If A Guy Knows How To Cook

[DEEKAYPEE8569]

What kind of psycho shows up at someone else's house, invites himself in, and then cooks? There are many ways to make this work, but they require advanced communication. When you call her you can say "hey, what do you think about me bringing some stuff over and I cook for you?" You can pick her up and take her to your place to cook, depending on how long you've been dating and a variety of other factors. But you don't just show up at someone else's house and expect her to be willing to let you walk in with the food you picked up! What if she isn't sure she wants to invite you in? What if she didn't clean up around the house? There are way too many possibilities.

Any time you think you're making a big romantic gesture that you consider "unique", especially early in the dating process, it's probably something she'll consider creepy. So you can tell that to whoever came up with that relationship-ending idea.

".....is that an alternative to going out? Say you thought he was taking you out somewhere one night, but instead he shows up at your door with a bag of groceries and heads toward the kitchen....."

For those that read their own ideas into my initial post Beta, THIS is what it was really about.

THIS is what I'm talkin' 'bout:
You are in a monogomous relationship, but you're not married; not living together.....yet.

(Where you goons came up with the 'just show up' part, I don't know. Paragraph 1 in this reply makes NO inference of just showing up at a strangers door and just walking in and cooking. That is all in YOUR heads.)

I say again, you are in a monogomous relationship, but you're not married; not living together.....yet. You and your S/O have discussed dinner plans but have yet to reach a mutual decision on someplace to go.

So, thinking that cooking for her; as would be my case; is a novel idea; go to the store, find something that can be prepared from scratch, but relatively easy. Then knock on the door and say, 'How 'bout we stay IN tonight?' 'I've got a couple steaks, a bottle of wine; whaddya say?"
If the answer is anything but affirmative, then you either put everything in the fridge, or back in your car, then continue the 'where to go for dinner' discussion.

This IS NOT just inviting yourself to a random stranger's place to just go into the kitchen and start cooking. Where y'all came up with that, I don't know.

 

[Toxick]

I always offer it as an option well beforehand. Surprises of this type are risky.

I know right!??




Women!

You try to do something spontaneous and romantic - like have a nice dinner prepared for your girlfriend when she gets home - and she's all "Who are you! How did you get in my house?

 

[Bann]

If it is a first date or early in the dating process and you hardly know each other I think that is just plain creepy. If you've established a solid dating relationship then you wouldn't need to ask us this question... so again... creepy.

Are we dating or married?

Dating - if he asked me out, he'd better take me out. If he wants to cook, he should invite me over and cook at his house. He better not be coming to my house, making a mess in my kitchen, burning up my frying pan and leave me dirty dishes to wash and expect anything.

Married - TY sweet baby Jesus for saving my soul from cooking every damn meal every damn day of the week.

Both my sons were in HS when I started into the dating world. I didn't mix the 2 worlds except on a couple of occasions. Surprising me that way would have been awkward for Thing1 & Thing2 & unwelcome at the least for me.

 

[DEEKAYPEE8569]

I know right!??




Women!

You try to do something spontaneous and romantic - like have a nice dinner prepared for your girlfriend when she gets home - and she's all "Who are you! How did you get in my house?

Does she have amnesia; or a lousy short-term memory?

 

[kwillia]

".....is that an alternative to going out? Say you thought he was taking you out somewhere one night, but instead he shows up at your door with a bag of groceries and heads toward the kitchen....."

This IS NOT just inviting yourself to a random stranger's place to just go into the kitchen and start cooking. Where y'all came up with that, I don't know.

I think the majority of us did get your original point and almost all of us are advising you to let your know your plans to cook at her house and don't just show up with groceries and surprise her with your idea.

 

[warneckutz]

I think the majority of us did get your original point.

DesperateDeeKay

 

[DEEKAYPEE8569]

I think the majority of us did get your original point and almost all of us are advising you to let your know your plans to cook at her house and don't just show up with groceries and surprise her with your idea.

Thus my statement about not being able to decide where to go for dinner.
During that indecisive conversation, just say something like, 'Well, I've got an idea, don't rush off.' Then when you knock on the door, you have the fixin's for a nice at-home-just-the-two-of-us dinner.

 

[Cheeky1]

In most of the occurances, me cooking dinner is a last resort due to my wife not cooking for whateve reason. She always has thought of my cooking as an edible, last case resort.

I've never taken a lot of time to learn how to cook, so :shrug:

Some day I'll have the time and freedom to learn how to cook. I like to cook and enjoy the result.

On the few occasions when my wife has enjoyed my cooking, I know this - I feel and she's and then and then



...man, I really do want to learn how to cook

 

[Dye Tied]

Thus my statement about not being able to decide where to go for dinner.
During that indecisive conversation, just say something like, 'Well, I've got an idea, don't rush off.' Then when you knock on the door, you have the fixin's for a nice at-home-just-the-two-of-us dinner.

Don't forget the Skyy.

 

[DEEKAYPEE8569]

DesperateDeeKay

How is a hypothetical situation "desperate"? I didn't start this tred by asking anyone here if I could do this for them.

 

[Bann]

Thus my statement about not being able to decide where to go for dinner.
During that indecisive conversation, just say something like, 'Well, I've got an idea, don't rush off.' Then when you knock on the door, you have the fixin's for a nice at-home-just-the-two-of-us dinner.

That's not how you presented the original post.

 

[kwillia]

Thus my statement about not being able to decide where to go for dinner.
During that indecisive conversation, just say something like, 'Well, I've got an idea, don't rush off.' Then when you knock on the door, you have the fixin's for a nice at-home-just-the-two-of-us dinner.

Well, how about simply offering to cook dinner at her place and see what she says? Why are you insisting it has to be a surprise in order for her to appreciate the gesture? What if she doesn't want you digging around in her drawers unexpectedly and would prefer a chance to decline?

 

[DEEKAYPEE8569]

Well, how about simply offering to cook dinner at her place and see what she says? Why are you insisting it has to be a surprise in order for her to appreciate the gesture? What if she doesn't want you digging around in her drawers unexpectedly and would prefer a chance to decline?

That's another way to go. It can also be an option that I may have failed to present.

 

[warneckutz]

How is a hypothetical situation "desperate"? I didn't start this tred by asking anyone here if I could do this for them.

You've got a few women telling you to NOT BE A CREEPER! So maybe you should try and hold off... at least till the 2nd date.

That's not how you presented the original post.

Well, how about simply offering to cook dinner at her place and see what she says? Why are you insisting it has to be a surprise in order for her to appreciate the gesture? What if she doesn't want you digging around in her drawers unexpectedly and would prefer a chance to decline?

 

[DEEKAYPEE8569]

That's not how you presented the original post.

I guess not. I just need to present a more airtight scenario; one that you guys can't read crap into.

 

[DEEKAYPEE8569]

You've got a few women telling you to NOT BE A CREEPER! So maybe you should try and hold off... at least till the 2nd date.

I'll do that

 

[kwillia]

I'll do that

So it was a first date you were talking about...

 

[DEEKAYPEE8569]

So it was a first date you were talking about...

Ehhhh.....no. I meant:
You are in a monogomous relationship, but you're not married; not living together.....yet. You and your S/O have discussed dinner plans but have yet to reach a mutual decision on someplace to go. So, thinking that cooking for her is a novel idea; go to the store, find something that can be prepared from scratch, but relatively easy. Then knock on the door and say, 'How 'bout we stay IN tonight?' 'I've got a couple steaks, a bottle of wine; whaddya say?"

 

[Misfit]

When we were dating we use to cook together. It was fun. We would flirt and talk dirty innuendo while preparing our meal. It was hot and sexy and

15 yrs later...we still do it...

I cooked bacon while naked once.







Mom's sewing circle liked it.

 

[Hank]

Thus my statement about not being able to decide where to go for dinner.
During that indecisive conversation, just say something like, 'Well, I've got an idea, don't rush off.' Then when you knock on the door, you have the fixin's for a nice at-home-just-the-two-of-us dinner.

Make sure you take her somewhere that will give her, her own tray. Sharing a tray sucks big time!