Just Got My Court Order

[LovingMother]

I don't know Brad either.

Good thing...

 

[sanchezf]

No. The biological mother and father and their income is the only thing that matters.

I didn't think so, Thank you

 

[aps45819]

I didn't think so, Thank you

that's all the court is concerned with

 

[Cowgirl]

that's all the court is concerned with

Yep...just another way for the evil ex to screw the 'non-custodial' parent.

 

[Gwydion]

Don't spread your legs if you cant PAY [for] the consequences.

Child support should be 50/50. The custodial parent gets to see the "loved" child all the time...why should (s)he pay less? Because (s)he has to drive and pick the kid up from school or drive to the soccer games? Its a kid. It is a privelage to have one. The non-custodial parent gets to sit at home and wonder what the kid is doing.

Sure there are some non-custodial parents who go out and party and "live the good life," but they shouldn't be parents in the first place.

People need to wisen up about who they screw around with. If it ain't gonna work for the rest of their lives then don't do it.

 

[Spudtrooper]

You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to Gwydion again.
I wanted to give you all the green karma in the world for that post! Well said!

 

[Dougstermd]

Don't spread your legs if you cant PAY [for] the consequences.

Child support should be 50/50. The custodial parent gets to see the "loved" child all the time...why should (s)he pay less? Because (s)he has to drive and pick the kid up from school or drive to the soccer games? Its a kid. It is a privelage to have one. The non-custodial parent gets to sit at home and wonder what the kid is doing.

Sure there are some non-custodial parents who go out and party and "live the good life," but they shouldn't be parents in the first place.

People need to wisen up about who they screw around with. If it ain't gonna work for the rest of their lives then don't do it.

thanks for your support but the Mrs. and I were together 17 years who can see that shiat comming:smack

BTW I read the case law that the judge cited about my impovormishment and believe she totally ree wrote it to meet her agenda. the case law totally supports my version of what happened.

So hey Dad I need a loan of a couple of K!!!!

 

[sweetpea]

thanks for your support but the Mrs. and I were together 17 years who can see that shiat comming:smack

BTW I read the case law that the judge cited about my impovormishment and believe she totally ree wrote it to meet her agenda. the case law totally supports my version of what happened.

So hey Dad I need a loan of a couple of K!!!!

 

[Ponytail]

Question: Say ex has her Mother and father living with her (who are both retired but have plenty of money) Does this come into play on household income? When trying to determine how much CS father should pay?

Until whoever she is living with, be it a new hubby, her mother/father, or whoever, legally adopts the child, the paternal parents are the only ones that will ever be considered in the courts eyes as being financially responsible.

 

[vraiblonde]

Because (s)he has to drive and pick the kid up from school or drive to the soccer games?

And gets to stay home from work when the child is sick, not to mention clean up the puke.
And gets to put up with the tantrums.
And gets to deal with school work.
And gets to forgo a social life because they can't afford a sitter.
And gets to do the laundry, cooking and cleaning for the child.

While NC is meeting friends after work for a drink, C is rushing to pick up Junior from daycare, then rushing home to start dinner. While NC is hanging out with friends on a Saturday night, C is home watching the Disney Channel.

Please don't minimize what responsible custodial parents do for their children. It's 24/7 and neverending.

 

[RoseRed]

And gets to stay home from work when the child is sick, not to mention clean up the puke.
And gets to put up with the tantrums.
And gets to deal with school work.
And gets to forgo a social life because they can't afford a sitter.
And gets to do the laundry, cooking and cleaning for the child.

While NC is meeting friends after work for a drink, C is rushing to pick up Junior from daycare, then rushing home to start dinner. While NC is hanging out with friends on a Saturday night, C is home watching the Disney Channel.

Please don't minimize what responsible custodial parents do for their children. It's 24/7 and neverending.

Thank you.

 

[Dougstermd]

But on another note how long did you go without paying CS and why wouldnt you pay it???? They are your children after all..... Sorry I just dont agree with a father not paying childsupport!!!

I have paid child support every month since i got seperated.

This summer i reduced the payments from $1400 to $700 cause that is what I can afford.

 

[aanderson]

And gets to stay home from work when the child is sick, not to mention clean up the puke.
And gets to put up with the tantrums.
And gets to deal with school work.
And gets to forgo a social life because they can't afford a sitter.
And gets to do the laundry, cooking and cleaning for the child.

While NC is meeting friends after work for a drink, C is rushing to pick up Junior from daycare, then rushing home to start dinner. While NC is hanging out with friends on a Saturday night, C is home watching the Disney Channel.

Please don't minimize what responsible custodial parents do for their children. It's 24/7 and neverending.

Thank you!

 

[citysherry]

I have paid child support every month since i got seperated.

This summer i reduced the payments from $1400 to $700 cause that is what I can afford.

But, can your child afford that?

 

[Dougstermd]

But, can your child afford that?

I guess that is why I am wasteing the money on an appeal so the courts can make that determination.

I have had to cut down on things like getting rid of my satelite tv.
probally have to get rid of Internet
maybe get rid of heat?

She makes more money than I do now and i know I could support the children on my wages so do not even act like I am hurting my children. That is the last thing I would ever do. If I am homeless tghen the children will not even be able to visit me everyother weekend.

Think about before you accuse me of somethin sinister

 

[aps45819]

But, can your child afford that?

What's more important, the money or a Dad?
If the extra $700 ment Doug working 2 jobs and living in a 1 bedroom crap hole apartment and not being able to EVER see his kids because he's working and doesn't have room for them to sleep over, wihich would you choose?

It pizzes me off when women treat guys like a sperm donating paycheck.

 

[Azzy]

probally have to get rid of Internet

the internet goes before the beer

 

[baswm]

Here is a good article: Child Custody: Where Men Hit a Glass Ceiling. A close look at child custody, examining how the courts and society's attitudes towards fathers almost guarantee that fathers will never be much more than a pocketbook to their ex-wives and girlfriends.

 

[Lugnut]

Here is a infuriating article: Child Custody: Where Men Hit a Glass Ceiling. A close look at child custody, examining how the courts and society's attitudes towards fathers almost guarantee that fathers will never be much more than a pocketbook to their ex-wives and girlfriends.

:fixed:

 

[Toxick]

While NC is meeting friends after work for a drink, C is rushing to pick up Junior from daycare, then rushing home to start dinner.

Negative: NC can no longer afford to meet friends after work for a drink.

All their beer money is going to C. So they're both probably going home to have dinner. C gets to cook a meatloaf and taters that they will eat with the kids. NC nukes a bowl of Raman noodles with spam-chunks and eats it while watching CSI reruns on Spike.

While NC is hanging out with friends on a Saturday night, C is home watching the Disney Channel.

Negative: NC Gets the kids on the weekends... at least they get them for JUST enough weekends out of the year that child support payments don't go down.


So C is the one hanging out with friends on Saturday night - using the beer money that NC would have had to go drinking with friends after work all week, but ended up paying out in "child support".

Please don't minimize what responsible custodial parents do for their children. It's 24/7 and neverending.

But feel free to minimize the suffering of non-custodial parents who don't get to see their children as often as they like, along with paying vast amounts of cash for their ex's various pasttimes.