Shared Physical Custody

[MysticalMom]

I don't even feel like reading all these post. But that is a Fcuked up way to think. He's trying to be involved with his children and they probally enjoy talking with him. Do you want him to be a father or just an income supplement

Get 'em dad.

 

[Pete]

I don't even feel like reading all these post. But that is a Fcuked up way to think. He's trying to be involved with his children and they probally enjoy talking with him. Do you want him to be a father or just an income supplement

I doubt she is too busy or bothered to swing by the bank and deposit the check for Little Timmy's tuba lessons.

 

[Toxick]

Look, I could've taken him to court and fought for sole custody but I didn't because the children deserve to have a relationship with their father.

You're catching an attitude here.

Remember that YOU came in here asking for advice or validation, and it sounds like you're getting P.Oed because you're not getting the advice and validation that you wanted.

You are behaving unreasonably toward your children, your ex, and now us.

Unfortunately for me, on the days that I am trying to nurture my relationship with them, he calls.

Unfortunately for you? Nuff said.


He's their father.

The fact that you don't see a problem with that astounds me.

He's their FATHER

He's insecure and immature and tries to turn my quality time with my children into being all about him.

Based on your behavior thus far, I'm really doubting this. I believe that you believe it - but I don't think that's how it is.

If they aren't asking to talk to him, why can't I enjoy my time without the constant reminder that he is their father?

Because he is their FATHER.

Is that really too much to ask?

Yes.

As a matter of fact, it is.


You might find a sympathetic ear on JPCusick, but I doubt you'll get validation from anyone else. Your behavior is unreasonable, unfair, selfish and unjustified. Period.

Sorry if you don't like it - but that's the way it is.

 

[sushisamba]

No, I divorced him because of the same controlling issues he still has today.

I guess I'm the only person that thinks getting dinner done, homework done, baths done and spending 30 precious minutes of quality time with my children during the week takes priority over a call from a father who will be seeing his kids the next day.

 

[Pete]

No, I divorced him because of the same controlling issues he still has today.

I guess I'm the only person that thinks getting dinner done, homework done, baths done and spending 30 precious minutes of quality time with my children during the week takes priority over a call from a father who will be seeing his kids the next day.

You never watched "The Waltons" did you?

 

[RoseRed]

No, I divorced him because of the same controlling issues he still has today.

I guess I'm the only person that thinks getting dinner done, homework done, baths done and spending 30 precious minutes of quality time with my children during the week takes priority over a call from a father who will be seeing his kids the next day.

What world do you live in? You sound like the control freak, not him. What is a few minutes out of the day for the kids to talk to their father. Methinks you are mad because they get more attention than you do.

 

[Tigerlily]

No, I divorced him because of the same controlling issues he still has today.

I guess I'm the only person that thinks getting dinner done, homework done, baths done and spending 30 precious minutes of quality time with my children during the week takes priority over a call from a father who will be seeing his kids the next day.

I am sorry to say but you are coming across as trying to control the situation. This is not about you!! It's about what is best for your children.

 

[kwillia]

No, I divorced him because of the same controlling issues he still has today.

He only has control over you and your emotions if you LET him have control. Stop feeding it by playing games. If you would simply answer the phone, hand the phone to the kid and let the kid hang up when he/she is done you are only talking a few minutes out of the entire 24 hour day. I have talked to kids on the phone before... conversations are not that lengthy.

I guess I'm the only person that thinks getting dinner done, homework done, baths done and spending 30 precious minutes of quality time with my children during the week takes priority over a call from a father who will be seeing his kids the next day.

It is only a huge issue because you are letting it become a huge issue. You see it as a way that he is trying to "control" you and by fighting with him, you are letting him stay in control. Answer the phone, hand the phone to the kid, it will be over in a few minutes. Stop adding fuel to the fire.

 

[aps45819]

No, I divorced him because of the same controlling issues he still has today.

I guess I'm the only person that thinks getting dinner done, homework done, baths done and spending 30 precious minutes of quality time with my children during the week takes priority over a call from a father who will be seeing his kids the next day.

Nobody's saying you shouldn't be able to do those things. Why not arrange a time for him to call? 15 minutes before bedtime or something that on a set schedule.

 

[DoWhat]

No, I divorced him because of the same controlling issues he still has today.

I think you still have feelings towards him.
You don't want to speak to him or see him because it reminds you, when he used to bend you over and make you scream.
JMO

 

[bresamil]

He only has control over you and your emotions if you LET him have control. Stop feeding it by playing games. If you would simply answer the phone, hand the phone to the kid and let the kid hang up when he/she is done you are only talking a few minutes out of the entire 24 hour day. I have talked to kids on the phone before... conversations are not that lengthy.

It is only a huge issue because you are letting it become a huge issue. You see it as a way that he is trying to "control" you and by fighting with him, you are letting him stay in control. Answer the phone, hand the phone to the kid, it will be over in a few minutes. Stop adding fuel to the fire.

True words.

 

[RoseRed]

Nobody's saying you shouldn't be able to do those things. Why not arrange a time for him to call? 15 minutes before bedtime or something that on a set schedule.

Stop making perfect sense.

 

[Tigerlily]

Just a question? When the children go to him on his days do you not call them to see how their day went?

 

[sushisamba]

Nobody's saying you shouldn't be able to do those things. Why not arrange a time for him to call? 15 minutes before bedtime or something that on a set schedule.

This is the best advice I've heard. Thanks, aps.

 

[Tigerlily]

I think you still have feelings towards him.
You don't want to speak to him or see him because it reminds you, when he used to bend you over and make you scream.
JMO

No she's just mad because he didn't get her a Valentine's gift.

 

[MMDad]

Nobody's saying you shouldn't be able to do those things. Why not arrange a time for him to call? 15 minutes before bedtime or something that on a set schedule.

She's not looking for a solution, she's looking for us to tell here it's okay to act like a twelve year old when dealing with your kids.

 

[sushisamba]

Just a question? When the children go to him on his days do you not call them to see how their day went?

No, I typically call him the morning after his night and ask him how it went because that way we can also discuss school events and other activities.

 

[MDTerps]

http://forums.somd.com/showthread.php?t=68074

Or maybe she is just to busy with this and that's why she can't answer the phone when her ex calls to talk to the children.

 

[RoseRed]

No, I typically call him the morning after his night and ask him how it went because that way we can also discuss school events and other activities.

How does Dad feel about you calling and infringing upon his nurture time?

 

[onebdzee]

No, I typically call him the morning after his night and ask him how it went because that way we can also discuss school events and other activities.

It's ok for you to call him and disturb him when he might be doing something "important"(getting them ready for school, breakfast, etc)....but, it's not ok for him to do it?