If A Guy Knows How To Cook

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One thing you should never do, so I've been informed, is to invite someone over to the guy's house if it's a first time and you've never met.

Do they consider that creepy? That's an understatement. The woman is fully expecting you to be a creeper, force her into your basement where you will do unspeakable things against her will.

An honest invite for drinks, dinner and a movie goes over like a lead balloon.
 
vraiblonde

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DEEKAYPEE8569 said:
Ehhhh.....no. I meant:
You are in a monogomous relationship, but you're not married; not living together.....yet. You and your S/O have discussed dinner plans but have yet to reach a mutual decision on someplace to go. So, thinking that cooking for her is a novel idea; go to the store, find something that can be prepared from scratch, but relatively easy. Then knock on the door and say, 'How 'bout we stay IN tonight?' 'I've got a couple steaks, a bottle of wine; whaddya say?"
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Well I'm glad you asked us about this. We certainly know your girlfriend better than you do.

So let me help:

Some women would love that; other women would not. Is she the kind of woman who would love that or not?
 
Merlin99

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ZARA said:
When we were dating we use to cook together. It was fun. We would flirt and talk dirty innuendo while preparing our meal. It was hot and sexy and :drool:

15 yrs later...we still do it...
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Can't stand anyone in the kitchen with me, I'm large, mobile, and like my knives very sharp.
 
DEEKAYPEE8569

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vraiblonde said:
Well I'm glad you asked us about this. We certainly know your girlfriend better than you do.

So let me help:

Some women would love that; other women would not. Is she the kind of woman who would love that or not?
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Yes

Edit: My initial post was a hypothetical BTW; a topic for discussion.
:snort: Guess it worked.
 
ZARA

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Dee, Vrai is right.

1. Give her notice a head of time so she can clean up if she needs too. Some women are funny about having anyone over if their house isn't in proper order.
2. Asking her or letting her know, "Well, since we can't decide how about I come over and cook for you?" is a great way to give her a chance to say no if she isn't comfortable with the idea. If you are a bad cook...DON'T DO IT.
3. A family oriented woman would love this idea. A woman that is not family oriented would not.

Exceptions:
If you have been dating for more than 2 months, spend a lot of time together, and have learned that she likes surprises, just showing up is a good idea. If she does not like surprises...very bad idea.

I would be thrilled if this happened, but I am very family oriented, love surprises, and I don't give a flying F* if my house is slightly out of order.
:buddies:
 
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DEEKAYPEE8569 said:
".....is that an alternative to going out? Say you thought he was taking you out somewhere one night, but instead he shows up at your door with a bag of groceries and heads toward the kitchen....."

For those that read their own ideas into my initial post Beta, THIS is what it was really about.

THIS is what I'm talkin' 'bout:
You are in a monogomous relationship, but you're not married; not living together.....yet.

(Where you goons came up with the 'just show up' part, I don't know. Paragraph 1 in this reply makes NO inference of just showing up at a strangers door and just walking in and cooking. That is all in YOUR heads.)

I say again, you are in a monogomous relationship, but you're not married; not living together.....yet. You and your S/O have discussed dinner plans but have yet to reach a mutual decision on someplace to go.

So, thinking that cooking for her; as would be my case; is a novel idea; go to the store, find something that can be prepared from scratch, but relatively easy. Then knock on the door and say, 'How 'bout we stay IN tonight?' 'I've got a couple steaks, a bottle of wine; whaddya say?"
If the answer is anything but affirmative, then you either put everything in the fridge, or back in your car, then continue the 'where to go for dinner' discussion.

This IS NOT just inviting yourself to a random stranger's place to just go into the kitchen and start cooking. Where y'all came up with that, I don't know.
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You never said what the situation was, so we had to infer what it might be. speaking of which, you are putting a spin on my scenario, because I never said that it was showing up "out of the blue." I assumed the situation was two people that were dating, not necessarily monogamous, and plans had been made to do dinner. When I said you "show up" at her door, that's what I'm referring to. When you "show up" at her door for said date. So perhaps you are thinking that we're assuming that this is a random dude that's dated her once and then mysteriously shows up at thin air at her house, but that's not what I inferred from it.

Let me say this so you can understand it better. When you just show up at a woman's house without telling her your specific intentions, even though you had agreed to go on a date that night, it is not OK to bring food along and ask to come in so you can cook.

Back to your extended explanation that I've quoted, if the answer is "anything but affirmative," you're still assuming that you can come inside and store your steaks and wine in her house while you go out for dinner. Your "back of the car" storage option isn't reasonable, because your date would feel bad if your steaks were ruined. But assuming she doesn't give a crap about your steaks and lets you store them in the back seat, there's still the possibility they can stink up the car while you're driving her home, which is also bad.

The rest, you can refer back to my first response without your poorly tinted reading glasses that you used to infer that I was inferring something incorrectly.

Short answer: CONFIRM YOUR PLANS FIRST if you want to bring food over and cook at her place. Capiche?
 
Dye Tied

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Beta said:
You never said what the situation was, so we had to infer what it might be. speaking of which, you are putting a spin on my scenario, because I never said that it was showing up "out of the blue." I assumed the situation was two people that were dating, not necessarily monogamous, and plans had been made to do dinner. When I said you "show up" at her door, that's what I'm referring to. When you "show up" at her door for said date. So perhaps you are thinking that we're assuming that this is a random dude that's dated her once and then mysteriously shows up at thin air at her house, but that's not what I inferred from it.

Let me say this so you can understand it better. When you just show up at a woman's house without telling her your specific intentions, even though you had agreed to go on a date that night, it is not OK to bring food along and ask to come in so you can cook.

Back to your extended explanation that I've quoted, if the answer is "anything but affirmative," you're still assuming that you can come inside and store your steaks and wine in her house while you go out for dinner. Your "back of the car" storage option isn't reasonable, because your date would feel bad if your steaks were ruined. But assuming she doesn't give a crap about your steaks and lets you store them in the back seat, there's still the possibility they can stink up the car while you're driving her home, which is also bad.

The rest, you can refer back to my first response without your poorly tinted reading glasses that you used to infer that I was inferring something incorrectly.

Short answer: CONFIRM YOUR PLANS FIRST if you want to bring food over and cook at her place. Capiche?
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Save your breath and fingers. His dates will never get this far. :huggy:
 
DEEKAYPEE8569

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Beta said:
You never said what the situation was, so we had to infer what it might be. speaking of which, you are putting a spin on my scenario, because I never said that it was showing up "out of the blue." I assumed the situation was two people that were dating, not necessarily monogamous, and plans had been made to do dinner. When I said you "show up" at her door, that's what I'm referring to. When you "show up" at her door for said date. So perhaps you are thinking that we're assuming that this is a random dude that's dated her once and then mysteriously shows up at thin air at her house, but that's not what I inferred from it.

Let me say this so you can understand it better. When you just show up at a woman's house without telling her your specific intentions, even though you had agreed to go on a date that night, it is not OK to bring food along and ask to come in so you can cook.

Back to your extended explanation that I've quoted, if the answer is "anything but affirmative," you're still assuming that you can come inside and store your steaks and wine in her house while you go out for dinner. Your "back of the car" storage option isn't reasonable, because your date would feel bad if your steaks were ruined. But assuming she doesn't give a crap about your steaks and lets you store them in the back seat, there's still the possibility they can stink up the car while you're driving her home, which is also bad.

The rest, you can refer back to my first response without your poorly tinted reading glasses that you used to infer that I was inferring something incorrectly.

Short answer: CONFIRM YOUR PLANS FIRST if you want to bring food over and cook at her place. Capiche?
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'kay.....
 
DEEKAYPEE8569

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Merlin99 said:
Can't stand anyone in the kitchen with me, I'm large, mobile, and like my knives very sharp.
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Heh,heh,heh.....that's not a noyf.....THAT's a noyf.....
 

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Dye Tied said:
Save your breath and fingers. His dates will never get this far. :huggy:
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:lol:

I have faith in all people. I'm convinced that he's probably not quite as odd/insane as he is online, and even if he is, there's an equally odd woman/man/goat out there that could let him get this far. I mean, there's someone for everyone. But that someone might bolt if he tried this. And he deserves happiness. :dance:

:popcorn:
 
Dye Tied

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Beta said:
:lol:

I have faith in all people. I'm convinced that he's probably not quite as odd/insane as he is online, and even if he is, there's an equally odd woman/man/goat out there that could let him get this far. I mean, there's someone for everyone. But that someone might bolt if he tried this. And he deserves happiness. :dance:

:popcorn:
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Beside observing him at events, I know a few people that work with him and observe what he does. While deserving happiness, his online persona is spot on. Maybe Mousebaby will oblige?
 
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Dye Tied said:
Beside observing him at events, I know a few people that work with him and observe what he does. While deserving happiness, his online persona is spot on. Maybe Mousebaby will oblige?
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I bet she'd oblige, but she might kick him out if he showed up with food like he's suggesting. but maybe she'd be ok if he brought cheese with the wine. :wahwah:
 
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