to flirt now and again will only cause him to become gay? its true, I read it on the internet.

Good luck with that whole idea and I'm not married. From reading this, I can understand why. I wouldn't want someone like you. Hope your Mrs. finds herself someone to flirt with...sounds like she needs too!!! Hey...if I were married and he needs to flirt, then he doesn't need to be with me. It's just that simple and I will not accept anything less. That isn't love. That is a marriage made in hell and I will not tolerate any man that needs to flirt. He will be kicked to the curb!!!

 

[FED_UP]

I don't care...we can all argue this until everyone is blue in the face and you are beating your head against a wall. Usually w/flirting, there is some motive. Whether it's for personal satisfaction in knowing that someone is giving you attention and you haven't lost your touch or just to tick someone off. My guy friend has women flirting w/him. He will talk to them, but he's not initiating anything with them. He's not making googly eyes or over smiling at them or anything. Flirting and coming on to someone is the same thing. Flirting might be a little more discreet. Things like touching, eye contact, over smiling, innuendo, could be considered flirting. The only way to know if the person you are with is "flirting" is to KNOW the person your dating. If someone is just "flirty" then you don't need to be with that person. It is still an insult to the person your are dating. They need THAT MUCH ATTENTION and you are not enough for them. I had some woman come on to my male "friend" the other night in front of me and said to me "I WOULD DO HIM IF I WERE SINGLE". I was a bit offended since she didn't know me and she didn't know his and my relationship and clearly didn't care. She is married. However, she knew him and he didn't do anything to instigate the comment. Was I mad? No. I don't like it when someone flirts w/my boyfriend but as long as he doesn't flirt back, we're good!.

She was just complimenting that you have a good looking man. Figure of speech, yea right I bet she would do him in a heart beat if he let her, married or not if she knew she could bet away with it Could have just been the alcohol talking, you know the song Blame it on the Al Al Al Alcohol

 

[Merlin99]

Good luck with that whole idea and I'm not married.
Expect to stay that way
From reading this, I can understand why.
We can understand why you're not married also
I wouldn't want someone like you.
I'll let BCP answer that himself, but I suspect he's not going to want you either.
Hope your Mrs. finds herself someone to flirt with...sounds like she needs too!!!
Don't think that's going to hurt his feelings to much
Hey...if I were married and he needs to flirt, then he doesn't need to be with me.
I think any man is going to feel the same way, doesn't need your drama
It's just that simple and I will not accept anything less.
I don't think you're going to get the choice, I think the first time you open your yapper to tell the guy your opinion of him talking to another lady, he's going to lose your number.
That isn't love. That is a marriage made in hell and I will not tolerate any man that needs to flirt.
If you show this attitude while dating, I don't think you'll ever get to the marrying stage.
He will be kicked to the curb!!!
I think you'll be the first one there

I don't think I've ever met someone who was so concerned with controlling someone else, you'd better find a little guy otherwise I foresee you getting an ass beating in the future.

 

[FED_UP]

I don't think I've ever met someone who was so concerned with controlling someone else, you'd better find a little guy otherwise I foresee you getting an ass beating in the future.

Ladywolf someon strongly disagrees with your comments, seems your going to stay single for life

 

[LadyWolf]

I don't think I've ever met someone who was so concerned with controlling someone else, you'd better find a little guy otherwise I foresee you getting an ass beating in the future.

It isn't about control you idiot. It's about respect for the other person. MORON!!! If a person REALLY has to flirt for attention....STAY SINGLE!! There is no point in being married or in a relationship if you have to flirt. Married people flirt with other people because they ARE MISERABLE IN THEIR MARRIAGE. For the record...that works both ways Bud! As for ass beatings, YEAH RIGHT!!! Trust me, no time for ass beatings..too busy kicking people to the curb!!!

 

[LadyWolf]

Ladywolf someon strongly disagrees with your comments, seems your going to stay single for life

Well, I have been known to be a flirt, and in a relationship... that would be one sure way I would stay single. No man would tolerate it. That is when the ass beatings would begin or I'd be kicked to the curb.

 

[libertytyranny]

It isn't about control you idiot. It's about respect for the other person. MORON!!! If a person REALLY has to flirt for attention....STAY SINGLE!! There is no point in being married or in a relationship if you have to flirt. Married people flirt with other people because they ARE MISERABLE IN THEIR MARRIAGE. For the record...that works both ways Bud! As for ass beatings, YEAH RIGHT!!! Trust me, no time for ass beatings..too busy kicking people to the curb!!!

People flirt because it is fun, relieves stress, and puts you in a good mood. It's not like they are getting a BJ in a men's bathroom. According to you, smiling back at someone is flirting...might as well go to lovedoll.com and get a detachable penis if you want a robot instead of a human being.

 

[nomoney]

Well, I have been known to be a flirt, and in a relationship... that would be one sure way I would stay single. No man would tolerate it. That is when the ass beatings would begin or I'd be kicked to the curb.

so you're saying a man should beat his woman for flirting?? Or are you saying you got your ass beat for flirting? I'm confused.

 

[Pete]

It isn't about control you idiot. It's about respect for the other person. MORON!!! If a person REALLY has to flirt for attention....STAY SINGLE!! There is no point in being married or in a relationship if you have to flirt. Married people flirt with other people because they ARE MISERABLE IN THEIR MARRIAGE. For the record...that works both ways Bud! As for ass beatings, YEAH RIGHT!!! Trust me, no time for ass beatings..too busy kicking people to the curb!!!

Mistress Wolf, I need discipline.

 

[LadyWolf]

She was just complimenting that you have a good looking man. Figure of speech, yea right I bet she would do him in a heart beat if he let her, married or not if she knew she could bet away with it Could have just been the alcohol talking, you know the song Blame it on the Al Al Al Alcohol

It was disrespectful to me but to him also. I'm sure he was flattered to know that some woman thinks he is attractive. However, I would no more walk up to some woman and say "If I were single, I'd do him". Unless I wanted my ass kicked, it is a disrespectful statement to make. I wonder how many women...seriously would tolerate another woman saying that about her husband or boyfriend. I wasn't terribly mad that she said it, but she was out of line.

 

[GWguy]

Well, I have been known to be a flirt, and in a relationship... that would be one sure way I would stay single. No man would tolerate it. That is when the ass beatings would begin or I'd be kicked to the curb.

Then you must be hanging out with some crappy, disrespectful, low-self-esteem, overly-jealous men to think that. You need to raise the bar on your selections.

 

[LadyWolf]

Mistress Wolf, I need discipline.

 

[LadyWolf]

Then you must be hanging out with some crappy, disrespectful, low-self-esteem, overly-jealous men to think that. You need to raise the bar on your selections.

That is raising the bar? Low-self-esteem? Disrespectful? Your kidding right? I think you have that ass-backwards. People w/low-self esteem and are disrespectful are the ones who flirt and tolerate people who do. This is and I know that you all aren't REALLY crazy, and find the need to . So have at it. I know I'm right and you can argue my point and it will not make a difference or change my mind.

 

[LadyWolf]

some just may want to say a simple Hey, how ya doin. or how are you doing. just wanted to say Hello, hope yr doin ok. It`s the manner in which it`s said, or taken/perceived/interpreted. imo it`s not a sin to have even distant friends. sometimes the anonymity allows 1 2 say things w/o any repercussions & direct involvement(?) or confrontation(s). same goes for foncalls or IM chat in a diff venue. that way no1 else can w/e interrupt. establish who is whom & what their status is. b smart b4 anything else.

bottom line, friends are allowed, doesn`t have to b taken always as a come on or hook up. some friends, so to say, 1 may trust more than others, unless compromised.

sincerity & trust can be learned just by listening. i do pay attn contrary to many ppls disbeliefs.

I agree!!!

 

[Cowgirl]

I agree!!!

Ladies and gents, I think we can say this thread is dead now. She agreed with Lance. There is no reasoning with her beyond this point.

 

[Gilligan]

Married people flirt with other people because they ARE MISERABLE IN THEIR MARRIAGE. !!

Interesting. My ex wife had a different take on flirting. She explained to me that it was 'just a part of who she was' and 'harmless'. I believed her. The married guy she eventually hooked up with..I'm guessing he must have taken her routine flirting just a bit too seriously?

 

[LadyWolf]

Ladies and gents, I think we can say this thread is dead now. She agreed with Lance. There is no reasoning with her beyond this point.

This thread was dead many posts ago!!! If you all honestly believe for 2 seconds that flirting is innocent and okay...I can see why many of you are divorced and on 2nd, 3rd + marriages. Now that's FUNNY!!

 

[LadyWolf]

Interesting. My ex wife had a different take on flirting. She explained to me that it was 'just a part of who she was' and 'harmless'. I believed her. The married guy she eventually hooked up with..I'm guessing he must have taken her routine flirting just a bit too seriously?

I'm sorry for your bad experience, but THANK YOU...I REST MY CASE!!! It just proves that there is more to flirting.