Question for the men

[vraiblonde]

Yeah, cigar hanging out of the side of his mouth.

 

[Tonio]

This is the sort of thing women have a BF about. Is it worth divorcing your spouse because he watches football and doesn't take the trash out? NO! But it IS worth #####ing about.

If the guy uses the football game purely as an excuse to ignore the trash, and does that habitually, then there are deeper issues than just his preference for football. I suggest that an emotionally healthy husband would take the trash out as soon as the game goes to a commercial.

 

[PsyOps]

I know I'm late on this but:

This is a trap fellas. Don't answer.

DON'T ANSWER!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[kom526]

"Why can't he just take the fricken trash out??? Can he not see that it's obviously overflowing??"
"Jeez, maybe some all-important football game was on. You know how men can't possibly be disturbed while the game is on."
"Okay, but what about at commercial???"
"Obviously they want to use commercial time for game analysis Don't you know anything?"
"Arrrgggh!! I'm going to kill him!!!"

I fail to see the problem here.

HOLDING! HOLDING! Jeez, where'd these refs come from? Foot Locker?

 

[vraiblonde]

If I have a problem I either bring it up with that person, or completely let it go, because it's so trivial it isn't worth aggravating me.

How long has it been since you lived with a man?

 

[Larry Gude]

Men, V 1.3...

Larry: "My wife never helps around the house."

Anonymous #1: "yeah! Mine neither!"

Tonio: "My wife is perfect."

Annony #2: "Yep. Every time I can't find the remote she dusting or vacuuming or some such and just can't be bothered to help."

Larry: "Yeah, and whats with the TV. She's always gotta have that going on?"

#1 " Yep. Like clock work."

#2 "Never fails. The game coems on and NOW that needs to be cleaned. Dust, dust, dust..."

otter: "it's the ####ing pets...hair everywhere..."

Speedo: "Elaine can be such a #####."

Larry "I should be glad we don't have fake plants that need dusting 24/7..."

Annonymous #3 "Yeah! Least she could do is look for the remote while she's doing that, but nooooo..."

otter "Dog ate mine once..."

Larry "Right, so I'm like, "Dear, this is a big play! It's third and three and that kid was drafted specifically to pick up 3rd and threes, so, could you hold up a minute with the dusting?!"

#2 "Yeah! And then they get all pizzy "If you EVER want sex again I WILL have a clean house..."

Tonio: "My wife would never say that. If she did, I wouldn't talk about it."

#1 "Yeah! That's just rude. I never once tell her she can't have sex if I don't find the remote."

#3 "Rude. Just rude. He pick up the first down?"

Speedo "In fact, she cab be a hella beyotch..."

Larry "So, it's this ENOURMOUS deal, it has to be dusted RIGHT now and I'm just minding my own business, watching the game, out of her way..."

#2 "And they get all rude."

#3 "Where was the remote?"

otter "found it once in the cat box. The goddamn cat box under a little kitty sandy azz #### tower..."

#1 "No communication either. I got a beer. I got the game on. I'm sitting there. You guys are on the way over. Pizza's been called in. What else I gotta say?"

Larry "It's like you have actually spell it out or something..."

Tonio: "Do you think they can hear us?"

Bill "#### them..."

Larry "Only after the house is clean!"

#2 "Like, dear, it's SUNDAY, SUN-DAY. Right...hel-oooo"

#3 "Yeah, and no remote. Do you have to write it down or what?"

Larry "Then the dishawsher has to be run..."

otter "25 pet food bowls, gotta be clean, all the time..."

#2 "Yep. It's like, the other half of the sink has NOTHING in it and they HAVE to turn that on...and laundry. I still got them colored socks yet."

#1 "And the vaccuming cleaner. She just did that last week..."

Tonio "I'm feeling uncomforatable right now..."

Larry "And the week before that and the week before that..."

#3 "Hey! I didn't look in the sink? Maybe that's where the remote it!"

Speedo "My ##### wife probably put it there."

otter "dog did that once. Right in the toilet. Plop."

Same stuff, time and again. You just try and share feelings and cope.

 

[cattitude]

If the guy uses the football game purely as an excuse to ignore the trash, and does that habitually, then there are deeper issues than just his preference for football. I suggest that an emotionally healthy husband would take the trash out as soon as the game goes to a commercial.

Deeper issues because he doesn't take the trash out? You HAVE got to be kidding? I guess all these years I've been in a house full of unstable men.

 

[kwillia]

Okay. I see what you are saying. However, I don't find that worth biyatching about. :shrug: If I have a problem I either bring it up with that person, or completely let it go, because it's so trivial it isn't worth aggravating me.

Let's say I am at "tonio's" house cause he's my man. He's watching tv, while I am cleaning up in the kitchen, putting away clean dishes, rinsing off the dirty ones, and I see the trash is overflowing. I look at it for a second or two and then pick up the trash, take it to the bin, and put in a new liner. Next time I see one of my friends I am not going to biyatch about taking out "Tonio's" trash while he was sitting in his recliner watching tv. I'm going to be talking about the fun and exciting things in my life and asking about the fun and exciting things in their life... :shrug:

I find it hard to believe you would be as tolerant after the first couple years or so of the same scenerio. We aren't talking once or twice or even the occurences over the course of a few months.

 

[cattitude]

Larry: "My wife never helps around the house."

Anonymous #1: "yeah! Mine neither!"

Tonio: "My wife is perfect."

Annony #2: "Yep. Every time I can't find the remote she dusting or vacuuming or some such and just can't be bothered to help."

Larry: "Yeah, and whats with the TV. She's always gotta have that going on?"

#1 " Yep. Like clock work."

#2 "Never fails. The game coems on and NOW that needs to be cleaned. Dust, dust, dust..."

otter: "it's the ####ing pets...hair everywhere..."

Speedo: "Elaine can be such a #####."

Larry "I should be glad we don't have fake plants that need dusting 24/7..."

Annonymous #3 "Yeah! Least she could do is look for the remote while she's doing that, but nooooo..."

otter "Dog ate mine once..."

Larry "Right, so I'm like, "Dear, this is a big play! It's third and three and that kid was drafted specifically to pick up 3rd and threes, so, could you hold up a minute with the dusting?!"

#2 "Yeah! And then they get all pizzy "If you EVER want sex again I WILL have a clean house..."

Tonio: "My wife would never say that. If she did, I wouldn't talk about it."

#1 "Yeah! That's just rude. I never once tell her she can't have sex if I don't find the remote."

#3 "Rude. Just rude. He pick up the first down?"

Speedo "In fact, she cab be a hella beyotch..."

Larry "So, it's this ENOURMOUS deal, it has to be dusted RIGHT now and I'm just minding my own business, watching the game, out of her way..."

#2 "And they get all rude."

#3 "Where was the remote?"

otter "found it once in the cat box. The goddamn cat box under a little kitty sandy azz #### tower..."

#1 "No communication either. I got a beer. I got the game on. I'm sitting there. You guys are on the way over. Pizza's been called in. What else I gotta say?"

Larry "It's like you have actually spell it out or something..."

Tonio: "Do you think they can hear us?"

Bill "#### them..."

Larry "Only after the house is clean!"

#2 "Like, dear, it's SUNDAY, SUN-DAY. Right...hel-oooo"

#3 "Yeah, and no remote. Do you have to write it down or what?"

Larry "Then the dishawsher has to be run..."

otter "25 pet food bowls, gotta be clean, all the time..."

#2 "Yep. It's like, the other half of the sink has NOTHING in it and they HAVE to turn that on...and laundry. I still got them colored socks yet."

#1 "And the vaccuming cleaner. She just did that last week..."

Tonio "I'm feeling uncomforatable right now..."

Larry "And the week before that and the week before that..."

#3 "Hey! I didn't look in the sink? Maybe that's where the remote it!"

Speedo "My ##### wife probably put it there."

otter "dog did that once. Right in the toilet. Plop."

Same stuff, time and again. You just try and share feelings and cope.

You know what, Otter loves his dogs more than he does me.

 

[vraiblonde]

If the guy uses the football game purely as an excuse to ignore the trash, and does that habitually, then there are deeper issues than just his preference for football. I suggest that an emotionally healthy husband would take the trash out as soon as the game goes to a commercial.

OMG!

If the guy uses a football game as an excuse to ignore the trash, it's because he's being LAZY, not because he has some deep psychological issue.

 

[mAlice]

I find it hard to believe you would be as tolerant after the first couple years or so of the same scenerio. We aren't talking once or twice or even the occurences over the course of a few months.

I don't find it hard to believe at all, 'cuz I'm the same way. I see no reason to moan and groan about a chore that I'm perfectly capable of doing myself...and he never asks me to mow the lawn.

 

[pixiegirl]

Here's how:


Let's say you and Chasey are having lunch, and in the course of conversation you mention that (whoever your boyfriend is) did something annoying or thoughtless. It wasn't a big enough deal to bring it up with him, you just wanted to vent a bit.

Chasey runs back and tells Day and Day runs and tells Boyfriend, who blows it out of proportion and rips your ass for you. Now what was harmless kvetching has become a fight, which the you (the original kvetcher) had hoped to avoid by not making an issue out of it with Boyfriend.

The BIL should have kept his mouth shut. And if he couldn't keep his mouth shut, his wife shouldn't have come and gossiped with you about it - she should have just said, "My my..." and forgotten it. When she ran to you blabbing, you should have taken it for what it was - guy talk and general complaining - and left it alone.

I guess I'm built differently if I have an issue big or small I bring it to the table. If it's enough that I feel I have to biatch about it than it's big enough to let him know it bothered me. People can let other people know something irritates them without it causing a fight. I believe in being direct. It keeps you out of trouble. And I refuse to play games.

 

[Chasey_Lane]

There's nothing worse than a man who biatches....

Yeah there is, his ex-wife who biatches!!!

 

[Tonio]

OMG!

If the guy uses a football game as an excuse to ignore the trash, it's because he's being LAZY, not because he has some deep psychological issue.

Let me clarify - I'm talking about when you have asked him to take out the trash when he has a chance. He's watching the game and says "I'll take care of it when they go to a commerical," but the trash is still sitting there at 7 p.m. The important part is when he does this habitually.

 

[kwillia]

I don't find it hard to believe at all, 'cuz I'm the same way. I see no reason to moan and groan about a chore that I'm perfectly capable of doing myself...and he never asks me to mow the lawn.

I don't think it has anything to do with being capable or not.

 

[pixiegirl]

Yeah there is, his ex-wife who is a raging biatch!!!

:fixed:

 

[Chasey_Lane]

:fixed:

 

[kwillia]

Yeah there is, his ex-wife who biatches!!!

GRAY KARMA.... INCOMING...........

 

[jetmonkey]

Little sister's husband calls her and spilled all the beans on everything both brother in laws had been biatching about all night.

'Tis no man. Arrrr.

 

[pixiegirl]

'Tis no man. Arrrr.

That's why in my very first post I said that they were just as bad if not worse than woman. Maybe I'm jaded from my experience there but I keep my trap shut about my other half unless it's something I'd say to him.